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Use of disposable ware at parties - your thoughts
By: Hmmm Date: August 27, 2018, 8:31 am
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I seldom use disposable plates, cutlery, or glasses at most
dinners or parties I host. However that is primarily because I
am naturally frugal and hate spending $20 on things that will go
into the garbage. I am not bothered as a guest being served from
plastic, especially at a cocktail party.
However, Miss Manners response to the second letter writer
irritated me. For one, she often complains about people not
being willing to host guests anymore. Well, telling people they
can't use disposable items or put other restrictions on
convenience isn't going to encourage them to be comfortable
hosting. Second, has she not seen disposable products these
days? The high end plastic ones are extremely sturdy.
HTML https://www.uexpress.com/miss-manners/2018/8/25/getting-out-of-an-office-baby
edited title because I realized this morning when I looked at it
that using wear implied wearing disposable clothing, not
disposable flatware or dishes. ;)
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Re: Use of disposable wear at parties - your thoughts
By: bridalviolet Date: August 27, 2018, 8:44 am
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In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with disposable flatware,
cups and plates. If the people you invite have a problem with
it, that's exactly what it is--their problem. They should be
coming to your party because they want to see you, not to be
impressed with your equipment.
I went to two parties these past two weekends. At the first, the
hostess lives in a large, beautiful house in an upscale
neighbourhood, and she served catered food on gorgeous china.
At the second, the hostess lives in a studio apartment in a
small town, and she served a buffet of tacos from card tables on
sturdy disposable plates.
Both parties were fun, because I liked the people and the
hostesses had made an effort to do the best they could.
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Re: Use of disposable wear at parties - your thoughts
By: Dazi Date: August 27, 2018, 9:21 am
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If it's clean and you can eat/drink off/out of it, who cares. I
don't begrudge my hostess for not wanting to spend hours
cleaning up dishes.
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Re: Use of disposable wear at parties - your thoughts
By: Soop Date: August 27, 2018, 10:02 am
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Miss Manners refers to plates that fall apart in your hands.
What decade is she from? Even the plates from the dollar store
these days are sturdy enough to not fall apart. The questioner
in that letter refers to plates that look like cut glass. Those
aren't going to fall apart.
There's manners and then there's snobbery. MM's answer is the
latter IMO.
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Re: Use of disposable wear at parties - your thoughts
By: Sycorax Date: August 27, 2018, 11:20 am
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I'm on the LW's side. There are some really nice disposable
plates and cutlery out there. In addition to the plastic ones
that can look like glass or china, there are also some neat
looking ones made of bamboo. I only would be judge-y if these
were the plates that you need to take more than one so that
they'd actually support your food.
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Re: Use of disposable wear at parties - your thoughts
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 27, 2018, 11:41 am
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I agree that Miss Manners doesn't know her disposable plates! My
sister purchased some for my nephew's graduation party. They
were so sturdy, that we put them in the dishwasher and used them
at the next family gathering a second time (and a third time...
I'll have to tell you if they make it past the fourth!!!)
I have definitely used paper plates that could not handle the
food that was being served. But that really didn't take away
from the party. And anyone who so openly disapproved of my
hosting would not be making the "cut" in the future.
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Re: Use of disposable wear at parties - your thoughts
By: GardenGal Date: August 27, 2018, 11:56 am
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ITA with those who noted that Miss Manners is way off about
disposable wear. We used to host 2 very large (100+ people)
potluck parties every year. I used high quality paper plates
and really good plastic cutlery. The cutlery was so good we'd
wash it and reuse it year after year. If any of my friends had
a problem with this they were polite enough not to mention it to
me.
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Re: Use of disposable wear at parties - your thoughts
By: dani321 Date: August 27, 2018, 12:20 pm
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If someone wants me to use non-disposable dishes, cutlery and
glasses at a party, they can wash the dishes for me! I buy good
quality disposable products, nothing is going to fall apart.
Even my MIL, who has to decorate the table for every occasion,
uses disposable plates sometimes. Of course, I also don't
socialize with snobs, and I think that's the LW's biggest
problem, they have a friend who is a massive snob. It's very
rude to complain about someone else's hospitality, even if it
may not be up to your standards. No one should rent dishes and
flatware for an informal cocktail party! It's not a wedding or a
gala. Even the comments on uexpress are mostly in favor of the
LW, and those people on that site can be vicious! (Which is a
huge reason I love it here! Even when people disagree they don't
get vicious and ugly!)
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Re: Use of disposable wear at parties - your thoughts
By: betty Date: August 27, 2018, 1:48 pm
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Miss Manners showed how out of touch of real life she is with
that answer. Sturdy plastic (or even paper) plates and sturdy
plastic flatware are a thing that most people who have gone to a
party in the past, what, 30+ years have used.
Disposable dishes and silverware are fine for parties! We use
regular plates and silverware for small groups, but I would
never think to rent or borrow more for a bigger group. That's
what the paper plates and plastic flatware are for, and no one
seems to mind. I do ask people to toss the plastic flatware in
the sink for me to wash, but no big deal if some of it gets
lost. If I was trying to be fancy, I'd buy the exact plates
mentioned in the original letter: hard clear plastic.
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Re: Use of disposable wear at parties - your thoughts
By: gramma dishes Date: August 27, 2018, 2:03 pm
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Confession of a little old apparently foul minded lady here.
::)
Every time I read the title to this thread, my brain reads:
"Use of disposable underwear at parties -- your thoughts." And
my thought was "Why would (or wouldn't for that matter) anyone
wear disposable underwear to parties? Maybe if there's a
leakage problem, but who would know and what difference would it
make to anyone?"
I honestly never ever correct anyone's spelling, but it does
point out the difference between where our brains go with the
differences between the words wear and ware. ;D
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