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       #Post#: 17509--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Polite or Creepy?
   DIR By: Rose Red
       Date: October 29, 2018, 10:51 am
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       --- Quote from: TootsNYC link ---
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       > [quote author=Venus193 link=topic=770.msg17474#msg17474
       date=1540817252]
       > [quote author=browzer11 link=topic=770.msg17465#msg17465
       date=1540784007]
       > Venus ... What's your point?
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       My point is that despite not looking like a stupid, naive idiot
       the cane makes me look weaker and like an easy victim.
       [/quote]
       And adds to a general feeling of vulnerability.
       But in this situation, it may also have added to a greater
       feeling of solicitousness toward you on the part of the guy. He
       may have been thinking, "She's not as steady on her feet as an
       able-bodied person, like me, and she's shorter than me, so she
       doesn't have as much leverage with a door. I'll hold the door
       open for her!"
       And not really concentrated on the fact that this means he
       was inside the room with you.
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       Yes. With that added information, I bet he was trying to help
       someone with a cane and not because he's a sicko. He'd probably
       do the same for a man with a cane.
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       Re: Polite or Creepy?
   DIR By: TootsNYC
       Date: October 29, 2018, 12:24 pm
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       but it's still a reaction I can understand.
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       Re: Polite or Creepy?
   DIR By: Rose Red
       Date: October 29, 2018, 12:57 pm
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       --- Quote from: TootsNYC link ---
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       > but it's still a reaction I can understand.
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       I'm not sure if this is addressed to my post above? I was
       agreeing with you that the guy was trying to help.
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       Re: Polite or Creepy?
   DIR By: TootsNYC
       Date: October 29, 2018, 1:48 pm
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       no, just reiterating to Venus that even if the guy was genuinely
       trying to help, I can understand why she might still feel
       uneasy. Trying to validate her reaction.
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       Re: Polite or Creepy?
   DIR By: guest657
       Date: October 29, 2018, 2:18 pm
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       The good thing is, whether you feel creeped out or not, it's
       perfectly polite to wave him out first, as mentioned above. It's
       certainly not rude or insulting to avoid going into a one-person
       bathroom with someone else. It's just practical logistics!
       I know how unsettling it can be if you feel you were in an
       unsafe situation. But if it happens again, hopefully it won't
       stick with you or mess up the rest of your day.
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