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Re: How In-salt-ing
DIR By: honeybee42
Date: October 5, 2018, 6:23 pm
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Also, if it's a fast casual chain, unless they're touting new
menu items, I may well *have* tasted it before on a prior visit.
At the cafeteria at work, all the condiments except for mayo are
in an area beyond the cash register where one can also get
napkins and disposable flatware. (The mayo used to be dispensed
in the same area, but it kept clogging.) So there's no one to
care if you take 1 or 7 salt packets (or pepper) although things
might get testy if you take too many little cups of ketchup or
mustard. but that's only because after two you may be holding up
other people from getting their own ketchup and/or mustard.
#Post#: 15492--------------------------------------------------
Re: How In-salt-ing
DIR By: MOM21SON
Date: October 5, 2018, 8:30 pm
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I was invited to a Seder dinner once. During the meal, the host
said, "This really needs salt." He husband went on a nuts,
screaming that no salt is needed and how rude she was to even
suggest it. He also screamed at her for offering me a beer. It
seems it was his last one. Thankfully I declined. they are no
longer married.
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Re: How In-salt-ing
DIR By: gramma dishes
Date: October 5, 2018, 8:54 pm
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--- Quote from: MOM21SON link ---
>
> I was invited to a Seder dinner once. During the meal, the
host said, "This really needs salt." He husband went on a nuts,
screaming that no salt is needed and how rude she was to even
suggest it. He also screamed at her for offering me a beer. It
seems it was his last one. Thankfully I declined. they are no
longer married.
>
--- End Quote ---
Yikes! :o
Sounds like an awkward and thoroughly uncomfortable evening for
everyone!
#Post#: 15505--------------------------------------------------
Re: How In-salt-ing
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: October 5, 2018, 11:15 pm
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--- Quote from: lmyrs link ---
>
> Salting your food before tasting it is rude. I don't think a
lot of people care, but some people do.
>
> That said, you have your reasons for knowing that you will
want salt. To do it politely, take a quick taste, and ask for
salt. They may still get PA, but that's not your problem to
solve or care about. No explanation needed. If it's problematic
at a particular place and you don't want to deal with it, go
somewhere else. Explanations aren't going to make a difference.
>
--- End Quote ---
I don't want to have to wait the time it takes to catch the
server's attention, get them to come over, and then wait for
them to bring back the salt.
The food is here and it's getting cold!
I think NPFWife should say, when she orders, "I tend to want to
salt my food; would you bring the salt and pepper in case it
turns out I need it?" if it's not already on the table.
Don't make it about that food particularly--make it about the
idea that the table isn't set properly if the salt and pepper
are not on the table already.
(And don't start me about the whole "giving the control of the
pepper over to someone else's hand" crap. This is MY food. *I*
am the one who will be eating it.)
#Post#: 15506--------------------------------------------------
Re: How In-salt-ing
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: October 5, 2018, 11:24 pm
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--- Quote from: lmyrs link ---
>
> I trust that the enthusiasm to disregard established etiquette
rules within this thread apply to all established etiquette
rules.
>
--- End Quote ---
ooh, I think this is kind of a snotty comment.
#Post#: 15508--------------------------------------------------
Re: How In-salt-ing
DIR By: browzer11
Date: October 5, 2018, 11:32 pm
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"I trust that the enthusiasm to disregard established etiquette
rules within this thread apply to all established etiquette
rules.".
To be honest, try as I might, I cannot understand that comment.
#Post#: 15510--------------------------------------------------
Re: How In-salt-ing
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: October 5, 2018, 11:43 pm
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--- Quote from: browzer11 link ---
>
> "I trust that the enthusiasm to disregard established
etiquette rules within this thread apply to all established
etiquette rules.".
>
> To be honest, try as I might, I cannot understand that
comment.
>
--- End Quote ---
You need the "snarky" font.
"If you're all going to say this rule doesn't count, then surely
you think none of the rules count."
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Re: How In-salt-ing
DIR By: peony
Date: October 5, 2018, 11:58 pm
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--- Quote from: JeanFromBNA link ---
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> [quote author=lmyrs link=topic=720.msg15251#msg15251
date=1538583155]
> Salting your food before tasting it is rude. I don't think a
lot of people care, but some people do.
>
> That said, you have your reasons for knowing that you will
want salt. To do it politely, take a quick taste, and ask for
salt. They may still get PA, but that's not your problem to
solve or care about. No explanation needed. If it's problematic
at a particular place and you don't want to deal with it, go
somewhere else. Explanations aren't going to make a difference.
>
--- End Quote ---
It's rude if you're at someone's home, or are someone's guest.
It's not rude in a commercial establishment where you have paid
for the food.
[/quote]
I don't think it's rude in any case. People like things the way
they like them, and it's possible to know beforehand how you
want your food to taste. I myself am offended by chefs who think
their cooking is so perfect that no one should dare to alter it
to suit themselves. When you come to dinner at my house, please
use all the condiments and seasonings you want even if you don't
taste it beforehand. I want my guests to enjoy their food and be
happy. It would be insufferable of me to pretend I know better
than they do how they would like their meal to taste.
Sorry for going on like that. I've felt this way for some time,
and it just sort of came out all at once in this post.
#Post#: 15515--------------------------------------------------
Re: How In-salt-ing
DIR By: shadowfox79
Date: October 6, 2018, 2:59 am
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This is reminding me of an episode of "Come Dine With Me" when
one of the guests brought his own bottle of salad cream and
slathered his meal with it, much to the annoyance of the host
who took the bottle and threw it away.
I can sort of see the problem with that, but to be honest, if
someone can only eat food when it's covered in salad cream
nothing else is going to make them happy so you may as well let
them get on with it. Assuming that they'll love your
painstakingly cooked meal if they just try it first is likely to
end in tears.
On the salt subject, I always have black pepper without trying
the food first so I don't think salt is any different. I already
know I like my food more peppery than a chef is likely to do it
and I expect it works the same with salt.
#Post#: 15519--------------------------------------------------
Re: How In-salt-ing
DIR By: Pattycake
Date: October 6, 2018, 8:23 am
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Rules of etiquette are not etched in stone, and if they don't
suit most people, they will change, just like rules for sports
do. Most rules of etiquette were made so that people didn't feel
out of place, they would know what the customary way of doing
things was, or so that guests were made to feel welcome. Someone
previously mentioned that they thought the salt rule came in
around the 1940's - why? Probably some chef or cook got their
nose out of joint about some guest salting before tasting, and
what started as someone's house rule got spread about until a
former Miss Manners type codified it in a manners book. So now
common sense is just taking over again - let people use salt if
they want, when they want. It hardly means that people are
advocating tossing all etiquette just because they disagree with
one rule.
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