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       Re: OK just to have snacks?
       By: mime Date: January 6, 2019, 12:15 pm
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       [quote author=Hmmm link=topic=926.msg23401#msg23401
       date=1546728883]
       For a 1pm wedding that will have the reception over with by 6pm,
       I would just expect light snacks. I'm very capable of providing
       my own meal prior and being able to dress and arrive at location
       by 12:30 in time for the wedding. I honestly wouldn't want to be
       fed a lunch as I would assume that that meal probably wouldn't
       commence till 2pm and would prefer light snacks. My suggestion
       is to state on the invitation that "A cocktail and hor d'oeuvres
       reception to follow the ceremony". That way people can decide to
       have a hearty breakfast or a light lunch prior to arrival.
       I do agree with you that I would do at least 2 dinner plates per
       person and 2 dessert plates. I like the ones you've selected.
       Your event and menu sounds very nice.
       [/quote]
       I agree with this. A 1PM wedding means food wouldn't be much
       before 2. Lunchtime (around here, anyway) is between 11 and 1,
       which I'd get on the way to the wedding. 2PM is snack time as
       far as I'm concerned! Even with that, what you plan to serve
       sounds like a mid day meal.
       That said, there will certainly be people who try to turn a
       snack or lunch offering into their main meal for the day so you
       should be prepared for people being ready to eat an awful lot
       for 2PM, or to even skip a normal lunch in anticipation of being
       fed at your event. So, yeah, maybe add a bit of filler to your
       plan for those who are going to expect more.
       I'm sorry to hear about your 'bridal chest' getting lost! That
       must be disappointing. It sounds like you're planning a great
       day for you and your loved ones, and I'm sure the happiness of
       that day will more than compensate for the stuff that was lost!
       #Post#: 23430--------------------------------------------------
       Re: OK just to have snacks?
       By: Aleko Date: January 6, 2019, 1:22 pm
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       [quote] Lunchtime (around here, anyway) is between 11 and
       1[/quote]
       Wow. Where are you? This puts into perspective the thread in
       which a whole slew of American members said they wouldn't dream
       of having dinner later than 5.
       Here in the UK pretty much nobody eats lunch before 12 at
       earliest, and in fact except in the kind of factory-food places
       that serve all day, you just wouldn't be able to get lunch
       before 12. Workers normally take their lunch break between 12
       and 12, and 11 is traditionally the time for 'elevenses' - a
       mid-morning snack.
       Given that this is a board with international membership,
       perhaps we need to be more careful to mark our queries
       geographically. My response held good for a UK wedding - you
       could not  expect guests at a 1pm wedding to have had a decent
       lunch before the ceremony, and if you sent them away
       mid-afternoon with nothing but snacks they would not be happy -
       but clearly not for everywhere.
       #Post#: 23432--------------------------------------------------
       Re: OK just to have snacks?
       By: Rose Red Date: January 6, 2019, 1:34 pm
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       Americans (and I suspect other countries too, even the UK) work
       a variety of hours. If someone works an early shift and wake up
       at 5am, they'll probably eat lunch at 11am. For those who don't
       typically need to wake up until 10am, they probably won't eat
       lunch until 3 or 4pm.
       #Post#: 23459--------------------------------------------------
       Re: OK just to have snacks?
       By: DaDancingPsych Date: January 6, 2019, 7:09 pm
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       As a wedding guest, the most important thing to me is clarity in
       expectations. I have no problem with light snacks, but I want
       that spelled out on the invitation. Even if you were serving a
       fancy sit down dinner, I would want to know that. If I know what
       is happening, I can plan ahead. (Eat an early lunch. Carry a
       snack. Plan an early dinner on the way home.)
       Depending on the circumstances of your guests, the light snacks
       may be inconvenient. Some of my family lives two hours from
       home. If I was attending a 1pm wedding, I would aim to arrive at
       12:30pm, which means I am leaving home at 10:30am. I would not
       be eating just as I am walking out the door, because I would be
       in my good clothes, so you can see where a 10:00am "lunch" would
       probably not hold me over through the entire event. I would
       deal, but it would be less than ideal.
       Why do you only want to do the light snacks? If you are trying
       to keep people mingling, you can have a finger food reception
       where people are not seated in one spot. That does not mean that
       you do not have enough food for a meal, just that the food
       travels better. I actually enjoy these sort of parties.
       #Post#: 23467--------------------------------------------------
       Re: OK just to have snacks?
       By: Rho Date: January 6, 2019, 9:25 pm
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       White juice means a beverage for the children that is not red or
       purple to stain their good clothes.
       white grape juice
       apple juice
       #Post#: 23495--------------------------------------------------
       Re: OK just to have snacks?
       By: Hmmm Date: January 7, 2019, 10:24 am
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       [quote author=Aleko link=topic=926.msg23430#msg23430
       date=1546802529]
       [quote] Lunchtime (around here, anyway) is between 11 and
       1[/quote]
       Wow. Where are you? This puts into perspective the thread in
       which a whole slew of American members said they wouldn't dream
       of having dinner later than 5.
       Here in the UK pretty much nobody eats lunch before 12 at
       earliest, and in fact except in the kind of factory-food places
       that serve all day, you just wouldn't be able to get lunch
       before 12. Workers normally take their lunch break between 12
       and 12, and 11 is traditionally the time for 'elevenses' - a
       mid-morning snack.
       Given that this is a board with international membership,
       perhaps we need to be more careful to mark our queries
       geographically. My response held good for a UK wedding - you
       could not  expect guests at a 1pm wedding to have had a decent
       lunch before the ceremony, and if you sent them away
       mid-afternoon with nothing but snacks they would not be happy -
       but clearly not for everywhere.
       [/quote]
       Or mark our responses geographically. I love hearing differences
       in customs and would hate to loose that if someone said I'm
       having a Danish wedding implying they only wanted Danish
       responses.
       #Post#: 23503--------------------------------------------------
       Re: OK just to have snacks?
       By: Aleko Date: January 7, 2019, 12:03 pm
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       [quote]I love hearing differences in customs and would hate to
       loose that if someone said I'm having a Danish wedding implying
       they only wanted Danish responses.[/quote]
       Oh, absolutely, so would I. Nevertheless, if you don't say in
       your question that the wedding is to be in Denmark, you're going
       to get a lot of confusion from people saying 'but surely nobody
       does that?' E.g. this thread - here in the UK you absolutely
       could not invite people for a 1 pm wedding and not give them a
       proper meal (you wouldn't necessarily need to give them a a
       sit-down meal, but snacks would absolutely not do), whereas it
       appears that in the US you might.
       #Post#: 23505--------------------------------------------------
       Re: OK just to have snacks?
       By: Hanna Date: January 7, 2019, 12:45 pm
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       I would refer to most of the food the OP described as heavy
       appetizers rather than snacks. Snacks to me are pretzels and
       chips (or crisps!) or the mixed stuff you get in bars.
       And meatballs and Mac and cheese are more than snacks, right?
       Throw in bread to make a sandwich and that’s lunch.
       #Post#: 23507--------------------------------------------------
       Re: OK just to have snacks?
       By: Rose Red Date: January 7, 2019, 1:07 pm
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       [quote author=Hanna link=topic=926.msg23505#msg23505
       date=1546886726]
       I would refer to most of the food the OP described as heavy
       appetizers rather than snacks. Snacks to me are pretzels and
       chips (or crisps!) or the mixed stuff you get in bars.
       And meatballs and Mac and cheese are more than snacks, right?
       Throw in bread to make a sandwich and that’s lunch.
       [/quote]
       This is what I was thinking. The OP is planning a meal even
       though she called it snacks (perhaps because it's not a sit down
       meal?) But veggie, fruit, cheese, and shrimp platters,
       meatballs, and pasta is very filling as long as there's enough
       food to go around. Although I agree a bread basket is a good
       idea. Or maybe also add plain pasta so guests can make
       spaghetti/penne and meatballs.
       #Post#: 23511--------------------------------------------------
       Re: OK just to have snacks?
       By: Hmmm Date: January 7, 2019, 1:55 pm
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       [quote author=TeamBhakta link=topic=926.msg23350#msg23350
       date=1546666890]
       I would expect lunch & not just snacks at a 1 PM wedding,
       because I would be running around from 7 or 8 AM on getting
       ready. Also because I would probably arrive at the site at noon
       or earlier & not have time to get lunch prior to that.
       [/quote]
       Off topic, but I've been curious about this since I read it. Do
       you normally arrive at a wedding venue as a guest an hour or
       more before the ceremony starts? As  guest, I normally try to
       arrive between 20 to 30 minutes before the ceremony start time.
       I've been to many a weddings where the ushers were still doing
       photos up till a half hour before the ceremony.
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