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Re: Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
By: gramma dishes Date: September 15, 2018, 12:19 pm
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[quote author=browzer11 link=topic=634.msg13810#msg13810
date=1536984206]
"My cousin did Chinet plates a few years ago for Thanksgiving.
Also disposable cups.".
No offense, but paper plates and plastic/paper cups for a formal
Thanksgiving dinner?
[/quote]
What in the world is wrong with that? There may have been more
participants than plates and everyone being able to throw their
plates, napkins, cups, etc. into a giant black trash bag saved
hours of clean up time for hosts and gave them more opportunity
to mingle with their guests.
Given that Thanksgiving is virtually always celebrated with just
family and close friends, I don't tend to think of the gathering
as a 'formal' one. Just a sometimes boisterous one! :)
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Re: Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
By: lisastitch Date: September 15, 2018, 12:41 pm
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[quote author=Aleko link=topic=634.msg13812#msg13812
date=1537004445]
[quote]"My cousin did Chinet plates a few years ago for
Thanksgiving. Also disposable cups.".
No offense, but paper plates and plastic/paper cups for a formal
Thanksgiving dinner?
[/quote]
I'm English, so this is a real question, not rhetorical: how
'formal' is a Thanksgiving dinner? How formal can it be, given
that even small children take part in it? I suspect that we're
dealing with different understandings of the word formal, and
this is confusing the issue somewhat.
[/quote]
I agree that different understandings is part of it, but small
children can participate. My children's godmother hosts "the
godfamily" every year for Thanksgiving and Easter dinner, using
china, silver, crystal, and linen tablecloths, and the children
were always included. They may have been excused from the table
early, and they were always outnumbered by the adults, but they
knew this was a special occasion, they behaved, and participated
at the level appropriate for their age.
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Re: Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
By: caroled Date: September 15, 2018, 8:38 pm
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[quote author=happychick link=topic=634.msg13222#msg13222
date=1536286679]
My cousin did Chinet plates a few years ago for Thanksgiving.
Also disposable cups. I think we used real silverware though.
She had about 20 people for dinner. Her mom (my aunt-88) wasn't
too happy about it, but she wasn't doing the dishes. :)
[/quote]
browser11, happychick said nothing about the Thanksgiving
celebration being formal, just that host's mom wasn't happy with
the use of disposables.
If you are from a family that enjoy pulling out all the stops
and having a fully formal dinner, that is wonderful and I'm sure
it is beautiful and festive, but not everyone has the time,
finances or inclination to do so.
It does not mean that their celebration was in any way
inferior.
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Re: Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
By: Aleko Date: September 16, 2018, 9:33 am
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[quote]I agree that different understandings is part of it, but
small children can participate. My children's godmother hosts
"the godfamily" every year for Thanksgiving and Easter dinner,
using china, silver, crystal, and linen tablecloths, and the
children were always included. They may have been excused from
the table early, and they were always outnumbered by the adults,
but they knew this was a special occasion, they behaved, and
participated at the level appropriate for their age.[/quote]
I totally agree that small children can take part in a 'proper'
dinner, and enjoy it too; and I'm all for that. I only think
that their being there does change the dynamic - you may be
using crystal and fine china, but the atmosphere and
conversation won't be formal, and nor should they be.
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Re: Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
By: lakey Date: September 16, 2018, 10:04 pm
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[quote] Re: Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
« Reply #38 on: September 15, 2018, 04:40:45 am »
Quote
Quote
"My cousin did Chinet plates a few years ago for Thanksgiving.
Also disposable cups.".
No offense, but paper plates and plastic/paper cups for a formal
Thanksgiving dinner?
I'm English, so this is a real question, not rhetorical: how
'formal' is a Thanksgiving dinner? How formal can it be, given
that even small children take part in it? I suspect that we're
dealing with different understandings of the word formal, and
this is confusing the issue somewhat. I do know people who
normally eat TV dinners and so rarely sit down at a fully-laid
table for a meal of several courses that that for them is a
'formal meal'; but for me a 'formal dinner' or 'dinner party' is
one for adults, who know to come dressed in formal rather than
festive smart clothes*. And I think it's the dress code that is
key. If I've gone to the trouble, in honour of the occasion, to
put on the dress that is going to have to be expensively dry
cleaned and the lovely shoes that pinch my feet, I do kind of
expect the dinner table to do the equivalent. But for a
Christmas or family birthday dinner, where I go dressed
festively but not formally, I certainly wouldn't blink at
plastic plates, mismatched plates, or whatever.
[/quote]
You pretty much understand it with your description of a family
Christmas dinner. For many of us it's a huge holiday dinner with
fifteen to twenty or more people. Preparing that large a meal
for that many people is a lot of work. Also, most of us don't
have place settings for that many people. Then there's the big
job of clean up when you're already worn out from all the
preparation. Some of us don't have a dishwasher. I live alone,
so a dishwasher would be ridiculous for me.
I do the holiday meals for my family. At Easter there are
eight to ten people, so I use my regular plates and glasses. For
Christmas and Thanksgiving where there are about 16 people I use
Chinet plates, clear plastic glasses, and real silverware. I use
disposable foil pans for anything that goes in the oven. This
means that dishwashing is limited to a few pots and the
silverware.
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Re: Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
By: STiG Date: September 17, 2018, 9:09 am
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My MIL uses paper plates and plastic cups whenever she hosts the
family for large dinners. My SIL and I use our everyday plates,
glasses and stainless that can all go in the dishwasher, when it
is each household's turn to host.
Were I to host a more formal dinner, I'd use my good dinnerware
and my silver. And if it was really formal, I'd pull out the
good china with the silver.
Disposable is fine, IMO, for any large gathering or if the
host/ess of the soiree would find the clean-up particularly
onerous. But if you are having a sit down dinner for up to the
maximum number of people you can comfortably sit at your table?
You should use proper dishes. They don't have to match but they
should co-ordinate,
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Re: Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
By: DCGirl Date: September 19, 2018, 9:58 am
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[quote author=STiG link=topic=634.msg13947#msg13947
date=1537193357]
Disposable is fine, IMO, for any large gathering or if the
host/ess of the soiree would find the clean-up particularly
onerous. But if you are having a sit down dinner for up to the
maximum number of people you can comfortably sit at your table?
You should use proper dishes. They don't have to match but they
should co-ordinate,
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I collect Blue Willow-style dishes and use those for parties.
They don't match, but they do coordinate, and it was easy to
collect plates from thrift stores and yard sales at a reasonable
price.
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Re: Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
By: STiG Date: September 19, 2018, 10:21 am
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I love blue willow! And the nice thing about them is that you
can co-ordinate with plain white. My fancier than everyday but
not formal china Denby has white on it so I can use French white
Corelle pieces for serving. Which is good because the pattern
is discontinued and I'm not about to pay big bucks for extra
serving pieces.
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Re: Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
By: lisastitch Date: September 25, 2018, 5:59 pm
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[quote author=Aleko link=topic=634.msg13881#msg13881
date=1537108391]
[quote]I agree that different understandings is part of it, but
small children can participate. My children's godmother hosts
"the godfamily" every year for Thanksgiving and Easter dinner,
using china, silver, crystal, and linen tablecloths, and the
children were always included. They may have been excused from
the table early, and they were always outnumbered by the adults,
but they knew this was a special occasion, they behaved, and
participated at the level appropriate for their age.[/quote]
I totally agree that small children can take part in a 'proper'
dinner, and enjoy it too; and I'm all for that. I only think
that their being there does change the dynamic - you may be
using crystal and fine china, but the atmosphere and
conversation won't be formal, and nor should they be.
[/quote]
I'd say that the atmosphere and conversation were as formal as
it can be with children. They were dressed up, used their best
manners, had china and silver, and were included in the
conversation (just like the adults!). We never had a
"children's table", and we tried to make sure the kids enjoyed
themselves. The main concessions to having young ones there
were the timing of the meal and excusing them early. But it was
a formal meal by my definition.
I'm not sure what your definition of formal is, since you say
that the atmosphere and conversation won't be, and shouldn't be,
formal.
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Re: Use of disposable wear at parties - your thoughts
By: TootsNYC Date: September 30, 2018, 10:53 pm
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=634.msg12511#msg12511
date=1535466127]
I logged in today and saw the title and thought "who is posting
about wearing disposable diapers to parties" and I realized it
was my post and I'd use the wrong "ware".
Modified :)
[/quote]
Jennifer. Jennifer is posting about wearing disposable diapers
to parties. Because unfortunately, Jennifer poops at parties.
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