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Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: LadyRexall
Date: February 6, 2019, 4:30 pm
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I’m Protestant and my hubby is catholic. He’s always told me
it’s extremely rude and people would take note if I didn’t
kneel. I just follow along; stand, kneel, stand, sit, stand
stand stand! I don’t do the sign of the cross during praying or
do the rub forehead, lips, heart thing because I’m not catholic.
I don’t participate in communion or their Hail Marys (because I
don’t know them). Also, the lords prayer is s but different. In
my church we say the whole thing but in my husbands church only
the priest says the last two lines of: For thine is the kingdom,
The power, and the glory,
For ever and ever.
Amen.
Boy did I get looks when I tried saying the whole thing! Naughty
naughty heathen!!!!
#Post#: 25404--------------------------------------------------
Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: guest657
Date: February 6, 2019, 4:32 pm
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--- Quote from: LadyRexall link ---
>
> I’m Protestant and my hubby is catholic. He’s always told me
it’s extremely rude and people would take note if I didn’t
kneel. I just follow along; stand, kneel, stand, sit, stand
stand stand! I don’t do the sign of the cross during praying or
do the rub forehead, lips, heart thing because I’m not catholic.
I don’t participate in communion or their Hail Marys (because I
don’t know them). Also, the lords prayer is s but different. In
my church we say the whole thing but in my husbands church only
the priest says the last two lines. (Brain fart, moms a minister
and I just blanked on the lines. I’ll come back and add the
actual Line in)
>
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"for Thine is the kingdom and the power, etc."
#Post#: 25405--------------------------------------------------
Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: Rose Red
Date: February 6, 2019, 4:39 pm
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--- Quote from: LadyRexall link ---
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> I’m Protestant and my hubby is catholic. He’s always told me
it’s extremely rude and people would take note if I didn’t
kneel.
--- End Quote ---
I've only been to a few catholic church services but that's not
my experience at all! Especially for weddings and funerals where
the invited can be from all walks of life. Nobody blinked an eye
at those who didn't kneel. They are there to honor a person(s)
and not really "attending church" if that makes sense.
#Post#: 25407--------------------------------------------------
Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: katiekat2009
Date: February 6, 2019, 5:01 pm
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Thanks for all the replies and condolences. Just for the record,
we take Communion also in the Baptist faith and visitors and
children are not allowed to partake unless they have committed
their life to Christ. I went to a Catholic wedding once - same
girl whose father has recently passed. It was very different
from other weddings I have attended, as I didn't see many
references to the bride and groom. From what some of you have
said, the funeral may be the same? More ceremony and less
personalization?
I really, really wish I didn't have to go - it is a 3 hour drive
each way - but this cousin was a wonderful person and very good
to me. I feel I should pay this last honor to him.
#Post#: 25412--------------------------------------------------
Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: guest657
Date: February 6, 2019, 5:47 pm
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--- Quote from: katiekat2009 link ---
>
> Thanks for all the replies and condolences. Just for the
record, we take Communion also in the Baptist faith and visitors
and children are not allowed to partake unless they have
committed their life to Christ. I went to a Catholic wedding
once - same girl whose father has recently passed. It was very
different from other weddings I have attended, as I didn't see
many references to the bride and groom. From what some of you
have said, the funeral may be the same? More ceremony and less
personalization?
>
> I really, really wish I didn't have to go - it is a 3 hour
drive each way - but this cousin was a wonderful person and very
good to me. I feel I should pay this last honor to him.
>
--- End Quote ---
At the Catholic weddings and funerals I've been to, it was a lot
more liturgical than a Baptist service, but the priest did take
some time to give a personalized homily.
So that's probably going to depend on the priest. If it's the
same guy who did the wedding, you'll probably get the same type
of ritual. If he's been replaced or it's a different parish, it
might have more personal elements added in. They aren't going to
leave anything out or make any substantial changes to the
service, but there are places to include personal remembrances
if that's the priest's style.
#Post#: 25417--------------------------------------------------
Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: gramma dishes
Date: February 6, 2019, 7:15 pm
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--- Quote from: LadyRexall link ---
>
> I’m Protestant and my hubby is catholic. He’s always told me
it’s extremely rude and people would take note if I didn’t
kneel. I just follow along; stand, kneel, stand, sit, stand
stand stand! I don’t do the sign of the cross during praying or
do the rub forehead, lips, heart thing because I’m not catholic.
I don’t participate in communion or their Hail Marys (because I
don’t know them). Also, the lords prayer is s but different. In
my church we say the whole thing but in my husbands church only
the priest says the last two lines of: For thine is the kingdom,
> The power, and the glory,
> For ever and ever.
> Amen.
>
> Boy did I get looks when I tried saying the whole thing!
Naughty naughty heathen!!!!
>
--- End Quote ---
Some churches also use the words "Forgive us our trespasses as
we forgive those who trespass against us" while others say
"Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors." I always get
a little quiet until I know which version is going to show up.
#Post#: 25425--------------------------------------------------
Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: guest657
Date: February 6, 2019, 8:35 pm
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--- Quote from: gramma dishes link ---
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> [quote author=LadyRexall link=topic=974.msg25403#msg25403
date=1549492201]
> I’m Protestant and my hubby is catholic. He’s always told me
it’s extremely rude and people would take note if I didn’t
kneel. I just follow along; stand, kneel, stand, sit, stand
stand stand! I don’t do the sign of the cross during praying or
do the rub forehead, lips, heart thing because I’m not catholic.
I don’t participate in communion or their Hail Marys (because I
don’t know them). Also, the lords prayer is s but different. In
my church we say the whole thing but in my husbands church only
the priest says the last two lines of: For thine is the kingdom,
> The power, and the glory,
> For ever and ever.
> Amen.
>
> Boy did I get looks when I tried saying the whole thing!
Naughty naughty heathen!!!!
>
--- End Quote ---
Some churches also use the words "Forgive us our trespasses as
we forgive those who trespass against us" while others say
"Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors." I always get
a little quiet until I know which version is going to show up.
[/quote]
Oh, I have spent so much time asking forgiveness for my
tra-debts and det-passes. I guess I'm covered either way.
#Post#: 25468--------------------------------------------------
Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: Hmmm
Date: February 7, 2019, 2:08 pm
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As a Protestant I have attended many Catholic funerals. With the
kneeling, I normally just follow along unless there's lots of
other non-Catholics in attendance.
During Communion, the Priest will either invite everyone to come
forward and indicate non-Catholics cross their arms across their
chests to indicate they should only receive a blessing or you
may remain seated during Communion. If we are not going up,
we'll stream out of the pew with everyone else and then go
through the pew right ahead of us and return to our seats so
that people do not need to step over us as they leave the pew.
As far as personalization, that will depend. I've attended many
Catholic funerals where there was Eulogy's and it was very
personal and then followed by a full Mass. I've attended others
where it was more Mass and ceremony focused. Just like
Protestant, and Baptist, funerals, there are variations.
#Post#: 25470--------------------------------------------------
Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: camlan
Date: February 7, 2019, 2:17 pm
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--- Quote from: Rose Red link ---
>
> [quote author=LadyRexall link=topic=974.msg25403#msg25403
date=1549492201]
> I’m Protestant and my hubby is catholic. He’s always told me
it’s extremely rude and people would take note if I didn’t
kneel.
--- End Quote ---
I've only been to a few catholic church services but that's not
my experience at all! Especially for weddings and funerals where
the invited can be from all walks of life. Nobody blinked an eye
at those who didn't kneel. They are there to honor a person(s)
and not really "attending church" if that makes sense.
[/quote]
As a Catholic, there's always someone who isn't kneeling at
Mass. Sometimes it's me, if my bad knee is acting up and won't
bend. Or a non-Catholic spouse attending Mass. I'm surprised
anyone would think it rude.
As as others are saying, at weddings and funerals, there are
always non-Catholics present. Some are from faiths that do not
believe in kneeling. I would not expect them to kneel. (I was a
bridesmaid in a wedding once where this was an issue.)
#Post#: 25472--------------------------------------------------
Re: Need quick help regarding Catholic funeral
DIR By: camlan
Date: February 7, 2019, 2:23 pm
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--- Quote from: katiekat2009 link ---
>
> Thanks for all the replies and condolences. Just for the
record, we take Communion also in the Baptist faith and visitors
and children are not allowed to partake unless they have
committed their life to Christ. I went to a Catholic wedding
once - same girl whose father has recently passed. It was very
different from other weddings I have attended, as I didn't see
many references to the bride and groom. From what some of you
have said, the funeral may be the same? More ceremony and less
personalization?
>
> I really, really wish I didn't have to go - it is a 3 hour
drive each way - but this cousin was a wonderful person and very
good to me. I feel I should pay this last honor to him.
>
--- End Quote ---
Both weddings and funerals take place during the Mass. So all
the usual parts of a Catholic Mass--prayers, readings,
Communion--have to take place.Usually, the readings are chosen
to tie in with the reason for the Mass for weddings and
funerals.
For funerals, there has to be a eulogy--found that out when
Grandpa didn't want any eulogy, but the priest told us there had
to be one. It could be short, but it was necessary.
Different parishes handle things like this differently, as do
individual priests. Sometimes people are invited up to speak
about the deceased, sometimes not. It all depends.
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