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How common is it for guests to reply "yes" and then no
t show up?
By: SnappyLT Date: September 2, 2018, 11:58 am
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This question is about a rehearsal dinner, not a wedding itself.
I was a guest at the wedding and reception of a member of our
extended family recently. At the reception I chatted for several
minutes with the father of the groom. He mentioned the rehearsal
dinner the previous night had gone very well - but he said he
was so surprised that about one-third of the people who had
replied yes, that they would attend the rehearsal dinner, simply
did not show up.
I didn't know what to say to reply to the FOG, so I said
something like, "That many people didn't show up? Wow!"
My wife and I were married decades ago, but as I recall everyone
who said they would attend our rehearsal dinner did actually
show up. Is having that many "no-shows" common these days?
#Post#: 12880--------------------------------------------------
Re: How common is it for guests to reply "yes" and the
n not show up?
By: gramma dishes Date: September 2, 2018, 12:15 pm
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Since usually the rehearsal dinner is only for those actually
participating in the wedding itself (and their spouses) then
they're already there together. Yes, I would think it was quite
unusual indeed for several to say they were coming and then just
become no shows!
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Re: How common is it for guests to reply "yes" and the
n not show up?
By: lakey Date: September 2, 2018, 4:59 pm
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When I was younger the rehearsal dinner was for the people who
went to the church to rehearse, so immediate family, wedding
party, and spouses. Everyone showed up because it was held after
leaving the rehearsal. It sounds to me that in some families the
rehearsal dinner has come to include more people, for instance,
out of town guests. My guess is that the people not showing up
are out of town guests, who decide they're too tired, or their
travel didn't go as expected. If that's the case, they should
have phoned and said they weren't going to make it. I also think
that if you are traveling, you should think through whether you
are going to want to commit to a dinner at the end of a travel
day.
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Re: How common is it for guests to reply "yes" and the
n not show up?
By: Sycorax Date: September 2, 2018, 6:25 pm
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If they extended the invitation to all of the out of town
guests, I don't know that I'd be *that* surprised if many of
them ended up not showing up, although they should have called
to say they couldn't make it.
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