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Re: Potluck Wedding Reception
By: Chez Miriam Date: October 16, 2018, 8:15 am
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I can't remember a wedding I didn't travel well over an hour to
reach, so I would hate to imagine what any food I'd prepared
would be like after a couple of hours in a car. Ordinarily, we
travel the day before and stay overnight. Most UK hotels do not
have a kitchen in the room...
I absolutely wouldn't consider lugging food when dressed in my
finery on public transport!
I was "voluntold" to bring rice salad to one party: yeah, two+
hours in a car on a hot day - that's not a risk [food poisoning
from warm rice is a very real possibility] I was prepared to
take. I was working out how to refuse, when the 'host'
cancelled the party at short notice. I was so relieved.
The only way I would be happy being told to bring food is
because I wouldn't then have to make efforts to find a(nother)
gift to bring.
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Re: Potluck Wedding Reception
By: IceBear Date: October 16, 2018, 5:31 pm
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A potluck wedding would only be a good idea under very specific
circumstances.
- only guests who live nearby should be expected to bring
hot/cold dishes where food safety is an issue, or there needs to
be a "staging fridge" where people can leave their dishes
- ice needs to be available to tuck under cold dishes and
plugins need to be available for crock pots
- the meal needs to be held well after the ceremony to allow
people to go home and get their hot/cold food.
I really do believe that most people would figure the food
safety issues out themselves. I have definitely gotten food
poisoning from a restaurant, where their motivation is to not
waste food even if it's bad. I've never gotten food poisoning
from a potluck.
It is unfortunate, but people with food allergies might just
have to eat beforehand or afterward. If they don't make a big
deal about it, this kind of atmosphere sounds like one where
nobody would care much if they brought their own food to eat
either.
#Post#: 16326--------------------------------------------------
Re: Potluck Wedding Reception
By: gramma dishes Date: October 16, 2018, 7:40 pm
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[quote author=IceBear link=topic=623.msg16315#msg16315
date=1539729114]
... I have definitely gotten food poisoning from a restaurant,
where their motivation is to not waste food even if it's bad.
...
[/quote]
Around here the restaurants don't care as much about wasting
food as they do about being sued and/or shut down for causing
food poisoning. The damage to their reputation is often
totally irreparable.
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Re: Potluck Wedding Reception
By: TeamBhakta Date: October 16, 2018, 9:28 pm
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[quote author=IceBear link=topic=623.msg16315#msg16315
date=1539729114]
I really do believe that most people would figure the food
safety issues out themselves. I have definitely gotten food
poisoning from a restaurant, where their motivation is to not
waste food even if it's bad. I've never gotten food poisoning
from a potluck.
[/quote]
A lot of people's understanding of food safety is unfortunately
a mix of "I never got sick when Mom did it" & "Nobody ever told
me not to do that." For example, Chez Miriam & I both know that
cooked rice can make someone sick, but someone on my camping
board was incorrectly telling people recently "Cooked rice
doesn't need to be refrigerated. There's no way for it to go bad
or make you sick. Pack it in tupperware & you can carry it
around for days on the trail" (which flies against what my state
food safety exam says :o)
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Re: Potluck Wedding Reception
By: Chez Miriam Date: October 17, 2018, 10:28 am
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[quote author=TeamBhakta link=topic=623.msg16333#msg16333
date=1539743283]
[quote author=IceBear link=topic=623.msg16315#msg16315
date=1539729114]
I really do believe that most people would figure the food
safety issues out themselves. I have definitely gotten food
poisoning from a restaurant, where their motivation is to not
waste food even if it's bad. I've never gotten food poisoning
from a potluck.
[/quote]
A lot of people's understanding of food safety is unfortunately
a mix of "I never got sick when Mom did it" & "Nobody ever told
me not to do that." For example, Chez Miriam & I both know that
cooked rice can make someone sick, but someone on my camping
board was incorrectly telling people recently "Cooked rice
doesn't need to be refrigerated. There's no way for it to go bad
or make you sick. Pack it in tupperware & you can carry it
around for days on the trail" (which flies against what my state
food safety exam says :o)
[/quote]
:o :o :o
I was thinking "my food safety training is over 30 years ago,
maybe rice has got safer?", but I don't believe that's^ a good
idea!
I'm glad your exam said the same thing, TeamBhakta!
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Re: Potluck Wedding Reception
By: Winterlight Date: October 23, 2018, 3:08 pm
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[quote author=Two Ravens link=topic=623.msg15903#msg15903
date=1539273714]
This reminds me of a recent submission to Carolyn Hax:
[quote].Dear Carolyn, My fiancé and I want a small, backyard
wedding with about 75 guests. My grandmother has a huge yard
that would be perfect for our wedding next spring. I asked her
if we could get married there and she said yes, so I was very
excited to start planning. Then last weekend I had lunch with my
sister. She told me that our grandmother is too old and isn’t
well enough physically to get her house ready to host an event
like this so our mother will be doing most of the work. I told
her it was an outdoor wedding, all we have to do is get some
chairs and everything will work out. My sister started telling
me I have to plan for parking, bathrooms, permits, chairs, a
tent for bad weather, alerting the neighbors, hiring a lawn
company to fix up our grandmothers lawn and I’m sure I am
forgetting stuff. I just wanted a simple backyard wedding and my
grandma agreed to it, now it feels really complicated. I am
upset with my mother and sister for inserting themselves into
something that ought to be between me and my grandma. How can I
get them to back off? [/quote]
I think this is similar in the columnist is not thinking of all
of the logistics and preparation that will need to go into her
potluck wedding.
(Carolyn basically told the chatter her sister was right and her
simple wedding was imaginary.)
[/quote]
Reading that chat made my eyes roll like pinballs and say, "Oh,
bless your heart, LW."
I agree. It sounds like a sweet idea, but the LW does need to
think about things like not blocking the neighboring
driveways/parking, the fact that the average house doesn't have
enough bathrooms for 75 people to use at least once during the
event without long lines (and there may be an ordnance that
requires them getting a portapotty or two), keeping her guests
from potentially drowning if it rains/passing out from
heatstroke if it's hot, etc. Not to mention not shuffling all
the responsibility onto her mom and grandmother.
I think part of the problem is that a lot of people have stopped
throwing formal events, so they don't really grasp the work that
goes into them.
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