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Re: Special Needs Child told to stop cheering
DIR By: Kimberami
Date: September 28, 2018, 10:13 pm
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I was at an aquarium with my family several months ago. While we
were inside of the underwater exhibit, a little boy started
yelling "Hey Mom" over and over again. Because we had been
walking in a tour group, I had heard this little boy being
extremely loud throughout the aquarium. Inside of the underwater
exhibit, his yelling was excruciating. I finally said "Shhh" to
him. He looked at me and then yelled "Hey Mom" again. Then about
8 people all said "SHH" at the exact same time. I don't know
anything about this child, but eventually the group had had
enough.
A baseball game is a place where you would expect to hear a lot
of noise. I didn't find the little girl especially annoying, but
I didn't listen to her yelling for hours and hours. The lady
didn't seem extremely mean to me, but I'm not a little girl. The
lady couldn't have had any idea that the child had any sort of
medical issue. When we are sharing space with other people we
have to find a happy medium so that everyone gets to have all of
their needs and some of their wants fulfilled. What if the
situation involves two people with special needs? Whose need
should be accommodated? We know nothing about this woman. She
could have a condition that makes it impossible to refrain from
saying exactly what is on her mind.
My honest opinion is that we have witnessed a woman who has hit
the end of her rope and snapped. Was she rude? Sure. We are only
getting a very small slice of this incident. I certainly don't
think that this situation is nearly the big flipping hairy deal
that the mom and the media are making it out to be. I wonder if
the big fuss is making the girl feel worse about the situation
than she felt at the time.
#Post#: 14809--------------------------------------------------
Re: Special Needs Child told to stop cheering
DIR By: Aleko
Date: September 29, 2018, 1:44 am
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--- Quote ---
> If it's supposed to "take a village" to raise a child, then
any adult should be able to politely ask for a modification in
behavior.
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Actually they should be able to do a whole lot more than that.
In the African cultures where that phrase (or phrases amounting
to it) is used, it means that all the adults in the community
have the responsibility not merely to look out for all children
but also to instruct, rebuke and discipline them as necessary,
as if they were their own. A Motswana or Kikuyu adult who saw a
child behaving badly wouldn't hesitate to tell them in no
uncertain manner to stop, and if the child didn't stop, to scold
and even physically punish them.
If a parent doesn't want anyone else to rebuke or restrain their
special little darling, so be it - but they are certainly not
entitled to expect anyone else to help and protect them on the
grounds that "it takes . . . etc."
--- Quote ---
> The lady couldn't have had any idea that the child had any
sort of medical issue. When we are sharing space with other
people we have to find a happy medium so that everyone gets to
have all of their needs and some of their wants fulfilled. What
if the situation involves two people with special needs? Whose
need should be accommodated? We know nothing about this woman.
She could have a condition that makes it impossible to refrain
from saying exactly what is on her mind.
--- End Quote ---
True. Or an auditory condition that made the specific pitch of
the child's squeals actually painful.
#Post#: 14815--------------------------------------------------
Re: Special Needs Child told to stop cheering
DIR By: gramma dishes
Date: September 29, 2018, 8:58 am
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I think the woman said one word. "Enough."
I don't think she was rude. There was no way the woman could
possibly have known this child had some sort of disability. It
certainly isn't obvious. And if she does, it is her parents
responsibility to teach her that certain types of behavior can
indeed be quite annoying or even painful for others, so she
should limit that kind of behavior.
She did not (as popularly reported) burst into a torrent of
tears. She looked sad and puzzled. That's all. The parents
are making a huge HUGE issue out of not much substance.
#Post#: 14993--------------------------------------------------
Re: Special Needs Child told to stop cheering
DIR By: bopper
Date: October 1, 2018, 1:45 pm
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Once we went to a Mets game. There were two people together
right behind us. ...i am guessing an older mother and and older
son. The mom would yells something, but in the realm of general
cheering. But then the son was like "SHUT UP, MA! NOBODY WANTS
TO HEAR THAT, MA! YOU GOT TO SHUT UP" and so on....but yelling
right behind us in our ears.
It was reallllly annoying. We did "the looks"...didn't work.
But we didn't think that confronting them would be the way to
go...so we asked an Usher...pointed out the situation. THey
moved us to other (better) seats.
I don't know if the person yelling "enough" had had it with the
volume, the repetition, the high frequency tone...I don't know
if they had asked before ...i always start with "Hey buddy...you
are yelling in my ear and it hurts. Could you be quieter?
I also wonder that if they kid knows she is annoying...is she
annoying?
#Post#: 14998--------------------------------------------------
Re: Special Needs Child told to stop cheering
DIR By: gramma dishes
Date: October 1, 2018, 2:32 pm
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I thought the kid figured out the problem and handled it just
fine. I don't understand why the parents seem to want to imply
she's helpless and can't take care of herself in these
situations. Apparently something she was doing was seriously
annoying the woman in front of her. Stuff happens. Life goes
on. The woman wanted her to stop and she did. So what's the
problem?
#Post#: 15264--------------------------------------------------
Re: Special Needs Child told to stop cheering
DIR By: DCGirl
Date: October 3, 2018, 12:59 pm
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I'm a big baseball fan and go to at least every other week
during the season, and I have to say that even in an environment
where cheering is expected my husband and I have on occasion
been tortured by a child who screams for an entire game.
There's a right way to cheer for your team and a wrong way, and
a constant screaming is wrong.
If you want your child to grow up to be a baseball fan, you need
to talk about how to be a good baseball fan, and that includes
cheering at the appropriate times. With that said, there's a
nice way to ask someone to quiet down a bit and a not-nice way.
I can't tell from the news coverage if the woman had already
asked nicely and finally snapped or what. A couple of years
ago, DH and I were at a game seated near parents who had brought
a shrieker. Another fan finally leaned over and told the
parents they'd better ice the kid's vocal chords when they got
home to prevent permanent damage. That was not nice (but a part
of me was cheering a little on the inside).
#Post#: 15274--------------------------------------------------
Re: Special Needs Child told to stop cheering
DIR By: gramma dishes
Date: October 3, 2018, 2:39 pm
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--- Quote from: DCGirl link ---
>
> ... A couple of years ago, DH and I were at a game seated
near parents who had brought a shrieker. Another fan finally
leaned over and told the parents they'd better ice the kid's
vocal chords when they got home to prevent permanent damage.
That was not nice (but a part of me was cheering a little on the
inside).
>
--- End Quote ---
Actually there's quite a bit of truth to that. When any person,
child or not, screams virtually at the top of their lungs for an
excessive period of time, it really can and does damage the
vocal chords.
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