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"Please photograph my proposal for free"
By: TeamBhakta Date: September 28, 2018, 8:46 am
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Someone on Reddit received a card at an airport, requesting that
other passengers tape or photograph a stranger's proposal:
HTML https://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/9jlwmy/at_airport_just_handed_thischallenge_acceptedgood/
Is it rude to ask strangers to do that ? What would be your
reaction if your were handed such a card ?
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Re: "Please photograph my proposal for free"
By: Pattycake Date: September 28, 2018, 9:04 am
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I don't think it's rude to ask. I think it's tacky, but not
rude. I don't think as the bride to be that I would like being
asked in an airplane, but she did say yes.
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Re: "Please photograph my proposal for free"
By: Rose Red Date: September 28, 2018, 9:11 am
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I don't know. Some people love to part of a moment, even a
strangers. People take pictures and film others even when
they're not asked! :-\ I guess everybody else can ignore and
throw away the card.
From the subject title, I thought someone was asking for
professional or professional looking photos for free. If they're
just looking for candid shots, I don't think I mind. You don't
have to buy film anymore these days so it's not costing you
anything extra to shoot a picture from a cell phone.
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Re: "Please photograph my proposal for free"
By: Bada Date: September 28, 2018, 9:30 am
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What's the signal to start recording? Is everyone supposed to
just have their cameras at the ready the whole flight? I'd have
been annoyed and probably would have passed.
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Re: "Please photograph my proposal for free"
By: DaDancingPsych Date: September 28, 2018, 9:47 am
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I thought that the card was worded politely; it was not
demanding anything of me, just requesting if I felt like it. I
am not one to record much (especially on a plane) and without
more details (who is Andrew? where is he seated? how will I know
it is happening?), I would probably not worry much about it. If
I manage, I would send it, but if I don't, I wouldn't feel bad
either.
Maybe the plane has special meaning to the couple, but I would
not be all that impressed with this proposal. Sorry buddy! ;D
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Re: "Please photograph my proposal for free"
By: Aleko Date: September 28, 2018, 10:59 am
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As others have said, it wasn't rude to the random passengers
because they handed a politely-worded card and didn't have to
engage with it at all if they didn't want to. But I do think it
was rude to his beloved. She said yes unaware that she was on
Candid Camera: when she finds out she may feel she was made a
performance of without her consent, and retract her acceptance.
Then again, given that it's reported that a couple are seeking a
professional to video their wedding night
(
HTML https://metro.co.uk/2018/07/31/job-advert-appeared-offering-videographer-2000-film-couples-wedding-night-7780520/),<br
/>it seems that there's absolutely nothing that some people feel
is unsuitable for performance.
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Re: "Please photograph my proposal for free"
By: lakey Date: September 28, 2018, 11:01 am
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I don't think it's rude because, from the sound of it they
aren't putting the burden on one stranger. If he's handing the
cards to several people, at least some will do it. Those who
don't want to, can ignore it. Also, doing it takes little
effort.
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Re: "Please photograph my proposal for free"
By: Chez Miriam Date: September 28, 2018, 2:25 pm
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I suspect it's a 2018 equivalent of asking a stranger to hold
your camera and take a photo of you & whoever with a background
of tourist sites?
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Re: "Please photograph my proposal for free"
By: OnyxBird Date: September 28, 2018, 7:06 pm
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IMO, the rude part is planning to stage an obvious public
proposal (with a "speech"?! :o) on a commercial airplane in the
first place. If the proposal is going to be obtrusive enough
that a significant number of people outside your own traveling
party will be aware of it and able to photograph or film it,
then it's too much hijacking of a bunch of strangers minding
their own business and trying to travel in peace. Asking people
to participate by taking pictures (because he's prepared enough
to plan out his proposal and print up fancy little cards, but
not to have a buddy on the flight to take pictures) is just the
icing on the inappropriateness cake.
If he was going to, e.g., propose publicly at a sports event
with the prior agreement of the venue and got them to put a note
in the program for everyone but her, then this note wouldn't be
bad--a lot of people would probably get into it, and others
would ignore. If he was about to propose in a public park and
managed to sneak a little sign up on the path so people
approaching would know, then fine--some people would be
delighted and others could ignore or head another way and avoid
the whole thing. But a plane? I can't see any way a public
proposal works in an airplane without getting in everyone's way
and gratuitously disturbing a bunch of strangers who are just
trying to get to their destination in peace.
If the flight is meaningful to them in some way, and he wants to
pop the question at a normal conversational volume while sitting
in their seats, then fine--to each their own. Maybe a few other
passengers would notice if the girlfriend reacted at a slightly
higher volume due to surprise/excitement, but it's hardly
something that a bunch of fellow passengers would be able to
photograph/film in any useful way if it were done discreetly. If
the girlfriend is known to be someone likely to react with
squeals, jumping up and down, etc., that would get the attention
of a large swath of the plane...then propose somewhere more
appropriate. If the proposal involves kneeling in the aisles,
getting up and making speeches, etc., then it doesn't belong on
a plane. The stereotypical, down-on-one-knee public proposal
works reasonably well in a restaurant where there is room to
kneel down by your own table without getting in everyone else's
way and everyone else at the other tables is free to watch or
ignore as they like. A public proposal can work in an
entertainment venue (e.g., sports event) where the venue/event
has agreed to facilitate it and it doesn't interrupt/hijack the
main event for more than a short time. Not in a plane where
everyone is already jammed into closer contact with a bunch of
strangers than they want to be and already struggling to block
out the sight, sounds, etc., of their fellow sardines.
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Re: "Please photograph my proposal for free"
By: Hanna Date: September 28, 2018, 9:01 pm
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“If you’re so inclined” was all I needed to read.
Not rude.
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