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#Post#: 12018--------------------------------------------------
Re: Adjusting the thermostat
DIR By: Aleko
Date: August 23, 2018, 7:19 am
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> That said, I am almost always hot and when I get overheated I
am really uncomfortable.
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Me too. Visiting my in-laws, who always kept their house really
hot and stuffy, was always uncomfortable, and Christmas Day (my
MIL believed in the British One-Room Christmas, in which you
insist the visiting relatives turn up as early in the morning as
physically possible, and keep them corralled all together in the
living room ALL DAY with only bathroom breaks, till after
supper, the fourth meal of the day, they are allowed to go home
to bed) was a true ordeal: mind-blowing boredom in the stuffy
heat of below-decks-on-a-tramp-steamer-in-the-tropics. I only
put my foot down when my MIL suggested we stay overnight (we
only lived a few miles away) so DH and I could both 'relax and
have a drink or two'. I said, only if you open the spare room
window: I don't like to sleep with the window closed anyway and
know I CANNOT sleep at all in the temperature you stoke your
house to. MIL and step-FIL said that wouldn't be possible
because all the upstairs windows were kept locked and they had
actually forgotten where the keys were. No sleepover, then, said
I, and stuck to that.
#Post#: 12041--------------------------------------------------
Re: Adjusting the thermostat
DIR By: gramma dishes
Date: August 23, 2018, 12:31 pm
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>
>
> .... I am on the chilly side almost all the time, but I dress
warmly, and if truly miserable, I might ask for a sweater
(although it has never come to that).
>
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Me too. I rarely go to anyone else's home without a lightweight
fleece or down jacket. If it's warm enough I leave it off. If
I'm cold, I put it on.
#Post#: 12059--------------------------------------------------
Re: Adjusting the thermostat
DIR By: Girlie
Date: August 23, 2018, 3:24 pm
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Changing someone's thermostat is rude. If I was so uncomfortable
in someone's house that I was unable to be satisfied even after
they had changed the thermostat for my (or someone else's)
benefit, I would leave - and I would be polite about it.
Never would it occur to me to change someone's thermostat on my
own!
#Post#: 12106--------------------------------------------------
Re: Adjusting the thermostat
DIR By: Twik
Date: August 24, 2018, 8:37 am
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We had a "tricky" thermostat in my parent's house. If you nudged
it the wrong way, it could take ages to get it back to a
reasonable temperature. So if you start changing the temperature
without knowing if the thermostat has its own foibles, you can
make a bad situation worse.
#Post#: 12173--------------------------------------------------
Re: Adjusting the thermostat
DIR By: Bada
Date: August 24, 2018, 4:30 pm
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>
> We had a "tricky" thermostat in my parent's house. If you
nudged it the wrong way, it could take ages to get it back to a
reasonable temperature. So if you start changing the temperature
without knowing if the thermostat has its own foibles, you can
make a bad situation worse.
>
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Right! I was forbidden from touching the thermostat growing
up. I still am when I visit my parents. It's set how it's set
for a reason, even if the visitors don't know the reason
#Post#: 12195--------------------------------------------------
Re: Adjusting the thermostat
DIR By: pierrotlunaire0
Date: August 24, 2018, 8:58 pm
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--- Quote from: Aleko link ---
>
> [quote]That said, I am almost always hot and when I get
overheated I am really uncomfortable.
--- End Quote ---
Me too. Visiting my in-laws, who always kept their house really
hot and stuffy, was always uncomfortable, and Christmas Day (my
MIL believed in the British One-Room Christmas, in which you
insist the visiting relatives turn up as early in the morning as
physically possible, and keep them corralled all together in the
living room ALL DAY with only bathroom breaks, till after
supper, the fourth meal of the day, they are allowed to go home
to bed) was a true ordeal: mind-blowing boredom in the stuffy
heat of below-decks-on-a-tramp-steamer-in-the-tropics. I only
put my foot down when my MIL suggested we stay overnight (we
only lived a few miles away) so DH and I could both 'relax and
have a drink or two'. I said, only if you open the spare room
window: I don't like to sleep with the window closed anyway and
know I CANNOT sleep at all in the temperature you stoke your
house to. MIL and step-FIL said that wouldn't be possible
because all the upstairs windows were kept locked and they had
actually forgotten where the keys were. No sleepover, then, said
I, and stuck to that.
[/quote]
Welcome to Family Holidays: The Nightmare Edition!
Good, fricking grief, how much more horrible could they make it?
(Rhetorical question. I am sure they had taken it to the max).
#Post#: 12215--------------------------------------------------
Re: Adjusting the thermostat
DIR By: Aleko
Date: August 25, 2018, 11:34 am
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> Good, fricking grief, how much more horrible could they make
it? (Rhetorical question. I am sure they had taken it to the
max).
>
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Well, there was presence of the mad aunt, whose behaviour, my DH
tells me, had always been selfish and tyrannical, although by
the time I came on the scene she had for years had full-blown
schizophrenia and since being on medication for it she was much
diminished. But on account of her presence we were only allowed
to do or talk about things that she could manage to engage with,
which generally boiled down to watching the dire Christmas
specials on TV.
I told my DH how much I hated it and he said 'Well, what do you
want to do on Christmas Day?' and I said 'Anything! I'm not
asking to spend the morning hill-walking then play a vicious
game of coarse hockey after lunch [my own family's traditional
Christmas Day programme]; if you guys wanted to go to church,
play charades, help out at a soup kitchen, go carol-singing, do
jigsaws even, I'd go along with it. It's sitting in that hot
room doing NOTHING that I can't stand.' I got into the habit of
bringing my small embroidery frame so at least I could do some
stitching to alleviate the boredom. My in-laws were convinced I
was a workaholic, not even able to relax and enjoy Christmas Day
without doing a Useful Task. I let them think that, rather than
have them suspect that simple repetitive cross-stitch was a lot
more interesting and enjoyable than their Christmas "merriment".
#Post#: 13315--------------------------------------------------
Re: Adjusting the thermostat
DIR By: Baron
Date: September 8, 2018, 10:27 am
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> My best friend is very cold natured and I am very hot natured.
We will adjust our thermostats somewhat during visits, but it's
still not completely comfortable (I've been known to wear shorts
and tshirt over to her house in the winter cause i know i will
be so warm inside). So she bought a small table top fan that I
use when I go to her house and I bought her a Harry Potter
themed snuggie for her to use at my house. And even though we
are the walk in the door, kick your shoes off, get your own dang
water and bring me some too while you're at it type of friends,
we would still never dream of adjusting each other's
thermostats.
>
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It is the same for me. I am...let's just say "fluffy" and go
with that. I get warm easily and usually keep my own house on
the cool side. I like to tease my good friend that she must
have been born on the surface of the sun because her house is,
to me, sweltering hot. To her, my house may as well be an
igloo. So, our compromise is that, if we are spending time in
one another's house, she lets me have the chair right under the
ceiling fan (for a nice cool breeze), and I keep a fleece
blanket on standby for her.
#Post#: 13506--------------------------------------------------
Re: Adjusting the thermostat
DIR By: BeagleMommy
Date: September 11, 2018, 2:46 pm
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You never adjust the thermostat in someone else's home. Ever.
There may be countless reasons why they set it to a particular
temperature.
My mom had an aunt who was wheelchair bound since she was in her
early thirties due to arthritis. Over time her circulation got
poorer and poorer. She kept her apartment thermostat set at 80.
The moment you walked in you started to sweat and if you stayed
long enough you would probably fall asleep.
I would never adjust her thermostat for my own comfort and make
her medical problems worse. We all knew that when you went to
visit Aunt Lou you wore lightweight clothes and left your coat
in the car.
#Post#: 13873--------------------------------------------------
Re: Adjusting the thermostat
DIR By: Raintree
Date: September 15, 2018, 11:51 pm
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--- Quote from: Aleko link ---
>
> [quote]Good, fricking grief, how much more horrible could they
make it? (Rhetorical question. I am sure they had taken it to
the max).
>
--- End Quote ---
Well, there was presence of the mad aunt, whose behaviour, my DH
tells me, had always been selfish and tyrannical, although by
the time I came on the scene she had for years had full-blown
schizophrenia and since being on medication for it she was much
diminished. But on account of her presence we were only allowed
to do or talk about things that she could manage to engage with,
which generally boiled down to watching the dire Christmas
specials on TV.
I told my DH how much I hated it and he said 'Well, what do you
want to do on Christmas Day?' and I said 'Anything! I'm not
asking to spend the morning hill-walking then play a vicious
game of coarse hockey after lunch [my own family's traditional
Christmas Day programme]; if you guys wanted to go to church,
play charades, help out at a soup kitchen, go carol-singing, do
jigsaws even, I'd go along with it. It's sitting in that hot
room doing NOTHING that I can't stand.' I got into the habit of
bringing my small embroidery frame so at least I could do some
stitching to alleviate the boredom. My in-laws were convinced I
was a workaholic, not even able to relax and enjoy Christmas Day
without doing a Useful Task. I let them think that, rather than
have them suspect that simple repetitive cross-stitch was a lot
more interesting and enjoyable than their Christmas "merriment".
[/quote]
Hahaha!! This sounds completely dreadful.
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