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Re: Cancel or take your chances? Bad update #18
By: guest657 Date: September 19, 2018, 7:42 pm
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I'm glad you are safe, and glad she and the other guests are
also safe, and I hope you can quickly get some peace of mind
about the situation. You made a perfectly sound judgment call
based on the information you had at the time, and no rational
person would fault you for it.
There's an old saying that people are like fruit - whatever's
inside is what comes out under pressure.
I am sorry your friend acted so ugly. It is a very sad thing
when you find out that someone you really cared about is so
selfish and unreasonable.
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Re: Cancel or take your chances? Bad update #18
By: Dazi Date: September 19, 2018, 9:33 pm
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I just imagine a supposed friend acting like this!
When I got married some years ago, the weather HERE was
fabulous. However, the weather for some of my out of town guests
went south and they were snowed in. Was I disappointed? Of
course I was! Did I blame them or expect them to put themselves
in harm's way to get here? Absolutely not! We made sure to take
tons of pictures to share with them.
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Re: Cancel or take your chances? Bad update #18
By: Bada Date: September 20, 2018, 9:53 am
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Hotels and airlines HATE to let people out of their arrangements
without penalties. The fact that you weren't penalized means
they thought it was very reasonable for you to cancel. Hopefully
looking at it that way will ease your mind if you're ever
tempted to doubt whether you should have canceled based on what
you knew at the time.
I agree that you might want to send the gift/card anyway and see
if Bride has calmed down (though honestly I might scale back on
cost, if the original gift was quite generous). If you don't
quickly get a kind response, though, I think you'll know where
you stand...unfortunately.
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Re: Cancel or take your chances? Bad update #18
By: Winterlight Date: December 18, 2018, 11:22 am
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OP, did your friend ever contact you?
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Re: Cancel or take your chances? Bad update #18
By: Get a looong little doggy Date: January 5, 2019, 5:01 pm
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I would also like to know if the bride ever contacted you or
your other friend that canceled.
I have some friends that live in the area and their family had
all kinds of trouble waiting to find out if college classes and
work was canceled. They would have said cancel and stay safe,
we'll see you later.
I can't imagine stress causing a true friend to behave that way.
#Post#: 23809--------------------------------------------------
Re: Cancel or take your chances? Bad update #18
By: NyaChan Date: January 11, 2019, 3:02 pm
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My friend did not contact me personally after the wedding. I
had sent them a wedding gift and I recently received a thank you
note. It was written by her husband (he spelled my name wrong,
crossed it out, then wrote it correctly on top + the handwriting
doesn’t look like hers). It was very generic “Thank you for the
gift. I’m sure we will enjoy it for years to come.” To my
knowledge she hasn’t contacted my other friends either. She
didn’t block me on FB as far as I could tell, but she knows I
only kee it active for volunteer work anyways so it probably
didn’t occur to her. I did see a wedding picture and she looked
lovely and happy which is in the end the important thing!
#Post#: 23851--------------------------------------------------
Re: Cancel or take your chances? Bad update #18
By: LifeOnPluto Date: January 11, 2019, 10:50 pm
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[quote author=NyaChan link=topic=671.msg23809#msg23809
date=1547240572]
My friend did not contact me personally after the wedding. I
had sent them a wedding gift and I recently received a thank you
note. It was written by her husband (he spelled my name wrong,
crossed it out, then wrote it correctly on top + the handwriting
doesn’t look like hers). It was very generic “Thank you for the
gift. I’m sure we will enjoy it for years to come.” To my
knowledge she hasn’t contacted my other friends either. She
didn’t block me on FB as far as I could tell, but she knows I
only kee it active for volunteer work anyways so it probably
didn’t occur to her. I did see a wedding picture and she looked
lovely and happy which is in the end the important thing!
[/quote]
So she was happy to accept your gift, after being so nasty to
you. Bit hypocritical if you ask me.
OP, I reckon your friend has shown her true colours. I suspect
you'll probably never hear from her again, but SHE will continue
to see herself as the wronged party.
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Re: Cancel or take your chances? Bad update #18
By: gramma dishes Date: January 12, 2019, 10:15 am
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[quote author=NyaChan link=topic=671.msg23809#msg23809
date=1547240572]
My friend did not contact me personally after the wedding. I
had sent them a wedding gift and I recently received a thank you
note. It was written by her husband (he spelled my name wrong,
crossed it out, then wrote it correctly on top + the handwriting
doesn’t look like hers). It was very generic “Thank you for the
gift. I’m sure we will enjoy it for years to come.” ...
[/quote]
So you received a super sloppy thank you note that wasn't
written by your friend and which didn't even name the gift?
Yikes! :-\
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Re: Cancel or take your chances? Bad update #18
By: RubyCat Date: January 12, 2019, 10:36 am
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[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=671.msg23870#msg23870
date=1547309753]
[quote author=NyaChan link=topic=671.msg23809#msg23809
date=1547240572]
My friend did not contact me personally after the wedding. I
had sent them a wedding gift and I recently received a thank you
note. It was written by her husband (he spelled my name wrong,
crossed it out, then wrote it correctly on top + the handwriting
doesn’t look like hers). It was very generic “Thank you for the
gift. I’m sure we will enjoy it for years to come.” ...
[/quote]
So you received a super sloppy thank you note that wasn't
written by your friend and which didn't even name the gift?
Yikes! :-\
[/quote]
That's pretty sad. I'm not thinking too highly of these two. I
suppose it is just as well that you didn't risk traveling in bad
weather for these two clods. I'm so sorry you're having to deal
with this. Hugs.
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Re: Cancel or take your chances? Update #45
By: lakey Date: January 12, 2019, 11:20 am
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So, bride behaves like a spoiled child, in expecting you to
travel during a hurricane for her wedding. You got a childish
thank you for the gift you sent. At least the groom tried,
though.
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