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Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: gramma dishes
Date: February 7, 2019, 2:31 pm
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^^^ I'm puzzled. I've been to many Catholic funerals and there
has been no eulogy offered at any of them unless you count a few
nice things the priest himself said about the person. Or is
that what you meant? ???
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Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: Bada
Date: February 7, 2019, 2:48 pm
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> ^^^ I'm puzzled. I've been to many Catholic funerals and
there has been no eulogy offered at any of them unless you count
a few nice things the priest himself said about the person. Or
is that what you meant? ???
>
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I think they meant there must be a homily (setmon, said after
the Gospel), which is when the eulogy is usually given.
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Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: Hmmm
Date: February 7, 2019, 5:10 pm
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--- Quote from: gramma dishes link ---
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> ^^^ I'm puzzled. I've been to many Catholic funerals and
there has been no eulogy offered at any of them unless you count
a few nice things the priest himself said about the person. Or
is that what you meant? ???
>
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The last 2 Catholic funerals I attended had a friend speak after
the Prayer after Communion. I never knew that is was frowned
upon by the Catholic church until I just did a google search.
But it appears some diocese are allowing it on a case by case
basis but making it clear it is not part of the funeral mass.
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Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: wonderfullyanonymous
Date: February 8, 2019, 7:56 am
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Unless I missed it, I have seen dress, addressed. In my opinion,
Sunday best, in muted tones. Nothing to flashy or brightly
colored. Soft colors would be okay, as would pants instead of a
skirt or dress if you live where it's cold. Also, plan ahead for
a possible long service if you get stiff or sore from sitting
for so long and take some pain meds. Do what you are comfortable
with, with the standing, kneeling, sitting, praying.
They type of and length service is going to depend greatly on
how strictly the family follows Catholicism. I've been to
Catholic funerals for a friends family where it was pretty laid
back because the family member that passed wasn't following at
all, all though was brought up Catholic. Then there is my
extended family, who follows very strictly, and those services
can be very long. Followed by a graveside service, also.
Depending on how old the church is, there can be some amazing
architecture, don't be afraid to look around and take it in.
Cathedrals are simply amazing, especially if they have a pip
organ.
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Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: NFPwife
Date: February 8, 2019, 2:08 pm
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--- Quote from: Hmmm link ---
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> [quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=974.msg25474#msg25474
date=1549571519]
> ^^^ I'm puzzled. I've been to many Catholic funerals and
there has been no eulogy offered at any of them unless you count
a few nice things the priest himself said about the person. Or
is that what you meant? ???
>
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The last 2 Catholic funerals I attended had a friend speak after
the Prayer after Communion. I never knew that is was frowned
upon by the Catholic church until I just did a google search.
But it appears some diocese are allowing it on a case by case
basis but making it clear it is not part of the funeral mass.
[/quote]
The frowned upon part is that a Catholic funeral Mass is to pray
for the soul of the deceased. It's a theological difference
between Protestants and Catholics. Catholics believe that a soul
could be in purgatory and the offering of Masses and prayers
could help the soul to enter heaven. Protestants believe that
the soul is judged immediately after death and prayers for the
dead can be frowned upon. (Pres. Bush was criticized by some
Evangelicals for offering prayers for the deceased after the 911
attacks. They were quick to point out that prayers should only
be offered for the family left behind and victims who were
injured, but survived.)
Catholics don't typically eulogize the deceased (or frown upon
it) because it's seen as taking away from praying for the
person. I've also heard priests say that the person doing the
eulogizing will say, "S/he is in a better place," or "S/he is in
heaven now," and, while that can be comforting, it doesn't fit,
theologically, with the intent of the Mass or the Catholic
perspective that the matter of where a soul is after death is
between that soul and God. The priest will often talk about the
person's faith and his/ her works, but won't confirm final
resting place. Another reason not to eulogize in the Mass is
that friends and family can go a bit "off script" and share
embarrassing stories that aren't seen as appropriate to the
context/ place.
Generally, the eulogizing and story telling takes place at the
repast/ wake that follows the graveside service.
But... Catholics have attended other services over the years and
really like the eulogies given by friends and family and try to
incorporate them into the Mass. I've heard of that being met
with mixed results from priests. (Both from priests and people
who have requested.)
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