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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: guest657 Date: August 26, 2018, 5:03 pm
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[quote author=vintagegal link=topic=631.msg12262#msg12262
date=1535303615]
My stepson and his wife got one- I loved her reasoning. She used
to babysit some kids, and their favorite video to watch was of
their parents' wedding! So they had a wedding video too.
I watched it once at their house, and after my husband died,
they sent me a copy so I could see him and me dancing whenever I
wanted.
[/quote]
Those are the two sweetest reasons I ever heard to have a
wedding video. Your stepson and his wife sound like very lovely
people.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: AnnNottingham Date: August 26, 2018, 5:52 pm
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This reminds me of Erma Bombeck's hilarious essay on vacation
slides in "When you look like your passport photo, it's time to
go home". She thought they could replace guns with slides, and
countries at war could flash slides at one another.
When I got married 21 years ago, we had a video done. I've only
seen it once-when we got it back from the videographer. We
looked like marshmallows. It probably got shuffled in with some
other tapes somewhere.
It's also another way to grab a lot of money! We didn't spend
$9,000 on the entire wedding.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: Pattycake Date: August 26, 2018, 6:49 pm
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Someone videoed my friends' daughter's wedding last month. I
suspect mostly it will be used to be sent to his family and
friends in AK who weren't able to be at the wedding, which I
think is an acceptable reason. And they have friends from
college they'll send it to, since they're not going back this
year. And the family will probably gather to watch it and
lovingly mock them. But a whole party to see a thousand
pictures? uh uh, no thanks!
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: NFPwife Date: August 26, 2018, 8:38 pm
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[quote author=NyaChan link=topic=631.msg12261#msg12261
date=1535302148]
I have attended these in a very casual sense. Weddings are a
real family affair in Indian culture and when photos and video
come in, it’s not unusual to get together and have it playing
while people eat and chat. That said, if a friend invited me as
a more planned, structured event I’d invent an excuse to avoid
attending. The family event works solely because it isn’t really
about everyone sitting to view the video and pictures
attentively and focusing on bride/groom. People come and go, we
cook, eat and the bride/groom aren’t really being celebrated.
[/quote]
I think this is a nice way for everyone to see the pictures and
video and get together as a family. That the couple isn't being
celebrated and is hosting others is a nice shift, especially for
couples who expected to be the center of the universe during the
planning and wedding.
A more formal viewing with sales opportunities as well as snacks
borders on tacky.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: Aleko Date: August 27, 2018, 2:23 am
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[quote]This reminds me of Erma Bombeck's hilarious essay on
vacation slides in "When you look like your passport photo, it's
time to go home". She thought they could replace guns with
slides, and countries at war could flash slides at one
another.[/quote]
I've never encountered that one. But the British satirical rag
Private Eye published a cartoon of a street beggar sitting on
the pavement with a notice saying 'I LOOK AT YOUR HOLIDAY SNAPS
FOR 50p' that was pinned on my parents' corkboard for more than
20 years - we all so hated sitting in my aunt and uncle's house
watching the slides of their mountaineering trips.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: crella Date: August 27, 2018, 2:45 am
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[quote author=GardenGal link=topic=631.msg12274#msg12274
date=1535313598]
This sounds like another way for the wedding industry to make
money. If a happy couple want others to see their video, it
would be charming if they invited folks to their house for a
viewing and light refreshments.
My dad was a photographer, and when I got married he made a
wonderful video of the event, complete with funny/charming
captions. I lost track of where the video was (dad kept it
'cause he had the projector - this was in 1969, so very
different technology back then). Fast forward about 40 years
and my brother, whom I usually only speak to twice a year (no
bad feelings, we just don't have much in common) tells me in our
semi-annual phone call that he threw away the wedding video.
What?!?!?! If he had done so and never mentioned it to me, it
would have been fine, but to tell me after the fact when he
could have called me to ask if I wanted him to mail it to me
just about broke my heart. I would have loved that video, which
I could have transferred to a DVD, but wasn't given that option.
[/quote]
Oh, that's terrible. I'm so sorry to hear that.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: Hmmm Date: August 27, 2018, 8:10 am
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For me, it's a "too each his own" issue. I wouldn't spend that
type of money on a viewing party. I guess it would be nice to
have a very high end, cinematic quality video of my wedding.
(Our photographers car was broken into the day after our wedding
and his camcorder and one of his cameras with our wedding video
and most of the photos from the reception were stolen, so no
videos).
I can see the parents, maybe siblings and a few in the wedding
party being willing to spend an evening at a viewing party like
what was described.
But really, the last paragraph of the article sums it up for me.
The couple's are having limelight and planning withdrawals and
have found another way to string out the wedding activities. And
there of course is someone out there ready and willing to
exploit their desires.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 27, 2018, 11:52 am
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If I read correctly, it sounds like the video is only twenty
minutes long. To me, that actually makes a bit of a difference.
The family wedding videos that we have last HOURS and I would
NOT be interested in attending a party to view them. This sounds
like more of highlight video. It sounds like the video would be
a smaller part of the evening and I could survive twenty
minutes. (The highlights might actually be enjoyable, too.) Then
the focus of the party would be more about enjoying the people
who were there.
Some things that would drive this right into tacky for me.
1) If this became yet another reason to gift the couple. I am
already overwhelmed by engagement gifts, bridal shower gifts,
bachelor/ette party gifts, AND wedding gifts.
2) If this became a way to not invite people to the wedding, but
still get a gift. If I am not good enough to invite to the
wedding, then I am certainly not good enough to be invited to
the video-viewing party.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: dani321 Date: August 27, 2018, 12:33 pm
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[quote author=Aleko link=topic=631.msg12246#msg12246
date=1535280311]
Yikes! I'd break my own leg if necessary to avoid one of these.
Even if I thought the wedding had been wonderful.
[quote]“It was almost as exciting as the wedding itself because
you’re watching it with all the people who were with you the
first time,” said Kevin Turchin, 29, a financial analyst from
Miami. “There’s all this energy in the room and everyone is
crying.”[/quote]
I can't help but wonder if a few of the people were sobbing
because having unwisely accepted they were now trapped there,
forced to watch the whole d*mn vid plus the bride's niece doing
her Speshul Dance.
Seriously: if you want a professional movie of your wedding,
that's up to you; but when you've got it, just watch it
yourself, post it somewhere all the wedding guests can watch it
(YouTube, Dropbox, wherever) and mailshot or FB them to let them
know where to find it if they want. Just don't try and round
them up for a re-run of your big day.
Weddings have been expanding exponentially in the last few
decades: once upon a time the wedding guests and even the bridal
party only had to turn up clean and nicely dressed on the big
day, now the wedding itself is often just the last day of an
exhausting series of showers, dinners, spa days, overseas trips
and Lord knows what. This is a blatant attempt by the wedding
industry to expand the whole circus, and thus their market,
after the Big Day as well. Also tapping into the 'post-wedding
blues' that are now quite commonplace, which have themselves
been induced by the enormous effort and long-term planning that
an elaborate modern wedding requires. For a decade or so bridal
magazines have been running articles about dealing these blues,
often brightly suggesting that the bride 'start planning your
first anniversary celebration now!' ??? :o ???
It's entirely logical that some bright spark would suggest that
the solution to finding yourself for the first time in years
without a Big Day to organise is to drag everyone back for
another lavish party to re-run it. But my advice to newlyweds
thinking of paying for this fandango is to ask themselves, how
will you feel if half or more of your family and friends feel
they've already put quite enough energy into seeing you getting
hitched, and decline politely?
[/quote]
The bolded was my initial reaction ;D No thank you for me,
please! I watched my good friend's video, just because I was
there when it was delivered, and it was cool and all, but if she
had invited me over specifically to watch it, I think I'd find a
reason to decline. I've only watched my own video a couple of
times, and it's only a few minutes long. It just isn't going to
be exciting for most people, other than maybe your parents and
the kind of people who are just really into weddings, so it's
definitely a "know your audience" thing. And if you've already
had an engagement party, shower(s), bachelor/ette parties,
wedding, post-wedding brunch, etc, most likely your friends do
not want to come to another party to celebrate you. I think
Aleko made a lot of good points, so I can keep my post short!
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: Belle Date: August 28, 2018, 12:15 pm
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[quote author=Aleko link=topic=631.msg12246#msg12246
date=1535280311]
Yikes! I'd break my own leg if necessary to avoid one of these.
Even if I thought the wedding had been wonderful. [/quote]
This is where I fall. Nope nope nope, not interested. I'm not
opposed to flipping through a few of the photos (though not the
8,000 that many couples seem to order), but I have no interest
in watching a video of an event that I already sat through.
Especially if it's the ceremony itself, which seems so
standardized in my neck of the woods.
In fact, for a few years, nearly all of my friends used
(literally) the same minister, the same church, the same
reception hall, the same caterer, and the same DJ. (Small town
with limited options.) Talk about deja vu by the time wedding #5
rolled around. I would definitely not want to rewatch the (same)
wedding again on video.
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