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Child Birthday Parties
By: kidsandme Date: November 7, 2018, 9:20 pm
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What is the etiquette in throwing a child's birthday party every
year.
Last year my child invited the whole class and about 8 kids
showed up. In return he was invited to about 5 parties, mostly
for kids that did not come to his party. About half of the
invites were whole class invites.
Again my child's birthday is coming up and we have not been
invited to any parties yet. Should we invite kids once again,
some are new kids that were not previously invited because of
classroom changes.
My main issue is I don't want it to seem like a gift grab even
though we will be having it at a party play place.
My second question is that at recess my child does not play with
some kids from his previous class about 4 or 5 kids that he used
to play with but still say hi to each other when they are seen.
Should these kids still be invited, I don't want them to feel
left out if they see the invites being passed out.
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Re: Child Birthday Parties
By: MOM21SON Date: November 7, 2018, 9:49 pm
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How old is your son?
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Re: Child Birthday Parties
By: Hazelthyme Date: November 8, 2018, 5:51 am
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Does your son want to invite the whole class, or would he be
just as happy with a smaller group?
I don’t think you have to invite the whole class, but I do like
the general rule that if you invite more than half, you should
think about inviting everyone so it’s not just 1 or 2 kids left
out. (Asking all the boys/all the girls is also reasonable, for
kids who mostly play in single-gender groups.) And if you’re
inviting some classmates but not others, it’s best to either
mail them, call the families, or find some other way to get the
info out that’s not so obvious at school. (My DD’s school used
to publish a directory, but I think that’s unusual — if so, you
can try to connect with the other parents at pick-up & drop-off
or contact the teacher to see if there’s a procedure for passing
out invitations.)
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Re: Child Birthday Parties
By: Jem Date: November 8, 2018, 6:33 am
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I think it depends on the kid, the age, and the time of year. My
daughter just turned ten October 1. Each year she has had a
different group of girls in her class, and there isn’t much time
to get invitations out, especially if I don’t have contact
information for the parents. What my daughter prefers is
inviting a handful of her actual friends, who may or may not be
in her class at school. It’s worked well because it is small
enough to not be exclusionary and my daughter actually enjoys
time with the people she invites.
Her friends do various things for parties, from something
similar to our invitation plan to inviting entire classes (both
boys and girls).
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Re: Child Birthday Parties
By: Runningstar Date: November 8, 2018, 7:09 am
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If you can afford it - invite all the boys in the class and
those kids he still is friendly with from the previous year!
Expect that there will be some no shows - but ask for rsvp's and
do contact the non-responsive ones if you possibly can.
I don't think that it is a gift grab, as the hurt feelings of
not being invited are what hurts seeing on your child. One of
my kids was the only one not invited to a huge party - and it
sucked. Good learning opportunity for those times where being
wishy washy over including some other kid happened and thinking
back to how that feels. If the parents can't afford a gift, or
someone doesn't want to come - they will say no. More likely
they will just not reply.
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Re: Child Birthday Parties
By: Rose Red Date: November 8, 2018, 10:08 am
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If it were me, I'd just invite my child's friends to a party and
not the whole class. Even small groups of 2 or 3 will have fun
if they are real friends and not just classmates. I can't
imagine wrangling an entire class, or worse, having my child's
heart break if he's anticipating a huge party and nobody shows
up.
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Re: Child Birthday Parties
By: bopper Date: November 8, 2018, 10:13 am
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In grade school, i would invite the whole class or invite just
the boys/girls.
Its not a gift grab...also there may be those kids without close
friends who get to attend a party.
I think 8-10 is a good number that actually show up!
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Re: Child Birthday Parties
By: Rose Red Date: November 8, 2018, 10:51 am
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[quote author=bopper link=topic=798.msg18558#msg18558
date=1541693587]
In grade school, i would invite the whole class or invite just
the boys/girls.
Its not a gift grab...also there may be those kids without close
friends who get to attend a party.
I think 8-10 is a good number that actually show up!
[/quote]
I didn't have any friends and there was no way I would attend a
party in fear of what may happen. But that's just my own
insecurities :P ::)
Anyway, if the OP want to invite the whole class plus a few
friends, I don't think anyone will see it as a gift grab either.
It's just how it's done for schools; I hear it's even a common
rule for classrooms.
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Re: Child Birthday Parties
By: lakey Date: November 8, 2018, 12:11 pm
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[quote]I think 8-10 is a good number that actually show
up![/quote]
The school where I taught had the "whole class has to be
invited" rule, if the invitations were passed out at school.
However, the reality is that the kids who attend are the kids
who are closest to the birthday child. Do you even want 22 kids
at the party? If it were me, I'd do the inviting away from
school, and invite the kids that your son actually plays with.
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Re: Child Birthday Parties
By: lakey Date: November 8, 2018, 3:05 pm
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If it's a bit unclear, I agree with the quote in my comment
above.
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