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#Post#: 23345--------------------------------------------------
OK just to have snacks?
By: ctmichelle Date: January 4, 2019, 10:50 pm
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Hello again,
Last year I asked about wearing a dress I had bought doing a
previous relationship for my wedding that is coming up.
Unfortunately, that dress, along with a whole lot of other
wedding items I had in a cardboard box, sort of my 'hope chest'
was accidentally thrown away. I have managed to replace most
things, but I had $200 of crystal beads, along with the cutest
little birdcage veil in there.
However, my question today is, "Would you expect a meal, or just
snacks at a wedding that starts at 1 PM?"
We are expecting about 50 people, including 10 babies/children
and plan to have fruit and veggie and cheese platters,shrimp,
meatballs and mac and cheese in crockpots, and beer, wine, soda,
water and coffee/tea, along with the wedding cake. I want people
to mingle, don't worry, plenty of chairs to sit down, and just
don't like the idea of a plate being plunked down in front of
everyone and that is all there is to eat.
Another question, how many nice paper plates should we get for
the party? I have said at least 3 per person, approximately, and
he doesn't seem to get that people usually get a clean, new
plate when they go back for more food, especially when it may be
messy, veggie dip, cocktail sauce, etc.
I have read a lot of good information on this site and look
forward to hearing your replies.
ctmichelle
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Re: OK just to have snacks?
By: TeamBhakta Date: January 4, 2019, 11:41 pm
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I would expect lunch & not just snacks at a 1 PM wedding,
because I would be running around from 7 or 8 AM on getting
ready. Also because I would probably arrive at the site at noon
or earlier & not have time to get lunch prior to that.
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Re: OK just to have snacks?
By: Aleko Date: January 5, 2019, 2:42 am
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For any event taking place at 1 pm and lasting more than half an
hour, I would say that simple decency requires the host to
provide a proper lunch. Not necessarily a formal sit-down lunch,
not at all; a buffet is fine so long as it's proper sustaining
food. Doubly so when people have had to get dressed up smart and
may have had to travel a long way, and will have a long journey
home. If you don't give them lunch, they aren't going to get one
at all (unless you advise them on the invitation 'we aren't
giving you lunch: bring your own picnic or stop off for a burger
beforehand'!)
It's not hard to provide tasty substantial food for a buffet
lunch. Just do it, and cut out the small messy snacky bits like
veggies-and-dips. Hungry people trying to make a meal out of
carrot sticks and bean dip are not happy people. You don't want
people's strongest memory of your wedding to be 'and after the
reception we were still so hungry we had to stop at a MacDonalds
on the way home, still in our wedding outfits'.
As for paper plates: calculate how many you think you will need,
and double it. It's not as though they cost a lot or you'd never
find a use for them in your married life. This is definitely not
an area to cut corners in.
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Re: OK just to have snacks?
By: Hanna Date: January 5, 2019, 4:51 am
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Personally I’d love this but can understand some people might
want more. I think you could just add a variety of sandwiches to
your menu to cover any lunch expectations.
One option would be to have cold cuts, cheese and bread and let
people make their own. Sub rolls next to the meatballs, also. I
always make sure to have something substantial for any
vegetarians, also.
For plates: I had an event recently for 50 people. I bought 100
for food, 75 for dessert. We didn’t use nearly that many but I’m
glad we didn’t have to worry about running out.
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Re: OK just to have snacks?
By: gramma dishes Date: January 5, 2019, 8:48 am
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[quote author=ctmichelle link=topic=926.msg23345#msg23345
date=1546663818]
...
We ... plan to have fruit and veggie and cheese
platters,shrimp, meatballs and mac and cheese in crockpots, and
beer, wine, soda, water and coffee/tea, along with the wedding
cake. I want people to mingle, don't worry, plenty of chairs to
sit down, and just don't like the idea of a plate being plunked
down in front of everyone and that is all there is to eat.
...
[/quote]
I am (possibly mistakenly) under the impression that this is
going to be a fairly casual wedding as opposed to a very formal,
cathedral style event. Functioning under that assumption I'm
going to represent a different point of view.
As long as the wedding itself is not horribly long in duration
and it is in a relatively casual venue, as a guest -- especially
a guest with children in attendance -- I would personally LOVE
this! As long as the food was plentiful it is indeed a meal.
You have meat and seafood, fruits and vegetables, some starches
and dessert. Plus a variety of beverages . What more could
anyone want for a mid day meal?
As Hanna mentioned, you might want to consider adding a tray or
two of small Hawaiian roll size sandwiches, or provide a variety
of breads, cold cuts and loose veggies (tomato slices, etc.) for
those who want their food in larger doses.
But it sounds like a lot of fun and the kind of reception where
people can be super comfortable and mingle easily with each
other. I like all kinds of weddings, but the more relaxed and
casual ones are my favorites. So am I invited? ???;D
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Re: OK just to have snacks?
By: bigbadbetty Date: January 5, 2019, 9:18 am
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[quote author=Hanna link=topic=926.msg23356#msg23356
date=1546685470]
Personally I’d love this but can understand some people might
want more. I think you could just add a variety of sandwiches to
your menu to cover any lunch expectations.
One option would be to have cold cuts, cheese and bread and let
people make their own. Sub rolls next to the meatballs, also. I
always make sure to have something substantial for any
vegetarians, also.
For plates: I had an event recently for 50 people. I bought 100
for food, 75 for dessert. We didn’t use nearly that many but I’m
glad we didn’t have to worry about running out.
[/quote]
I think this is perfect. That change would make it a meal for
me. I honestly have never been to wedding without a meal. Some
were elegant multi-course meals; some were make your own
sandwiches with sides provided by Costco refrigerated section.
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Re: OK just to have snacks?
By: Rose Red Date: January 5, 2019, 9:25 am
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Your menu sounds good but maybe just one more dish? Mini sub
sandwiches or chicken wings? In my experience, those always get
gobbled up fast at buffet type events.
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Re: OK just to have snacks?
By: katiekat2009 Date: January 5, 2019, 9:28 am
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I think that cake and a few "niblets" are all that is required
(i.e. mints, wedding cookies, etc.), a more dessert type menu
along with drinks. Since the wedding starts at 1:00 pm, it is
reasonable that the reception won't be until 2:00 pm (after
photos). I think most people will eat lunch prior to the
ceremony.
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Re: OK just to have snacks?
By: Pattycake Date: January 5, 2019, 10:01 am
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[quote author=katiekat2009 link=topic=926.msg23368#msg23368
date=1546702112]
I think that cake and a few "niblets" are all that is required
(i.e. mints, wedding cookies, etc.), a more dessert type menu
along with drinks. Since the wedding starts at 1:00 pm, it is
reasonable that the reception won't be until 2:00 pm (after
photos). I think most people will eat lunch prior to the
ceremony.
[/quote]
I agree, but just a bit more than niblets! I think your menu
sounds great. I went to a summer wedding where the reception was
at about 2 pm, and they mostly had desserts and fruit and veggie
trays. The wedding had been in the morning, (her mother tried to
convince the bride to time things differently, but the bride
wouldn't change her mind!) and everyone had to go... where ever
(home, restaurant) to eat, then come back for the dessert
reception. If your wedding is at 1 and the reception soon after,
people will probably snack before the wedding so they won't be
starved, and your menu will be somewhat filling so everyone
should be satisfied afterwards. My only reservation would be
that mac & cheese and meatballs can be kind of messy. I would be
sure to have the sturdy paper plates, and at least some tables
for people like me who have trouble eating off their lap!
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Re: OK just to have snacks?
By: STiG Date: January 5, 2019, 10:42 am
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Friends had an evening wedding, after the dinner hour, and
served multiple appetizers. I see your event as very similar
and think your plans are fine, though I agree that adding some
sandwiches to the spread would satisfy those looking for
something more substantial.
Enough chairs for everyone, a few tables for those who need to
be seated at a table to eat and maybe a few stand-up tables if
you have them.
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