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       Re: How In-salt-ing
   DIR By: JeanFromBNA
       Date: October 9, 2018, 4:26 pm
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       > I think you raise an important distinction - gauche (or tacky)
       vs rude.
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       > Rudeness involves being rude *to someone.* That's why it could
       be considered rude to pre-salt food in someone's home - you're
       signaling that you assume the food is going to be bland or
       tasteless. That's not a nice message to send to your host.
       >
       > But in most restaurants, the chef can't see you when you're
       eating. And even if they could, it's a business transaction. A
       customer is perfectly entitled to pre-salt their food, leave
       their food untouched, to eat their peas from their knife, talk
       with their mouth full, or scrape their plate directly into a
       trash bin. As long as they pay their bill and don't make a mess,
       they weren't rude to the chef or the owner.
       >
       > A few of those would be rude to dining companions, and some of
       them would be gauche (or just foolish). But you can pour
       whatever you want on food you bought, at any stage. It's not
       rude.
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       I don't think that it's tacky as much as it is adapting
       etiquette to fit the situation.  You wouldn't use backyard BBQ
       etiquette during a formal dinner for a charity benefit.  It's
       not quite rude, but can be pretentious to use formal etiquette
       in an informal setting, like the fast casual restaurant that the
       OP described.  I don't think t that the Taco Bell employees are
       offended or even notice that I put mild sauce on my Burrito
       Supreme before I taste it because I always take it that way.
       Or maybe it's both.  I like your description of tacky vs. rude.
       #Post#: 15763--------------------------------------------------
       Re: How In-salt-ing
   DIR By: TootsNYC
       Date: October 9, 2018, 9:29 pm
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       > To answer puppylove, I've never heard of anyone sending their
       food back based on something they, themselves, did to the food
       unless it was purely accidental. So for example if you did go to
       salt your food and the top fell off the shaker and poured a ton
       of salt on your food, yeah, I'd ask the restaurant to please
       remake my dish. But if I just put too much salt on it myself,
       well, too bad for me. I don't think people send their food back
       for that reason. But if they did, I agree that would be wrong.
       >
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       I think it would be really hard for me to salt my food so
       heavily that I couldn't eat it, even if it had enough salt
       before I started.
       #Post#: 15764--------------------------------------------------
       Re: How In-salt-ing
   DIR By: crella
       Date: October 9, 2018, 9:34 pm
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       > Salting your food before tasting it is rude. I don't think a
       lot of people care, but some people do.
       >
       > That said, you have your reasons for knowing that you will
       want salt. To do it politely, take a quick taste, and ask for
       salt. They may still get PA, but that's not your problem to
       solve or care about. No explanation needed. If it's problematic
       at a particular place and you don't want to deal with it, go
       somewhere else. Explanations aren't going to make a difference.
       >
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       In this case, OP has eaten here a few times before and knows how
       the food tastes, I don't think it's rude.
       #Post#: 15767--------------------------------------------------
       Re: How In-salt-ing
   DIR By: browzer11
       Date: October 9, 2018, 11:18 pm
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       Hanna ... "and that if you did this on a job interview they’d
       assume you make decisions without all the facts.".
       I've never heard of that in my life.
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       Re: How In-salt-ing
   DIR By: lmyrs
       Date: October 10, 2018, 12:10 am
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       --- Quote from: browzer11 link ---
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       > Hanna ... "and that if you did this on a job interview they’d
       assume you make decisions without all the facts.".
       >
       > I've never heard of that in my life.
       >
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       You may not have heard of it but it’s a real thing
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       #Post#: 15769--------------------------------------------------
       Re: How In-salt-ing
   DIR By: LurkingGurl
       Date: October 10, 2018, 1:52 am
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       It's probably not a "thing" anymore if you have to go back to
       the 1930's and before for your examples.
       #Post#: 15771--------------------------------------------------
       Re: How In-salt-ing
   DIR By: Aleko
       Date: October 10, 2018, 2:33 am
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       Also, Imyrs' two 'sources' aren't even real sources but simply
       provide a link to other websites, one of which confidently
       attributes this 'test' to Thomas Edison while the other equally
       confidently attaches it to John D Rockefeller - neither of them,
       of course, offering any evidence. This - an anecdote pinned to
       multiple well-known people or places - is the classic picture of
       an urban legend, and unless anyone can bring actual historical
       evidence (I bet they can't), I simply don't think it worthy of
       belief.
       Of course, it's perfectly possible that there are employers out
       there dimwitted enough to be so impressed by articles like these
       that they try this trick out; so yes, if a potential employer
       gives you a meal and you want to salt your food, make sure he
       sees you try it first. That's if you need the job badly enough.
       If not, salt first, and if he says 'I'm not giving you the job
       because of that', you'll know you just dodged a bullet.
       #Post#: 15785--------------------------------------------------
       Re: How In-salt-ing
   DIR By: Rose Red
       Date: October 10, 2018, 8:39 am
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       I heard of that in the 80's but always thought if a company
       won't hire you despite liking/impressed by every other part of
       you, but you dared put salt on your food before tasting was
       ridiculous. It's not like that test of seeing how they treat the
       wait staff.
       #Post#: 15800--------------------------------------------------
       Re: How In-salt-ing
   DIR By: STiG
       Date: October 10, 2018, 10:12 am
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       I can see it mattering in days gone past when impeccable table
       manners were desired because there was a lot more wining and
       dining and schmoozing of clients.
       I think now, if you treat the servers like real people and don't
       use your fork like a shovel, you'll probably be fine.   ;)
       Adding salt before tasting the food wouldn't even blip the radar
       of most people.
       #Post#: 15805--------------------------------------------------
       Re: How In-salt-ing
   DIR By: lmyrs
       Date: October 10, 2018, 10:39 am
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       My word. I wasn't implying that it was a good thing. I'm saying
       it's a real urban legend that people have picked up on. Relax.
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