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Help deciphering this card
By: SnappyLT Date: December 15, 2018, 9:31 am
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I am puzzled by an unusual-for-us card we received in the mail
yesterday. Please help me decipher it!
It is from a young couple who were married last month. The front
and back sides each have a different lovely wedding picture of
the bride and groom. Below the photo on the front is the
caption, "In all things, gratitude." On the reverse there is a
greeting "Best wishes from the Smiths" (not their real name). It
is very handsomely printed and looks quite elegant.
What is it?
Is it a non-specific thank you card after their wedding?
My wife and I were invited but chose not to attend their wedding
about 2,000 miles away from us last month. I had sent the couple
a handwritten letter politely declining but also thanking them
for their invitation and wishing them well. I did not send a
present. The groom's parents were good friends of mine in
college and we do exchange letters a few times each year, but I
simply did not feel moved to send a present to the groom and
bride.
So, since I didn't send a present, what the card about - if it
was, indeed, a type of non-specific thank you card?
Edited to add this question: Was I rude to not send a present? I
have read repeatedly that a wedding invitation is not a demand
or an invoice, and that a polite letter declining an invitation
is all that is "required".
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Re: Help deciphering this card
By: Pattycake Date: December 15, 2018, 9:48 am
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You are absolutely fine for not sending a gift.
The card, especially if it wasn't manually signed in ink,
probably is them being nice and sending a wedding photo to
everyone. I hope if it is also their thank you card that to
those who did send gifts they included a note!
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Re: Help deciphering this card
By: Celestia Date: December 15, 2018, 10:08 am
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Could also be their holiday card. I know it's pretty neutral but
this time of year, that's what I'd assume if I got a postcard
with a friend's photos on it.
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Re: Help deciphering this card
By: Thitpualso Date: December 15, 2018, 10:17 am
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If I read the OP correctly, a hand-written letter was sent with
the regrets. For many people, that would merit a TY card.
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Re: Help deciphering this card
By: Winterlight Date: December 15, 2018, 10:24 am
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It sounds like a holiday card to me. "Gratitude" in this context
could mean they're grateful for each other, or that they were
able to marry this year. I wouldn't stress about it.
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Re: Help deciphering this card
By: Rose Red Date: December 15, 2018, 10:37 am
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Sounds like like they killing two birds with one stone by
sending their wedding picture as holiday cards. Similar to what
Prince Harry and Megan Markle are doing :D
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Re: Help deciphering this card
By: lakey Date: December 15, 2018, 3:18 pm
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Since there is no mention of gifts, I would not assume that it
is a non-specific thank you. I suspect that it is a way for them
to share a couple of pictures of their wedding with you, which
seems pretty nice. You were fine to not attend the wedding and
not send a gift. Since you made the effort of writing a nice
letter, it was a good idea for them to respond to you in this
way.
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Re: Help deciphering this card
By: DaDancingPsych Date: December 17, 2018, 9:35 am
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Their intentions for the card do seem a bit fuzzy, but in your
situation, I see no etiquette error. I do not think that they
owed any sort of thank you (and no, you did not owe them any
sort of gift), so even if this was their wedding thank you
notes, I see no faux pas. (If you had sent a gift and they
included no personal note, then I would feel differently.) If
these are their holiday cards, that is cool, too. Other than an
interesting BMaB topic, I would not give this further thought.
:)
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Re: Help deciphering this card
By: kglory Date: January 3, 2019, 9:04 pm
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I wonder if it was a pre-printed thank you card, and they
handwrote "thank you for the gift of ___" or "thank you for
attending" on the back to most guests. But to you, since you
didn't give a gift or attend, they just sent the card as a
wedding picture.
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Re: Help deciphering this card
By: Rain Date: January 3, 2019, 10:53 pm
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There also used to be a custom in some areas of sending a
wedding announcement
My sister sent announcements out
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