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Re: Hanukkah
By: lowspark Date: December 13, 2018, 9:30 am
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I'm Jewish and I receive holiday cards at this time of year from
friends. Some are very secular, some are very (Christian)
religious, and some are somewhere in between.
I love them all.
For me, it's all about the fact that a friend thought enough
about me to include me in their holiday greetings. Even the ones
that are clearly religious. I figure they picked out a card
which was most meaningful for them. I don't find it the least
bit offensive that they sent me a religious card as I'm 100%
sure it's just about their expression of love and friendship,
not about their trying to push their religion on me.
People often take offense where none was intended. If a friend
is sending me a card to wish me happiness, the last thing I'm
going to do is question their motives and take offense!
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Re: Hanukkah
By: Thitpualso Date: December 13, 2018, 10:49 am
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We usually send neutral ‘Seasons’s Greetings’ cards with a scene
like the Brooklyn Bridge or a snow scene in Prospect Park.
Because we write notes inside we can tailor the Greeting to the
recipient.
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Re: Hanukkah
By: Songbird Date: December 13, 2018, 3:08 pm
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[quote author=Thitpualso link=topic=836.msg21377#msg21377
date=1544719785]
We usually send neutral ‘Seasons’s Greetings’ cards with a scene
like the Brooklyn Bridge or a snow scene in Prospect Park.
Because we write notes inside we can tailor the Greeting to the
recipient.
[/quote]
perfect.
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Re: Hanukkah
By: GardenGal Date: December 13, 2018, 7:13 pm
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We're atheists, and we send out Winter Solstice cards (although
not many of them, only to people who sent us a card the previous
year or this year). I usually write a sentence or two on each
card for the people who write something on their cards, and, if
appropriate, I wish them a Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah, or
whatever. For those who only sign their names I don't write
anything but our names.
While we're happy to get cards, I am always mildly disappointed
when friends who know us well still send us very religious
cards. I guess they send the same card to everyone, but from
those folks who know we're atheists I'd much rather get a
non-religious card (or none at all) than one which is very
religious.
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Re: Hanukkah
By: TootsNYC Date: December 13, 2018, 9:50 pm
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[quote author=Songbird link=topic=836.msg20674#msg20674
date=1543928344]
So let me ask your opinions ...
My boyfriend’s best friend is on his annual rant about “why do
my relatives send me ‘Seasons Greetings’ cards instead of
Hanukkah cards when they know I’m Jewish?”
How do I politely cut off this rant without telling him he’s an
ungrateful wretch who should be glad someone took the time to
send him a card at all?
[/quote]
Tell him these:
(1) Hanukkah is a minor holiday, and to some Jews, it might not
really be "worthy" of a greeting card (for Christians, Christmas
is #2, usually--if they lump Good Friday and Easter together as
a unit). Hanukkah cards are not traditionally a thing.
(2) There is New Year's to wish him as well.
(3) They buy one card that works for him AND the other people
that they know without pushing a religious point of view on
those who don't celebrate it (i.e., it's not all about him).
(4) Winter is a significant time of year--it's cold, it gets
dark early, in some places it snows--and they are wishing him
well through it.
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Re: Hanukkah
By: Songbird Date: December 17, 2018, 9:20 am
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=836.msg21429#msg21429
date=1544759423]
[quote author=Songbird link=topic=836.msg20674#msg20674
date=1543928344]
So let me ask your opinions ...
My boyfriend’s best friend is on his annual rant about “why do
my relatives send me ‘Seasons Greetings’ cards instead of
Hanukkah cards when they know I’m Jewish?”
How do I politely cut off this rant without telling him he’s an
ungrateful wretch who should be glad someone took the time to
send him a card at all?
[/quote]
Tell him these:
(1) Hanukkah is a minor holiday, and to some Jews, it might not
really be "worthy" of a greeting card (for Christians, Christmas
is #2, usually--if they lump Good Friday and Easter together as
a unit). Hanukkah cards are not traditionally a thing.
(2) There is New Year's to wish him as well.
(3) They buy one card that works for him AND the other people
that they know without pushing a religious point of view on
those who don't celebrate it (i.e., it's not all about him).
(4) Winter is a significant time of year--it's cold, it gets
dark early, in some places it snows--and they are wishing him
well through it.
[/quote]
exactly.
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