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The "Grand Shoulder Bump!"
By: LurkingGurl Date: October 9, 2018, 8:51 pm
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The photographer, paid by the happy couple to capture the
special moments of their day, was trying to take a picture of
their wedding kiss when the Bride's step mother, who had been
getting in the way of her pictures all evening while taking
pictures of her own on her phone, got in the way again, so the
photographer bumped her out of the way to catch the moment!
HTML https://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/wedding-photographer-praised-after-video-of-her-pushing-stepmother-out-of-the-way-at-ceremony-goes-viral
The Bride is lauding the photographer!
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Re: The "Grand Shoulder Bump!"
By: Loves to polish silver Date: October 10, 2018, 3:53 am
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While I think it was a bit aggressive, the stepmonster walked
right in front of the photographer in the midst of the photos.
If she'd spoken to her several times already, I can understand
it.
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Re: The "Grand Shoulder Bump!"
By: Rose Red Date: October 10, 2018, 8:59 am
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The stepmother has been in the way all day. There wasn't time to
ask her (again!) to step out of the way. It's either bump her to
get that first kiss photo or miss it. This isn't a movie and
there are no second takes. Who knows how many moments were
missed because of the stepmother? It sounds like she also kept
verbally insulting the photographer's skills. >:(
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Re: The "Grand Shoulder Bump!"
By: gramma dishes Date: October 10, 2018, 9:41 am
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Yay for the photographer!
These amateurs who constantly get in the way, and in this case
it sounds like she was also quite rude about it throughout the
entire day, are a huge problem for the photographers. If they
miss the shot or have to get it from an odd angle, it's their
reputation that gets soiled. She did the right thing,
absolutely.
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Re: The "Grand Shoulder Bump!"
By: lmyrs Date: October 10, 2018, 10:45 am
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The photographer is kind of my hero.
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Re: The "Grand Shoulder Bump!"
By: mime Date: October 10, 2018, 11:31 am
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I could go either way on the shoulder bump. I don't think
rudeness justifies the physical hit but it looks like stepmother
had it coming so I can kind of understand. She was absolutely
wrong to just pop up right in front of the photographer and
deliberately block her view like that.
On the other hand, it was interesting to see from the angle of
the guest who was taking video. At first I thought the woman
standing up in front and taking all the pictures while blocking
everyone's view must have been the stepmother! I think it is sad
that so many guests have to look at the back of a photographer's
head rather than the ceremony so she can get the perfect shot
every second.
I had my photographer stay in the back of the church and get
what he could from there. He did an excellent job, the pictures
were lovely, and my guests didn't have to deal with those
intrusions.
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Re: The "Grand Shoulder Bump!"
By: NyaChan Date: October 10, 2018, 12:31 pm
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I don’t really blame the photographer. Vendors have to do a job
and if the photo is missed there is no getting it back. I do
think the bride and groom’s role is to either personally tell
the encroaching guests to please back off or have a friend run
interference so the vendors aren’t put into this position.
My cousin had a very similar situation at her wedding where a
family friend who fancied himself a photographer brought his
full kit to the reception and kept getting in the way, blocking
vendors and other guests from seeing what was happening. After a
couple polite generic requests for people to sit down and please
leave room, my dad who was emceeing he his limit and while on
the mic just said “FamilyFriend, the whole room is waiting for
you to sit down so we can proceed”. He felt a little bad the
next day when cousin opened her gifts and found the $1k check
from the family friend but I think it he was being rude to the
room full of people and a big gift doesn’t excuse that.
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Re: The "Grand Shoulder Bump!"
By: lakey Date: October 10, 2018, 12:59 pm
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I don't blame the hired photographer or the bride for supporting
her. The stepmother was interfering with the photographer doing
the job she was paid to do, in a situation where there were
literally seconds to do it. This was a very important, fleeting
moment in the ceremony, and there wasn't time to reason with the
pushy stepmother. Wedding photographers are pretty expensive,
and other people need to stay out of the way.
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Re: The "Grand Shoulder Bump!"
By: DaDancingPsych Date: October 11, 2018, 10:05 am
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The article really does not paint a nice picture of stepmom.
This was obviously not an overexcited guest or a spacey
snowflake. I am guessing that this woman is a pill to deal with
on any day. But I would not call that a "bump". I am wondering
if the photographer plays roller derby or ice hockey. I am no
lawyer (nor am I interested to get into a discussion), but I
would assume that there is a case there for assault. I
completely understand the frustration... I am just not
comfortable with the level of physical contact.
That said, I totally understand what everyone is saying about
all the amateur photographers getting in the way. It can be so
annoying and obviously can make a photographer's job so
challenging!
Maybe I am little less sentimental than most, but I would not be
so obsessed that the photograph MUST get the perfect shot of our
first kiss. Heck, being as unphotogenic as I am, it is likely to
look not so romantic! I suppose that this is why they leave so
much time for photos afterwards, so these things can be
recreated if needed.
Food for thought. When my brother got married, he hired a
professional photographer who came recommended by a friend. She
did not have tons of experience, but her portfolio was nice
enough and my brother and now SIL were not very fussy about
their photographic needs... so they hired her. The woman showed
up and took TONS of pictures. Preferring to enjoy the day and
not be in the way of the photographer, I left my camera at home.
When they finally saw the photos, there were maybe six that were
not blurry. To this day, we do not know why the photos where so
terrible and whether she knew during the wedding and reception
that they were going to be bad. And the lighting conditions were
not poor (at least, not any worse than your typical wedding.)
But basically, they ended up with no photos. My brother is
rather good with Photoshop, so their wedding album is almost
entirely shots from guests who did not realize that they were
acting as the professional. My brother collected all the
pictures that were taken by others, cropped out things
(including this photographer), and that is how they got the few
precious shots that they have. So, this experience has changed
the way I attend weddings as a guest. I try to get a few good
pictures throughout the night to share with the couple (just in
case!) Mind you, I would never step in front of the photographer
like that, though.
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Re: The "Grand Shoulder Bump!"
By: lmyrs Date: October 11, 2018, 10:50 am
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If you look at the bride's Facebook page and at some of her
comments on earlier articles, she has quite a few extra pieces
of information there, including:
1. the photographer had asked the step mom to please stop
stepping in front of her several times already
2. the step mom was extremely rude to the photographer when she
was asked politely to move
3. several other guests had told the step mom to stop stepping
in front of the photographer
4. the step mom told the bride that she was glad that she was
able to ruin her photos
5. the step mom has told the bride that she was no longer
welcome in her father's home (the father is not agreeing)
There was apparently some pretty intense animosity between the
bride and her step mom for a long time and I think that
contributed to the whole mess. And, there's a second video from
a different angle where you can see the step mom's face when she
is pushed out of the way. She looks like she knew exactly what
she was doing and got mad she got thwarted.
Basically, I wouldn't generally say that it's ok to shove
someone, but I don't know what else the photographer was
supposed to do here. It was important to the bride to get the
first kiss photo. It's not that important to everyone. But, it
was important to her. And, that's why you hire a professional.
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