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Re: Hanukkah
DIR By: lowspark
Date: December 13, 2018, 9:30 am
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I'm Jewish and I receive holiday cards at this time of year from
friends. Some are very secular, some are very (Christian)
religious, and some are somewhere in between.
I love them all.
For me, it's all about the fact that a friend thought enough
about me to include me in their holiday greetings. Even the ones
that are clearly religious. I figure they picked out a card
which was most meaningful for them. I don't find it the least
bit offensive that they sent me a religious card as I'm 100%
sure it's just about their expression of love and friendship,
not about their trying to push their religion on me.
People often take offense where none was intended. If a friend
is sending me a card to wish me happiness, the last thing I'm
going to do is question their motives and take offense!
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Re: Hanukkah
DIR By: Thitpualso
Date: December 13, 2018, 10:49 am
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We usually send neutral ‘Seasons’s Greetings’ cards with a scene
like the Brooklyn Bridge or a snow scene in Prospect Park.
Because we write notes inside we can tailor the Greeting to the
recipient.
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Re: Hanukkah
DIR By: Songbird
Date: December 13, 2018, 3:08 pm
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--- Quote from: Thitpualso link ---
>
> We usually send neutral ‘Seasons’s Greetings’ cards with a
scene like the Brooklyn Bridge or a snow scene in Prospect Park.
Because we write notes inside we can tailor the Greeting to the
recipient.
>
--- End Quote ---
perfect.
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Re: Hanukkah
DIR By: GardenGal
Date: December 13, 2018, 7:13 pm
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We're atheists, and we send out Winter Solstice cards (although
not many of them, only to people who sent us a card the previous
year or this year). I usually write a sentence or two on each
card for the people who write something on their cards, and, if
appropriate, I wish them a Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah, or
whatever. For those who only sign their names I don't write
anything but our names.
While we're happy to get cards, I am always mildly disappointed
when friends who know us well still send us very religious
cards. I guess they send the same card to everyone, but from
those folks who know we're atheists I'd much rather get a
non-religious card (or none at all) than one which is very
religious.
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Re: Hanukkah
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: December 13, 2018, 9:50 pm
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--- Quote from: Songbird link ---
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> So let me ask your opinions ...
>
> My boyfriend’s best friend is on his annual rant about “why do
my relatives send me ‘Seasons Greetings’ cards instead of
Hanukkah cards when they know I’m Jewish?”
>
>
> How do I politely cut off this rant without telling him he’s
an ungrateful wretch who should be glad someone took the time to
send him a card at all?
>
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Tell him these:
(1) Hanukkah is a minor holiday, and to some Jews, it might not
really be "worthy" of a greeting card (for Christians, Christmas
is #2, usually--if they lump Good Friday and Easter together as
a unit). Hanukkah cards are not traditionally a thing.
(2) There is New Year's to wish him as well.
(3) They buy one card that works for him AND the other people
that they know without pushing a religious point of view on
those who don't celebrate it (i.e., it's not all about him).
(4) Winter is a significant time of year--it's cold, it gets
dark early, in some places it snows--and they are wishing him
well through it.
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Re: Hanukkah
DIR By: Songbird
Date: December 17, 2018, 9:20 am
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--- Quote from: TootsNYC link ---
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> [quote author=Songbird link=topic=836.msg20674#msg20674
date=1543928344]
> So let me ask your opinions ...
>
> My boyfriend’s best friend is on his annual rant about “why do
my relatives send me ‘Seasons Greetings’ cards instead of
Hanukkah cards when they know I’m Jewish?”
>
>
> How do I politely cut off this rant without telling him he’s
an ungrateful wretch who should be glad someone took the time to
send him a card at all?
>
--- End Quote ---
Tell him these:
(1) Hanukkah is a minor holiday, and to some Jews, it might not
really be "worthy" of a greeting card (for Christians, Christmas
is #2, usually--if they lump Good Friday and Easter together as
a unit). Hanukkah cards are not traditionally a thing.
(2) There is New Year's to wish him as well.
(3) They buy one card that works for him AND the other people
that they know without pushing a religious point of view on
those who don't celebrate it (i.e., it's not all about him).
(4) Winter is a significant time of year--it's cold, it gets
dark early, in some places it snows--and they are wishing him
well through it.
[/quote]
exactly.
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