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Re: Cancel or take your chances?
By: katiekat2009 Date: September 12, 2018, 1:19 pm
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Bride should move the whole she-bang to a hurricane safe area.
What a memory this would be as opposed to the traditional
wedding no one remembers! It is hardly likely her photographer,
wedding planner, florist, caterer, and baker will remain in the
hurricane area. Grab these items and set them up in the new
location.
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Re: Cancel or take your chances?
By: Hmmm Date: September 12, 2018, 1:33 pm
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[quote author=katiekat2009 link=topic=671.msg13584#msg13584
date=1536776374]
Bride should move the whole she-bang to a hurricane safe area.
What a memory this would be as opposed to the traditional
wedding no one remembers! It is hardly likely her photographer,
wedding planner, florist, caterer, and baker will remain in the
hurricane area. Grab these items and set them up in the new
location.
[/quote]
We don't know where the wedding is or how the area will be
affected. All we know is it's a 2 hour drive from Richmond
Virginia. It could already be planned in a safe area. It's not
like the OP said the wedding was planned in Wilmington NC.
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Re: Cancel or take your chances?
By: lmyrs Date: September 12, 2018, 1:56 pm
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[quote author=katiekat2009 link=topic=671.msg13584#msg13584
date=1536776374]
Bride should move the whole she-bang to a hurricane safe area.
What a memory this would be as opposed to the traditional
wedding no one remembers! It is hardly likely her photographer,
wedding planner, florist, caterer, and baker will remain in the
hurricane area. Grab these items and set them up in the new
location.
[/quote]
How do you know it's not safe? Unless she's grabbing those
people and flying them to another state, this doesn't solve
anything at all.
OP has to make her own decision. I don't think that the bride
has to cancel her wedding to make fully grown adults feel better
about making their own decisions in their own best interests.
I'd wait until the last possible minute to cancel and if you're
not comfortable, then do what you need to do and be OK with
that.
#Post#: 13603--------------------------------------------------
Re: Cancel or take your chances?
By: winkie Date: September 12, 2018, 5:02 pm
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Honestly it depends on where in Virginia. Two hours away would
likely be inland towards the mountains. I used to live in the DC
area and went to college in SW Virginia. DC routinely has
flooding with a lot of rain although it's extraordinarily rare
for the airport to close. Inland Virginia will see a lot of rain
but winds should be okay. Also, it depends on how close the town
or venue is to a river. Virginia has had a significant amount of
rain over the summer so flooding in general has been more of a
problem. Another thing to consider is how available hotel/motel
accommodations are at the destination. It's possible there will
be fewer rooms available due to people going inland from the
coast
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Re: Cancel or take your chances?
By: Lilac Date: September 12, 2018, 6:52 pm
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This is a fascinating etiquette question and one I wish Miss
Manners or others would answer in real time.
With all the palm-tree-clinging the media is gearing up to do,
it would be interesting to see reports on what is going on at
wedding/funeral/reunion venues, etc.
If attending would possibly cause you hardship and/or make you
miss future work and social commitments, no one could fault you
for canceling. One would hope that a couple planning a wedding
in hurricane territory, in hurricane season, would have obtained
the sensible amount of insurance coverage. If they proceed
maybe you can Skype in or otherwise help them celebrate
electronically.
#Post#: 13669--------------------------------------------------
Re: Cancel or take your chances?
By: CamelliaHouse Date: September 13, 2018, 2:15 pm
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NyaChan, it sounds like your flight probably has been cancelled
by now - I'm reading on the Washington Post that over 1,200
flights have been cancelled to date. Update?
#Post#: 13673--------------------------------------------------
Re: Cancel or take your chances?
By: BeagleMommy Date: September 13, 2018, 2:54 pm
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NyaChan, I would check with your airline. Many of them are
suspending ticket change fees due to the hurricane.
#Post#: 13719--------------------------------------------------
Re: Cancel or take your chances?
By: NyaChan Date: September 13, 2018, 11:30 pm
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Believe it or not, my flight has not been canceled. I did
decide not to go anyways. I spoke to a friend who works for an
insurance company and she listed out all the things that are
likely to be happening on the ground even outside the direct
hurricane area and I decided that I just don’t want to
take the risk. Especially so when the person I was going to
travel with did cancel so I would have had to secure a rental
and drive by myself.
I got the distances wrong - the wedding was in Charlottesville
so only an hour from Richmond. I had a while where I thought
I’d overreacted because someone expressed surprise that I
wouldn’t go due to the weather. When I spoke with my
family they were concerned and pointed out that surely I
wouldn’t hold it against anyone for not coming to an event
of mine under similar conditions and I made the call to cancel
flights and hotel. I guess others have too, becaus ethe hotel
waived all penalties for last minute cancellation and gave a
full refund due to the hurricane.
Thank you all for weighing in. This was not an easy decision
and I was feeling pretty awful about it.
#Post#: 13731--------------------------------------------------
Re: Cancel or take your chances?
By: NyaChan Date: September 14, 2018, 8:08 am
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I woke up early today to see if my flight had been canceled. It
still hadn’t. Reports seemed much better and I felt kind of
stupid. But I had already canceled my flight and I can’t afford
to rebook on Saturday (prices are astronomical). I called my
friend and she pretty much hung up on me. She then sent me a
series of texts saying that what I had done was inexcusable,
that I shouldn’t bother her again unless it’s to say I am coming
and that she refuses to be guilt-tripped as she is going to try
to enjoy this weekend despite everyone around her tryin* to ruin
it.
I can’t stop crying.
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Re: Cancel or take your chances? Bad update #18
By: accountingisfun Date: September 14, 2018, 8:17 am
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Do NOT feel bad for canceling. Your friend who is taking this
super personally is being really rude and weird. Weather happens
and the way the news talks about it, it is no wonder that you
canceled! Hugs to you because I understand you feel bad, but you
shouldn't. I hope your friend recognizes later that they are
being ridiculous and apologizes to you when the wedding stress
is over.
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