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#Post#: 19372--------------------------------------------------
Happy Thanksgiving! Don't pass the rolls.
By: Kimberami Date: November 19, 2018, 5:02 pm
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I have very recently found out that I have an issue with wheat.
We will be having dinner with my extended family Thursday for US
Thanksgiving. I'm trying to decide if I should mention to my
hostess that I am unable to eat wheat. I do not expect her to
cater to my sudden issue. I'm fairly sure that stuffing and
desserts will be pushed on me. Whether I talk about my food
issues or not, I will refuse food politely. Food is a pretty
touchy subject in my family. I don't want to hurt any feelings
by refusing lovingly created dishes..especially considering that
the hostess' signature dish is a pie that will be off limits to
me. My current plan is to stick with what I know is okay, and I
will bring a compliant dish to share.
#Post#: 19375--------------------------------------------------
Re: Happy Thanksgiving! Don't pass the rolls.
By: Hmmm Date: November 19, 2018, 5:30 pm
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I wouldn't do an early warning. But if someone passes you a
wheat product and if questioned just go with a simple "I'm on a
low wheat diet to right now to see if it resolves my "????"
issue. There's plenting of non-wheat options for me to enjoy."
If pressed, just say "I'm not sure this will work for me, but
I'm following orders right now. If it does look like I need to
go wheat free, I'll let everyone know."
#Post#: 19378--------------------------------------------------
Re: Happy Thanksgiving! Don't pass the rolls.
By: Hanna Date: November 19, 2018, 6:20 pm
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[quote author=Kimpossible link=topic=822.msg19372#msg19372
date=1542668542]
I have very recently found out that I have an issue with wheat.
We will be having dinner with my extended family Thursday for US
Thanksgiving. I'm trying to decide if I should mention to my
hostess that I am unable to eat wheat. I do not expect her to
cater to my sudden issue. I'm fairly sure that stuffing and
desserts will be pushed on me. Whether I talk about my food
issues or not, I will refuse food politely. Food is a pretty
touchy subject in my family. I don't want to hurt any feelings
by refusing lovingly created dishes..especially considering that
the hostess' signature dish is a pie that will be off limits to
me. My current plan is to stick with what I know is okay, and I
will bring a compliant dish to share.
[/quote]
If I were your hostess I’d want to know ahead of time. But I’d
also understand if you didn’t want to mention it.
#Post#: 19380--------------------------------------------------
Re: Happy Thanksgiving! Don't pass the rolls.
By: STiG Date: November 19, 2018, 6:37 pm
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What about enlisting the hostess' help? Give her a call the day
before or the day of and let her know that you are under
doctor's orders to avoid wheat. That she could help you out by
just quietly bypassing you when wheat products are being passed
around and help head off intrusive questions. And not to worry;
you will have plenty to eat but you wanted her to know why you
wouldn't be having a slice of her delicious pie.
If I were your hostess, I'd be on board with this. Though I
would probably pull an extra pumpkin pie filling out of the
freezer and bake it in a dish to serve to you as just a custard,
no crust! :)
#Post#: 19381--------------------------------------------------
Re: Happy Thanksgiving! Don't pass the rolls.
By: Rain Date: November 19, 2018, 6:47 pm
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My two cents....As a hostess I always ask new people....if
someone developed allergies later I'd want to know before the
event
#Post#: 19393--------------------------------------------------
Re: Happy Thanksgiving! Don't pass the rolls.
By: lakey Date: November 19, 2018, 11:04 pm
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I think that telling the host that you are going wheat free will
make her feel like she should prepare special dishes, even if
you tell her not to. Most Thanksgiving meals have so many dishes
that you should still find plenty to eat. While you are eating
you can mention that you are going wheat free for medical
reasons and help yourself to turkey, cranberries, and potatoes.
I'm not sure what you mean about your family being touchy about
food. If you told them you were allergic to strawberries, they
wouldn't try to get you to eat them would they?
#Post#: 19403--------------------------------------------------
Re: Happy Thanksgiving! Don't pass the rolls.
By: Dazi Date: November 20, 2018, 6:39 am
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Honestly, it depends on how severe your issue with wheat is. I
have Celiac disease and it was an eye opening experience just
how many foods have wheat as hidden ingredients.
Also, if your hostess stuffs her bird, you won't be able to eat
any of the meat because of the basting. Then people toss
croutons in the salad, put fried onions in the green beans, and
every other side contains a wheat base. And suddenly, all you
can eat is mashed potatoes and cranberry sauce...
Having had this happen, you might either want to speak to the
hostess, bring a snack of some sort, or actually just bring your
own food.
#Post#: 19405--------------------------------------------------
Re: Happy Thanksgiving! Don't pass the rolls.
By: Jem Date: November 20, 2018, 7:42 am
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I wouldn’t go out if my way to say anything. I would only
mention it if someone said something to me about why I wasn’t
eating a particular dish. No one in my family has allergies or
food issues or is vegetarian or vegan.....but none of us would
even really notice who eats or does not eat what. I find it rude
to comment on what other people are or are not eating. If I were
the OP, and someone commented on what I was or was not eating, I
would probably smile big and say something pointed but light
like, “your interest in my eating habits is rather awkward,
don’t you think?” And then continue on as though nothing
happened.
#Post#: 19406--------------------------------------------------
Re: Happy Thanksgiving! Don't pass the rolls.
By: Kimberami Date: November 20, 2018, 7:54 am
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[quote author=lakey link=topic=822.msg19393#msg19393
date=1542690245]
I think that telling the host that you are going wheat free will
make her feel like she should prepare special dishes, even if
you tell her not to. Most Thanksgiving meals have so many dishes
that you should still find plenty to eat. While you are eating
you can mention that you are going wheat free for medical
reasons and help yourself to turkey, cranberries, and potatoes.
I'm not sure what you mean about your family being touchy about
food. If you told them you were allergic to strawberries, they
wouldn't try to get you to eat them would they?
[/quote]
In my family, food equals love. The women of the family are very
proud of the food that they serve.
I know for a fact that the hostess will not stuff the turkey, so
I think I'm okay there. I'm planning to bringing a sweet potato
casserole, and I know that I'll be able to eat that with no
issue.
#Post#: 19411--------------------------------------------------
Re: Happy Thanksgiving! Don't pass the rolls.
By: Jem Date: November 20, 2018, 8:24 am
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[quote author=Kimpossible link=topic=822.msg19406#msg19406
date=1542722061]
In my family, food equals love. The women of the family are very
proud of the food that they serve.
I know for a fact that the hostess will not stuff the turkey, so
I think I'm okay there. I'm planning to bringing a sweet potato
casserole, and I know that I'll be able to eat that with no
issue.
[/quote]
If someone says something to you about what you are or are not
eating, I would respond with, "I appreciate so much that you
lovingly made this food! It's a shame I am unable to enjoy it
today!" If they press the issue I would smile big and say, "I
know you mean well, but I still cannot eat this today!" And then
change the subject.
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