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Re: Thoughts on this TY note
By: gramma dishes Date: September 11, 2018, 9:44 am
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Would anyone think it was okay to combine Thank You notes for
wedding gifts with Valentine's Day cards, Mother's Day? How
about Easter or Thanksgiving? Your birthday?
The wedding was an event separate from all other events and
holidays and deserves its own separate thank you note. Ideally
they should be sent before the Christmas cards.
#Post#: 13470--------------------------------------------------
Re: Thoughts on this TY note
By: DaDancingPsych Date: September 11, 2018, 9:47 am
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[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=667.msg13469#msg13469
date=1536677082]
Ideally they should be sent before the Christmas cards.
[/quote]
That gives me another thought. While the timing might be right
(you may be sending out thank you notes from an October wedding
at the same time as sending Christmas cards), mixing the two
months (October and December) would make the thank you note feel
late. I suppose if the wedding was in November or December that
it may not feel as delayed, but I still think the whole thing is
tacky.
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Re: Thoughts on this TY note
By: Celestia Date: September 11, 2018, 10:50 am
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I like it! I would find it kind of silly to send two totally
separate cards that arrive within a week of each other. It's not
like she's thanking people who didn't give her anything
(overlapping lists)
The important thing is to thank the gift-giver. I'm really
surprised that some of you who DO care about hand-written
physical cards would be upset about getting one that was also a
christmas card.
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Re: Thoughts on this TY note
By: Hmmm Date: September 11, 2018, 10:55 am
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[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=667.msg13469#msg13469
date=1536677082]
Would anyone think it was okay to combine Thank You notes for
wedding gifts with Valentine's Day cards, Mother's Day? How
about Easter or Thanksgiving? Your birthday?
The wedding was an event separate from all other events and
holidays and deserves its own separate thank you note. Ideally
they should be sent before the Christmas cards.
[/quote]
Well, a Mother's Day card would be weird because I only get
Mother's Day cards from my kids. But if they were to send me a
bday card and inside write my thank you note, then I'd be ok
with that because not only did they send me a thank you, but
they also remembered my birthday so my thank you was even more
personalized.
I guess I see their suggested thank you notes as having "theme"
versus being a christmas card with a thank you note attached. So
yes, I'd also be ok with getting a Valentine, Thanksgiving, or
Easter themed card with a personalized thank you note.
We received a thank you card from a couple that was a photo card
from their honeymoon and was themed. I've received a wedding
announcement as a dual wedding announcement and Christmas card.
To me the important thing is to send the personalized thank you
message. I don't care what the card looks like.
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Re: Thoughts on this TY note
By: LurkingGurl Date: September 11, 2018, 11:41 am
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No, no no no no no no no no!
Let's start with not everyone celebrates Christmas.
Then, let's move to--do I believe that in the absence of the
need to send a TY note that she would send them all Christmas
cards? No, I don't. I suppose it's possible.
Sending a Christmas card kind of sets up a reciprocal
arrangement. You're not rude to not send a Christmas/Holiday
card in return but you're much more likely to get them if you
send them. And if you stop sending them after a few years,
people will take you off their lists.
So, if she wants to send out Christmas cards, she should! It's
a great way to stay in touch with all the people who came to the
wedding. But, it's tacky if not a bit rude to combine your TY
note--which is an obligation--her obligation, in a way that
might create an obligation for reciprocation on the part of
someone else.
It's just best not to combine the two.
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Re: Thoughts on this TY note
By: JeanFromBNA Date: September 11, 2018, 5:04 pm
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I'd be so amazed to get a thank you note for a wedding present
that I wouldn't notice. TYNs have really gone by the wayside,
and I've become cynical. And cheap.
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Re: Thoughts on this TY note
By: dani321 Date: September 12, 2018, 10:46 am
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Wow, I'm in the minority here, but I wouldn't have a problem
with this at all. If Bride was attempting to pre-print the Thank
You portion so that she can mail off cards with no personal
notes, then I'd be giving the side eye and I'd call that tacky.
But, no one is obligated whatsoever to send out Christmas cards,
so she is basically just adding holiday wishes to her TY notes.
Someone mentioned the fact that not everyone celebrates
Christmas, but I am going to presume that Bride knows these
people, and would know if a Christmas card would cause offense,
and do something different in that case. She sounds gracious and
grateful, not like someone trying to get out of a chore.
The problem for Bride is, based on the responses here, there are
going to be people with their panties in a twist over getting
one card with two purposes. Then of course there would be others
who would get upset at the waste of paper and postage if she
sends out two separate cards.
This is where I land: if you (general you) are sending a generic
TY that's the same to everyone, then I'd rather you not bother,
they really should be personalized. But I can't find it in me to
judge you for adding other well wishes to your Thank You note, I
just don't get why a genuine note of thanks, and also "Happy
Holidays!" is so bad.
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Re: Thoughts on this TY note
By: lmyrs Date: September 12, 2018, 2:04 pm
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This thread is why people don't send thank you notes. You can't
win. Send out Christmas themed thank you notes and you're lazy
and ungrateful. Your card is getting thrown straight in the
garbage.
It's a personal thank you note inside a Christmas-themed card.
Would this bride even be sending out Christmas cards if she
didn't have the wedding pictures to put in them? My guess is a
great big no. Keep in mind that this bride has no obligation to
send anyone a Christmas card at all. This entire thread is
causing me to roll my eyes so hard, I'm worried I'm going to
pull a muscle.
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Re: Thoughts on this TY note
By: Surly Date: September 12, 2018, 2:25 pm
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I think it's lovely. I received a similar one a few years ago,
with a photo of the married couple in front of their Christmas
tree, and a handwritten note inside thanking me for coming to
their wedding and for my gift. I put it up on my fridge with my
Christmas cards and it was really nice to see the cheerful photo
all season.
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Re: Thoughts on this TY note
By: Lilac Date: September 12, 2018, 6:41 pm
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If the wedding tok place at Thanksgiving, no problem. Any
earlier and they clearly are just trying to kill two birds with
one stone. Tacky.
Thank-you notes are supposed to be social correspondence that a
person actually wants to execute, to maintain and nurture an
ongoing relationship. The note being more important than the
"thankyou" part.
If the sender merely views the forumulaic or rote message as an
obligatory and onerous "receipt" they must issue for a gift I
have given or a kindness I have extended -- then save your time,
keep your stamp and don't bother.
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