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#Post#: 17793--------------------------------------------------
Re: Meeting at lunch time and only providing for yourselves
DIR By: lmyrs
Date: October 31, 2018, 11:13 am
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> [quote author=Anon4Now link=topic=779.msg17701#msg17701
date=1540930655]
> The only scenario where I could possibly see this as not
rude, would be if the visitors had asked for an opportunity to
make a sales pitch to the company. If a vendor wants to come
pitch, they should be providing the lunch. If they don't, the
clients shouldn't have to sit there and be hungry.
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> But that doesn't sound like the situation here.
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But even then, the employees "receiving" the sales pitch
shouldn't be eating!
This is work, so they shouldn't need to count it as their lunch
hour; they can eat on their lunch time.
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That's not how a lot of places work.
#Post#: 17801--------------------------------------------------
Re: Meeting at lunch time and only providing for yourselves
DIR By: Hanna
Date: October 31, 2018, 11:44 am
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I was chuckling at the guy in the comments that kept insisting
that paying for lunch would be illegal and an abuse of company
resources. Also that no one in the world could afford to buy
lunch for anyone else, ever, period.
I've never been to a meeting scheduled over lunch hour where
food was not provided. Only if the meeting ended at 12:30 would
this happen where I work, and that’s very rare.
#Post#: 17809--------------------------------------------------
Re: Meeting at lunch time and only providing for yourselves
DIR By: HenrysMom
Date: October 31, 2018, 1:06 pm
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This is so terribly rude and I hope the visitors took their
business elsewhere. Expecting external clients to watch
employees eat without providing for them goes against every
notion of business etiquette.
When I worked for Evil Oil Company, we always catered for
lunchtime business meetings, both for internal and external
clients. The only time employees brought their own was at
informal training sessions where it was announced beforehand as
a “brown bag lunch.”
#Post#: 17854--------------------------------------------------
Re: Meeting at lunch time and only providing for yourselves
DIR By: LifeOnPluto
Date: November 1, 2018, 5:18 am
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It does seem rather odd to me, especially if this was a private
company (rather than a government organisation).
I could understand not providing lunch to the visitors (as
others have said, maybe this was a last minute meeting, or
perhaps the meeting was scheduled to finish at 1pm). But if does
seem "off" for the employees to just munch away on their food in
front of the visitors.
Bottom line for me - if it was a short-ish meeting (less than
one hour) the employees should have waited to have their lunch.
It it were a longer meeting, it would have been far politer for
the company to offer lunch to the visitors - or at least tell
them to "bring their own"!
#Post#: 17859--------------------------------------------------
Re: Meeting at lunch time and only providing for yourselves
DIR By: Aleko
Date: November 1, 2018, 6:54 am
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Possibly relevant: the NAW account says “A couple of Americans
set up a business meeting around noon with a couple of Persian
friends of mine", which to me implies that it was the Americans
who asked the Persian guys to come to their office, presumably
because they wanted to hear what they wanted to say and thought
they might do business. If so, they fouled up badly.
If it had been the other way round, and the Persians had been
pushing hard for an opportunity to present a proposal till the
Americans said, 'OK, we can spare half an hour next Wednesday
for you to try and convince us', I can see that they might feel
free to eat their lunch as they listened. It's a power thing,
conveying that they see these guys in effect as supplicants
rather than potential partners.
#Post#: 18954--------------------------------------------------
Re: Meeting at lunch time and only providing for yourselves
DIR By: bopper
Date: November 13, 2018, 4:22 pm
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Possible Scenario : Persian people want to do business with
Americans. Americans don't know if they want their services, but
agree to fit them in during lunch. Americans are the potential
customers...they would be in the position of power in this
situation and would not provide food to people who want their
business. Or any scenario where the Americans are doing the
Persians a favor by meeting with them.
If this was the not the case, then the Americans should had
arranged lunch for the Persians or the Persians could have asked
if they could order something.
#Post#: 19803--------------------------------------------------
Re: Meeting at lunch time and only providing for yourselves
DIR By: Dazi
Date: November 25, 2018, 5:56 am
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I'm from this part of the world and this story makes no sense to
me. Both people in the business world and private sector in this
area enjoy feeding people. It's part of the culture and a huge
insult and breach of etiquette not to offer food. And I mean
HUGE breach of etiquette.
IME, it doesn't matter where you are, where you go, when you
show up, even if you are invited, you are getting food. It's
kind of like trying to refuse your grandma... It's not
happening. Obviously, you're starving to death and must eat a
plate of "insert whatever" and a glass of sweet tea.
#Post#: 19807--------------------------------------------------
Re: Meeting at lunch time and only providing for yourselves
DIR By: Hanna
Date: November 25, 2018, 8:03 am
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> I'm from this part of the world and this story makes no sense
to me. Both people in the business world and private sector in
this area enjoy feeding people. It's part of the culture and a
huge insult and breach of etiquette not to offer food. And I
mean HUGE breach of etiquette.
>
> IME, it doesn't matter where you are, where you go, when you
show up, even if you are invited, you are getting food. It's
kind of like trying to refuse your grandma... It's not
happening. Obviously, you're starving to death and must eat a
plate of "insert whatever" and a glass of sweet tea.
>
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I agree. I think the whole thing is nonsense and the author, who
was a child at the time and is apparently also not from a
southern culture, misunderstood some key detail in the story. No
one I know in any culture doesn’t this.
#Post#: 21036--------------------------------------------------
Re: Meeting at lunch time and only providing for yourselves
DIR By: Thitpualso
Date: December 10, 2018, 10:58 am
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It depends on the meeting. When the participants of the meeting
are from the same entity (Say, curators and library personnel
who all work in the museum) each person is responsible for
providing his or her own lunch.
If outside people are part of the meeting, we always called out
and bought lunch for everyone on the museum’s dime. There was a
budget line for entertaining and there was always enough for
pizza, Chinese or Middle Eastern food.
BTW, Zahi Hawass was very fond of General Tso’s Chicken.
#Post#: 21967--------------------------------------------------
Re: Meeting at lunch time and only providing for yourselves
DIR By: Twik
Date: December 20, 2018, 3:26 pm
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> BTW, Zahi Hawass was very fond of General Tso’s Chicken.
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:o You met with him?
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