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Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: TeamBhakta Date: August 25, 2018, 11:42 pm
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The NY Times had an article about a new wedding trend:
Photographers are selling viewing parties to brides & grooms,
where a couple & their friends can rewatch their wedding video
or pictures together + enjoy light snacks. One photographer
shows 900-1400 photos at a viewing. Another company plays the
wedding video once for guests & then plays the tape again after
everyone has composed themselves. A bride at the end of the
article says she'd like to make the group viewing an annual
tradition.
Would you attend a party like this if someone invited you ?
Thoughts on this trend ?
HTML https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/31/fashion/weddings/if-you-thought-the-wedding-was-fun-youll-love-the-movie.html
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: Aleko Date: August 26, 2018, 5:45 am
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Yikes! I'd break my own leg if necessary to avoid one of these.
Even if I thought the wedding had been wonderful.
[quote]“It was almost as exciting as the wedding itself because
you’re watching it with all the people who were with you the
first time,” said Kevin Turchin, 29, a financial analyst from
Miami. “There’s all this energy in the room and everyone is
crying.”[/quote]
I can't help but wonder if a few of the people were sobbing
because having unwisely accepted they were now trapped there,
forced to watch the whole d*mn vid plus the bride's niece doing
her Speshul Dance.
Seriously: if you want a professional movie of your wedding,
that's up to you; but when you've got it, just watch it
yourself, post it somewhere all the wedding guests can watch it
(YouTube, Dropbox, wherever) and mailshot or FB them to let them
know where to find it if they want. Just don't try and round
them up for a re-run of your big day.
Weddings have been expanding exponentially in the last few
decades: once upon a time the wedding guests and even the bridal
party only had to turn up clean and nicely dressed on the big
day, now the wedding itself is often just the last day of an
exhausting series of showers, dinners, spa days, overseas trips
and Lord knows what. This is a blatant attempt by the wedding
industry to expand the whole circus, and thus their market,
after the Big Day as well. Also tapping into the 'post-wedding
blues' that are now quite commonplace, which have themselves
been induced by the enormous effort and long-term planning that
an elaborate modern wedding requires. For a decade or so bridal
magazines have been running articles about dealing these blues,
often brightly suggesting that the bride 'start planning your
first anniversary celebration now!' ??? :o ???
It's entirely logical that some bright spark would suggest that
the solution to finding yourself for the first time in years
without a Big Day to organise is to drag everyone back for
another lavish party to re-run it. But my advice to newlyweds
thinking of paying for this fandango is to ask themselves, how
will you feel if half or more of your family and friends feel
they've already put quite enough energy into seeing you getting
hitched, and decline politely?
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: Rose Red Date: August 26, 2018, 8:35 am
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I've watched friends videos and looked at their pictures, but it
was causal things at their homes and not the entire purpose of
the visit. I would not enjoy or accepting such a formal event.
And*light* snacks only? Please. :D
If my circle actually have a viewing party, pizza or potluck
will be served, a dozen conversations will be going on, lovingly
snarking at the video will happen. It won't be this dainty tea
party the brochures are selling. ;)
Oh, and an annual tradition? Narcissist much?
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: gramma dishes Date: August 26, 2018, 8:55 am
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I'd skip this and use the money to buy a decent used car. ;D
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: Luci Date: August 26, 2018, 9:55 am
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I don’t feel quite as strongly as Aleko 😀, but I would
think "They have got to be kidding," and politely decline.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: NyaChan Date: August 26, 2018, 11:49 am
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I have attended these in a very casual sense. Weddings are a
real family affair in Indian culture and when photos and video
come in, it’s not unusual to get together and have it playing
while people eat and chat. That said, if a friend invited me as
a more planned, structured event I’d invent an excuse to avoid
attending. The family event works solely because it isn’t really
about everyone sitting to view the video and pictures
attentively and focusing on bride/groom. People come and go, we
cook, eat and the bride/groom aren’t really being celebrated.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: vintagegal Date: August 26, 2018, 12:13 pm
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My stepson and his wife got one- I loved her reasoning. She used
to babysit some kids, and their favorite video to watch was of
their parents' wedding! So they had a wedding video too.
I watched it once at their house, and after my husband died,
they sent me a copy so I could see him and me dancing whenever I
wanted.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: gramma dishes Date: August 26, 2018, 12:31 pm
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[quote author=vintagegal link=topic=631.msg12262#msg12262
date=1535303615]
My stepson and his wife got one- I loved her reasoning. She used
to babysit some kids, and their favorite video to watch was of
their parents' wedding! So they had a wedding video too.
I watched it once at their house, and after my husband died,
they sent me a copy so I could see him and me dancing whenever I
wanted.
[/quote]
That is truly genuinely sweet.
I always assumed that wedding videos probably went the way of
the wedding photo album. You look through it a few times the
first year or so and then in gets shelved and never sees the
light of day again until your 50th anniversary or something.
It's nice to know people actually do get joy out of watching
them often.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: Lula Date: August 26, 2018, 2:47 pm
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Maybe I'm just channeling my grandmother's spirit, but some
people just really hate their money.
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Re: Wedding Video Viewing Parties
By: GardenGal Date: August 26, 2018, 2:59 pm
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This sounds like another way for the wedding industry to make
money. If a happy couple want others to see their video, it
would be charming if they invited folks to their house for a
viewing and light refreshments.
My dad was a photographer, and when I got married he made a
wonderful video of the event, complete with funny/charming
captions. I lost track of where the video was (dad kept it
'cause he had the projector - this was in 1969, so very
different technology back then). Fast forward about 40 years
and my brother, whom I usually only speak to twice a year (no
bad feelings, we just don't have much in common) tells me in our
semi-annual phone call that he threw away the wedding video.
What?!?!?! If he had done so and never mentioned it to me, it
would have been fine, but to tell me after the fact when he
could have called me to ask if I wanted him to mail it to me
just about broke my heart. I would have loved that video, which
I could have transferred to a DVD, but wasn't given that option.
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