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#Post#: 20260--------------------------------------------------
Gifts for new baby and toddler - should I also gift the older si
blings?
By: LifeOnPluto Date: November 29, 2018, 3:51 am
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Hi all,
I have a very good friend "Karen" who has four kids. Their ages
are 11, 8, 2 and a newborn. Because Karen and I live on opposite
sides of the country, I only get to see her every couple of
years. I haven't yet met her youngest two children, but I am
visiting my hometown over Christmas and will meet them for the
first time (yay!).
I intend to give the baby and 2-year-old gifts. But what about
the older children? I gave them both baby gifts when they were
born (as my visits back to my hometown coincided with their
babyhood), so I guess on one hand it's arguable that I don't
need to gift them now. And it's also a LOT easier (IMO anyway)
to buy presents for babies and toddlers. But older kids have
individual tastes and are somewhat harder to gift.
But on the other hand it might look a bit unkind rocking up with
presents for the younger two, but not for the older two - I
don't want them to feel left out, especially as it's probable
that their little siblings are currently sucking up most of
their parents' attention at the moment!
What do you guys think? Should I gift only Karen's younger two
kids? Or bring gifts for all four?
#Post#: 20265--------------------------------------------------
Re: Gifts for new baby and toddler - should I also gift the olde
r siblings?
By: Thitpualso Date: November 29, 2018, 6:06 am
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How about a compromise? Bring gifts for the two youngest and
offer to take the older two out for lunch?
#Post#: 20270--------------------------------------------------
Re: Gifts for new baby and toddler - should I also gift the olde
r siblings?
By: Rose Red Date: November 29, 2018, 6:57 am
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If it were me, I'd bring gifts for all four. For the older two,
it can even be simple gifts of t-shirts or hats from your state.
Just something so they don't feel ignored.
It would be different if you see them all the time but it sounds
like it's been years.
#Post#: 20285--------------------------------------------------
Re: Gifts for new baby and toddler - should I also gift the olde
r siblings?
By: Bada Date: November 29, 2018, 9:12 am
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Yes, bring for all 4! The older ones probably feel quite left
out already with two little ones around. The amount you spend
doesn't have to be the same, but they'll appreciate not being
left out. Besides, it's almost Christmas, which is a traditional
gift giving time. I think it would look a little odd to ignore
half the family.
On a related note, I've actually skipped giving Christmas gifts
to newborns and given their parents larger than usual gifts
instead (gift cards for dinner or for a cleaning lady). The
baby doesn't know she's being skipped (unlike the older kids)
#Post#: 20288--------------------------------------------------
Re: Gifts for new baby and toddler - should I also gift the olde
r siblings?
By: Rose Red Date: November 29, 2018, 9:17 am
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I already posted above, but since you don't know the likes and
dislikes of the older two, another gift idea are interesting/fun
banks. I got an animated bank when I was that age and loved it.
#Post#: 20293--------------------------------------------------
Re: Gifts for new baby and toddler - should I also gift the olde
r siblings?
By: Hmmm Date: November 29, 2018, 9:37 am
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To me, gifts for a newborn or 2 year old is more gifts for the
parents of the child. The 2 year old "might" open the gift but
really has very little concept of receiving from you. So if you
really just want to bring 2 gifts, I'd give them to your friend
and not to the children.
But I would probably bring gifts for the older ones anyway. If
they are girls, bath bombs are cheap and fun, or make your own
jewelry. Or you could get them a combined gift of a game. Some
suggestions are "Headbands", "Suspend", or "Blokus".
#Post#: 20308--------------------------------------------------
Re: Gifts for new baby and toddler - should I also gift the olde
r siblings?
By: iolaus Date: November 29, 2018, 12:04 pm
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As it's around the christmas period I'd probably buy the older
kids a selection box each
#Post#: 20312--------------------------------------------------
Re: Gifts for new baby and toddler - should I also gift the olde
r siblings?
By: gramma dishes Date: November 29, 2018, 12:59 pm
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If money is tight, get all the children token gifts. But never
leave a child out while others are receiving presents. That's
just mean. >:(
#Post#: 20323--------------------------------------------------
Re: Gifts for new baby and toddler - should I also gift the olde
r siblings?
By: Lilac Date: November 29, 2018, 4:14 pm
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If a choice must be made I'd err on the side of getting gifts
for the older kids and skipping the infant and toddler. They
won't know or care anyway, but the older children will always
remember when mom's old friend brought them a little
remembrance. I still have memories of being amazed when distant
adults thought enough of me to send or give me a little present.
Something like a cap or t-shirt or sweatshirt from your area's
college or pro teams, perhaps. Books? Easy craft kit -- bead
bracelets, perhaps? Or whatever currently is hot.
#Post#: 20328--------------------------------------------------
Re: Gifts for new baby and toddler - should I also gift the olde
r siblings?
By: Pattycake Date: November 29, 2018, 4:55 pm
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I agree with Gramma Dishes, to get the older kids token gifts.
Hmmm has a good point too, that the gifts that are for the
younger ones are really for the parents. A couple of times when
a baby was expected, I gave all the kids quilts if none of them
had a handmade quilt already. The older kids' were in honour of
their new baby sibling, and they all seemed to like that.
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