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The guests' dog's misdemeanour
By: Aleko Date: January 3, 2019, 7:05 am
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A diarist in The Times of London poses this dilemma in today's
paper:
[quote]"A couple came to our New Year’s Eve party with
their young whippet which we let wander the house, until my
husband came across it upstairs defecating upon a rug. Luckily
the turd was firm and left no mark, so he gingerly flushed it
down the loo. “I’m not going to tell them,” he
said. “It would spoil their evening.” But, I argued,
they need to know the limits of their pet’s housetraining.
What is the etiquette here?"[/quote]
For my money, I would certainly not tell them then and there -
which as the husband rightly said would ruin their evening, and
force them to try to insist on taking charge of the rug to be
cleaned, paying for it to be replaced, etc. But I do think I
would mention it to them a few days later, when I could
truthfully say that the rug had been dealt with and was all
fine, just to let them know that their puppy was not (yet) safe
to be allowed to wander round people's houses unsupervised.
What does everyone else think?
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Re: The guests' dog's misdemeanour
By: Jem Date: January 3, 2019, 9:39 am
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I would not allow someone else’s dog at my party, let alone to
wander about the house. I probably wouldn’t say anything now,
but next time the couple is invited over I would be clear that
the dog is not invited.
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Re: The guests' dog's misdemeanour
By: Luci Date: January 3, 2019, 10:15 am
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[quote author=Jem link=topic=920.msg23101#msg23101
date=1546529964]
I would not allow someone else’s dog at my party, let alone to
wander about the house. I probably wouldn’t say anything now,
but next time the couple is invited over I would be clear that
the dog is not invited.
[/quote]
That’s the way we live. DD and DS won’t let their dogs run loose
in a party if there are non family members there.
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Re: The guests' dog's misdemeanour
By: Kiwipinball Date: January 3, 2019, 10:23 am
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Yes, I would tell them. It's important for the owners to know.
Many years ago, my dog decided to mark my roommate's bath rug
(no idea why). She wasn't going to tell me - I happened upon her
while she was washing it in the laundry room. I appreciated her
not freaking out about it (even the best trained dog can have an
accident!) but did tell her to make sure to tell me in the
future if anything similar happened - I can't work on a behavior
I don't know about.
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Re: The guests' dog's misdemeanour
By: Chez Miriam Date: January 3, 2019, 10:39 am
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[quote author=Kiwipinball link=topic=920.msg23113#msg23113
date=1546532612]
Yes, I would tell them. It's important for the owners to know.
Many years ago, my dog decided to mark my roommate's bath rug
(no idea why). She wasn't going to tell me - I happened upon her
while she was washing it in the laundry room. I appreciated her
not freaking out about it (even the best trained dog can have an
accident!) but did tell her to make sure to tell me in the
future if anything similar happened - I can't work on a behavior
I don't know about.
[/quote]
Agreed that the owners should be informed, and I wouldn't allow
that dog free roam again until I was sure it was house-trained.
It's not like the time my cousin brought his dog, and he and his
wife just sat there while their dog peed on the carpet and Mum
and I rushed out to get cleaning products! No offers of help,
no apologies, certainly no cleaning up after their own dog. Odd
how that cousin has visited my home rarely?
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Re: The guests' dog's misdemeanour
By: STiG Date: January 3, 2019, 11:45 am
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I agree; bring it up after the party so they can work on the
behaviour. The fact that the dog is young does make a
difference to me as they are probably still in the training
process.
And then the hosts need to decide if the dog is welcome back,
and if so, how to partition off the house to keep the dog in
areas that are more easily cleaned. We do this with our own
dogs and never take them to someone's house unless expressly
invited. And even then, we usually only take one.
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Re: The guests' dog's misdemeanour
By: Hmmm Date: January 3, 2019, 12:26 pm
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I agree with your approach. I think it's wise to say later that
your DH had found evidence that the dog was not fully potty
trained and that they probably just want to be alert with
visiting others. I wouldn't mention he had found the issue
during the party.
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Re: The guests' dog's misdemeanour
By: TootsNYC Date: January 3, 2019, 8:48 pm
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I agree, the owners need to know, and I also agree that this
approach is the most effective.
Even if you were kind of mad and wanted an apology, you'd get
better results all the way around if you treat it as a friendly
head's-up. "I thought you would want to know for the future..."
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