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#Post#: 25115--------------------------------------------------
Re: RSVP date 3 months ahead
By: syfygeek Date: February 1, 2019, 2:17 pm
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[quote author=Jem link=topic=969.msg25112#msg25112
date=1549050053]
[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=969.msg25111#msg25111
date=1549049709]
[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=969.msg25109#msg25109
date=1549048544]
[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=969.msg25108#msg25108
date=1549048104]
... Seems like this couple hasn't heard of save the date cards,
which are perfectly fine 6 to 12 months in advance to make sure
people can plan accordingly.
[/quote]
But no matter what, the date is the important part and that has
to be right!
[/quote]
It used to be that no one put the date on the invitation at all.
Nowadays people often put it on because it becomes a
memento--and sometimes a way to remember when you (or the
couple) were actually married, as the years blur together.
[/quote]
I'm not saying you are wrong about the history (although I have
never heard of this), but all of the "hide the ball" etiquette
just seems so silly. Why would you not want to make it as simple
as possible for your guests to know where and when the event
will be? Same thing for registry information. We all know people
register, so why pretend they don't and create more work for
people to "discretely" ask? Makes me crazy!
[/quote]
My niece and her groom to be sent out invitations that had been
proofread by 3 people. Didn't list the time of the ceremony.
They all knew what time the ceremony was, so it didn't strike
them as missing.
#Post#: 25128--------------------------------------------------
Re: RSVP date 3 months ahead
By: Bada Date: February 1, 2019, 5:29 pm
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=969.msg25111#msg25111
date=1549049709]
[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=969.msg25109#msg25109
date=1549048544]
[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=969.msg25108#msg25108
date=1549048104]
... Seems like this couple hasn't heard of save the date cards,
which are perfectly fine 6 to 12 months in advance to make sure
people can plan accordingly.
[/quote]
But no matter what, the date is the important part and that has
to be right!
[/quote]
It used to be that no one put the date on the invitation at all.
Nowadays people often put it on because it becomes a
memento--and sometimes a way to remember when you (or the
couple) were actually married, as the years blur together.
[/quote]
By "date" do you mean "year"? Or do you mean month and day too?
I think you could easily turn an 8 into a 9 with whiteout. If
I'd sunk all that money into invites, I'd just do that.
#Post#: 25129--------------------------------------------------
Re: RSVP date 3 months ahead
By: Sycorax Date: February 1, 2019, 5:45 pm
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[quote author=Bada link=topic=969.msg25128#msg25128
date=1549063746]
[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=969.msg25111#msg25111
date=1549049709]
[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=969.msg25109#msg25109
date=1549048544]
[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=969.msg25108#msg25108
date=1549048104]
... Seems like this couple hasn't heard of save the date cards,
which are perfectly fine 6 to 12 months in advance to make sure
people can plan accordingly.
[/quote]
But no matter what, the date is the important part and that has
to be right!
[/quote]
It used to be that no one put the date on the invitation at all.
Nowadays people often put it on because it becomes a
memento--and sometimes a way to remember when you (or the
couple) were actually married, as the years blur together.
[/quote]
By "date" do you mean "year"? Or do you mean month and day too?
I think you could easily turn an 8 into a 9 with whiteout. If
I'd sunk all that money into invites, I'd just do that.
[/quote]
Whiteout may not look that good if the paper's something other
than flat white.
Depending on what they need reprinted, it may not be *that*
expensive. They don't need envelopes or thank you notes or
whatever else they might have ordered along with the
invitations. Admittedly, it's been a while, but the invitations
were not one of the more expensive purchases we made for our
wedding.
#Post#: 25131--------------------------------------------------
Re: RSVP date 3 months ahead
By: SioCat Date: February 1, 2019, 6:37 pm
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Is it a destination wedding? Will people need to travel to it?
#Post#: 25133--------------------------------------------------
Re: RSVP date 3 months ahead
By: Hanna Date: February 1, 2019, 7:08 pm
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Hard to fathom sending out invitations with the wrong date.
#Post#: 25136--------------------------------------------------
Re: RSVP date 3 months ahead
By: LadyRexall Date: February 1, 2019, 8:59 pm
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[quote author=Bada link=topic=969.msg25128#msg25128
date=1549063746]
[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=969.msg25111#msg25111
date=1549049709]
[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=969.msg25109#msg25109
date=1549048544]
[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=969.msg25108#msg25108
date=1549048104]
... Seems like this couple hasn't heard of save the date cards,
which are perfectly fine 6 to 12 months in advance to make sure
people can plan accordingly.
[/quote]
But no matter what, the date is the important part and that has
to be right!
[/quote]
It used to be that no one put the date on the invitation at all.
Nowadays people often put it on because it becomes a
memento--and sometimes a way to remember when you (or the
couple) were actually married, as the years blur together.
[/quote]
By "date" do you mean "year"? Or do you mean month and day too?
I think you could easily turn an 8 into a 9 with whiteout. If
I'd sunk all that money into invites, I'd just do that.
[/quote]
By date I mean the year. Whiteout won’t work as they have a dark
background and scenery in the invite. Whiteout would stick out.
It’s not a destination wedding, but loads of people are
travelling for it. It’s in the grooms hometown which is about 5
hours away from brides family and friends.
#Post#: 25143--------------------------------------------------
Re: RSVP date 3 months ahead
By: LifeOnPluto Date: February 1, 2019, 10:48 pm
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[quote author=Hanna link=topic=969.msg25133#msg25133
date=1549069729]
Hard to fathom sending out invitations with the wrong date.
[/quote]
I agree. The wrong year just makes things confusing for guests.
Did they create/print the invites themselves, or have them
professionally done? If the latter, I'm surprised the business
didn't double check this.
#Post#: 25146--------------------------------------------------
Re: RSVP date 3 months ahead
By: jpcher Date: February 2, 2019, 6:07 am
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[quote author=LifeOnPluto link=topic=969.msg25143#msg25143
date=1549082885]
[quote author=Hanna link=topic=969.msg25133#msg25133
date=1549069729]
Hard to fathom sending out invitations with the wrong date.
[/quote]
I agree. The wrong year just makes things confusing for guests.
Did they create/print the invites themselves, or have them
professionally done? If the latter, I'm surprised the business
didn't double check this.
[/quote]
Generally, in the printing world, the customer should have been
given a press-proof to sign off on, giving final approval to go
to press. If this did NOT happen then the onus is on the printer
and they should reprint the corrected invites with no charge.
I suppose the couple could include a hand written note of
apology "Please excuse the printing error on our invitation. In
order to avoid confusion the actual date is August XX, 2019, not
2018." or something like that. A bit tacky in my opinion, but so
much better than sending an invite with the wrong date.
Three months in advance? I agree, that's what save-the-date
notices are for. However this is not a huge faux pas in my book.
Plus the RSVP date is already printed on the invitation so if
they bowed to the etiquette norm they would have to have the
invites reprinted anyway. For the three months in advanced, I
would just call them clueless and let it go at that.
#Post#: 25151--------------------------------------------------
Re: RSVP date 3 months ahead
By: Bada Date: February 2, 2019, 8:01 am
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[quote author=LadyRexall link=topic=969.msg25136#msg25136
date=1549076351]
[quote author=Bada link=topic=969.msg25128#msg25128
date=1549063746]
[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=969.msg25111#msg25111
date=1549049709]
[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=969.msg25109#msg25109
date=1549048544]
[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=969.msg25108#msg25108
date=1549048104]
... Seems like this couple hasn't heard of save the date cards,
which are perfectly fine 6 to 12 months in advance to make sure
people can plan accordingly.
[/quote]
But no matter what, the date is the important part and that has
to be right!
[/quote]
It used to be that no one put the date on the invitation at all.
Nowadays people often put it on because it becomes a
memento--and sometimes a way to remember when you (or the
couple) were actually married, as the years blur together.
[/quote]
By "date" do you mean "year"? Or do you mean month and day too?
I think you could easily turn an 8 into a 9 with whiteout. If
I'd sunk all that money into invites, I'd just do that.
[/quote]
By date I mean the year. Whiteout won’t work as they have a dark
background and scenery in the invite. Whiteout would stick out.
It’s not a destination wedding, but loads of people are
travelling for it. It’s in the grooms hometown which is about 5
hours away from brides family and friends.
[/quote]
My question about "date" was actually meant for Toots, who said
it was traditional to not list a "date" on the invitation.
#Post#: 25153--------------------------------------------------
Re: RSVP date 3 months ahead
By: Aleko Date: February 2, 2019, 9:56 am
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[quote]My question about "date" was actually meant for Toots,
who said it was traditional to not list a "date" on the
invitation.[/quote]
I'd like to know the answer to that one too. I've never heard of
such a thing, and I can't even begin to imagine how it could
work. How can anyone possibly accept an invitation to an event
if it doesn't tell them what date the event is? Accepting in
those circumstances would amount to saying [quote]'No matter
when this event turns out to be, I'll cancel anything - be it
crucial surgery, my final university examination, heck, even my
own wedding - in order to be there'[/quote].
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