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Re: The nerve of some guests!
By: Lkdrymom Date: February 4, 2019, 4:30 pm
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Son had a destination wedding then a local party for friends and
family. Son is not close to all his cousins and was only going
to invite those he was close to. His aunt took it upon herself
to 'collect' everyone's addresses so they could receive their
invitations to the wedding. Very awkward position to leave the
bride and groom in. Her daughter asked her what she was
thinking and she said she was just so excited about the party.
Aunt never bothered to attend in the end.
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Re: The nerve of some guests!
By: Victoria Date: February 12, 2019, 9:03 am
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[quote author=baritone108 link=topic=829.msg24496#msg24496
date=1548210134]
I had something similar happen for Christmas with different
consequences.
Background: A few years ago I re-connected with my deceased
husband's stepson from his first marriage. Stepson (A) is 55
and I have known him since he was 11. When we re-connected he
had just come out of a period of homelessness and had very
little to his name. I am alone on Christmas Eve so I invited A
and his best friend B (both of whom are otherwise alone) for
dinner. The evening went well.
This past year I invited A and B and another friend from the
past we found, C, for Christmas Eve. About 1 week before A tell
me in a phone call that he has invited D to my house for
Christmas Eve. D is a new friend of A's who has also recently
been homeless and is alone. I was annoyed but didn't say
anything because there is room in my house and I don't think
anyone should have to be alone at Christmas. I bought some more
food and a small gift for D. [We would be exchanging gifts and
I never have a guest just sit and watch while we do this.] Then
on the 22nd, A calls to tell me that D won't be coming as he is
uncomfortable going to the home of someone he doesn't know. I
ended up with leftover expensive food I needn't have bought and
a gift that is still siting in my spare room.
This year I will be having a talk with A sometime around
September about asking me first before inviting anyone else to
my house for Christmas Eve.
[/quote]
We had a similar situation last Christmas. One of my cousins
(he's 58, he should have known better) invited his girlfriend to
our family's Christmas Eve celebration at the last minute, but
neglected to mention that we exchange gifts afterward. She was
suitably embarrassed and I overheard a snippet of their side
conversation in which she was expressing that she felt like she
was intruding and he should have told her, but my grandma
apparently had enough warning to wrap a small gift that
partially smoothed things over. My cousin's girlfriend was very
touched and appreciated the gesture, but I could tell she was
still a little uncomfortable, and my cousin should have known
better.
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Re: The nerve of some guests!
By: gmatoy Date: March 2, 2019, 2:55 pm
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[quote author=Victoria link=topic=829.msg25801#msg25801
date=1549983812]
[quote author=baritone108 link=topic=829.msg24496#msg24496
date=1548210134]
I had something similar happen for Christmas with different
consequences.
Background: A few years ago I re-connected with my deceased
husband's stepson from his first marriage. Stepson (A) is 55
and I have known him since he was 11. When we re-connected he
had just come out of a period of homelessness and had very
little to his name. I am alone on Christmas Eve so I invited A
and his best friend B (both of whom are otherwise alone) for
dinner. The evening went well.
This past year I invited A and B and another friend from the
past we found, C, for Christmas Eve. About 1 week before A tell
me in a phone call that he has invited D to my house for
Christmas Eve. D is a new friend of A's who has also recently
been homeless and is alone. I was annoyed but didn't say
anything because there is room in my house and I don't think
anyone should have to be alone at Christmas. I bought some more
food and a small gift for D. [We would be exchanging gifts and
I never have a guest just sit and watch while we do this.] Then
on the 22nd, A calls to tell me that D won't be coming as he is
uncomfortable going to the home of someone he doesn't know. I
ended up with leftover expensive food I needn't have bought and
a gift that is still siting in my spare room.
This year I will be having a talk with A sometime around
September about asking me first before inviting anyone else to
my house for Christmas Eve.
[/quote]
We had a similar situation last Christmas. One of my cousins
(he's 58, he should have known better) invited his girlfriend to
our family's Christmas Eve celebration at the last minute, but
neglected to mention that we exchange gifts afterward. She was
suitably embarrassed and I overheard a snippet of their side
conversation in which she was expressing that she felt like she
was intruding and he should have told her, but my grandma
apparently had enough warning to wrap a small gift that
partially smoothed things over. My cousin's girlfriend was very
touched and appreciated the gesture, but I could tell she was
still a little uncomfortable, and my cousin should have known
better.
[/quote]
Victoria, I keep a generic small gift, already wrapped, just in
case. It can fill in for a last minute birthday gift, also. I
never want to be without at least a token gift for someone. (My
mother did that also. )
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