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#Post#: 11557--------------------------------------------------
Re: Harbor or River Cruise Receptions.
By: Aleko Date: August 17, 2018, 8:32 am
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[quote]I can not stand weddings where there is a 2 to 4 hour
down time between ceremony and reception.
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Me too. I'd far rather be committed to a 3-hour cruise than have
to kick my heels (or, worse still, have to pay for a hotel room)
because the bride and groom want two separate events.
#Post#: 11565--------------------------------------------------
Re: Harbor or River Cruise Receptions.
By: lmyrs Date: August 17, 2018, 10:15 am
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It sounds awesome to me. If it sounds horrible to someone else,
they can skip it. Seems pretty simple all in all.
And it's certainly not rude. Just because someone doesn't like
your party, it doesn't make you rude for throwing it.
#Post#: 11567--------------------------------------------------
Re: Harbor or River Cruise Receptions.
By: Dr. F. Date: August 17, 2018, 10:25 am
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[quote author=Aleko link=topic=605.msg11557#msg11557
date=1534512740]
[quote]I can not stand weddings where there is a 2 to 4 hour
down time between ceremony and reception.
[/quote]
Me too. I'd far rather be committed to a 3-hour cruise than have
to kick my heels (or, worse still, have to pay for a hotel room)
because the bride and groom want two separate events.
[/quote]
Something about this wording (3-hour cruise) has made me
suspicious that the entire wedding would somehow end up on
Gilligan's Island...
#Post#: 11570--------------------------------------------------
Re: Harbor or River Cruise Receptions.
By: dani321 Date: August 17, 2018, 11:21 am
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I personally feel that a couple should plan whatever kind of
ceremony and reception they'd like, at whatever venue they'd
like. The catch is, if they choose something less traditional,
they may have less guests, and I think that they have to accept
that very gracefully. If you (general) want a destination
wedding in Tahiti, then I think that's awesome but you aren't
allowed to get upset when very few people are able and willing
to come. If you want a wedding to be on a boat, you're going to
need to realize that's not for everyone (especially if it's not
docked) and there may be some who decline the invitation for
that reason only. So in my opinion, rudeness only sets in if you
become upset that others aren't willing to jump through hoops to
attend your wedding, not for having it at a less traditional
venue. For every person who hates the thought of a destination
wedding, there's someone else who would jump at the chance to
take a vacation and visit somewhere new. And as evidenced here
in this thread, for every person who hates the thought of a boat
reception, there's someone else who thinks it's the coolest idea
ever. So I say, to each their own! All we need to do is be
gracious about our responses. (ie, no need to say "I would
rather stick rusty forks in my eyes than be stuck on a boat with
you and your friends" although I think it's very fair and polite
to say "I'm so sorry to miss it, but I get too seasick")
#Post#: 11579--------------------------------------------------
Re: Harbor or River Cruise Receptions.
By: Lizzard Date: August 17, 2018, 1:47 pm
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Some of the charter boats in Toronto harbour will allow a water
taxi to dock to them and take people off early. It could be
something to ask about.
#Post#: 11592--------------------------------------------------
Re: Harbor or River Cruise Receptions.
By: jpcher Date: August 17, 2018, 2:43 pm
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[quote author=Thitpualso link=topic=605.msg11438#msg11438
date=1534344832]
I’ve been to parties on chartered boats and seen TV shows with
Wedding receptions on similar craft. Personally, I don’t like
them.
These affairs can be elegant and picturesque but there are
drawbacks. It’s fine if the boat is moored but, if a short
cruise is involved there are drawbacks.
I don’t like being a captive guest for the duration of the
celebration and that’s exactly what you are until the boat
docks.
What do other BM&B members think about this sort of reception?
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I don't see the point of having a party on a boat if the boat is
moored. I mean the point of a party on a boat is enjoying a
cruise during the party. I would hope the invitees would
understand that the boat will move and choose accordingly
whether or not to attend.
I agree with dani321. On your special day you should plan the
party of your dreams. If it doesn't accommodate everybody on
your guest list then you should respect the choice of
non-attendance.
I've heard of sky-diving weddings. Is it for me? Absolutely not.
But I would never take offense nor think the couple was rude in
any way. They are hosting the party of their dreams and I would
send them my well wishes along with my polite regrets of
non-attendance.
Personally? I would thoroughly enjoy a party on a cruise boat.
My DD#2? Nope, no way (she's suffered from motion sickness since
she was born).
To each his own. Absolutely nothing rude about hosting a party
of your choice.
#Post#: 11608--------------------------------------------------
Re: Harbor or River Cruise Receptions.
By: mime Date: August 17, 2018, 7:28 pm
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I also agree with dani321: host the party you want, and be ready
to accept the fact that the more unusual or distant you get, the
more likely some guests will not attend.
I had a good friend get married on a boat. It was docked for the
ceremony, and two couples left right after that. Then while
dinner was served, it cruised upriver and back to the starting
point, where two families decided to leave. Next, it cruised
down river for a while and back again to finish the trip. In
total, we were maybe 4 hours on the boat. After that, most of
the guests went to the bride's parents' house for a change of
clothes, volleyball, movies, and a bonfire. At that point,
several people didn't continue, but all were invited and
welcomed. The whole thing appeared to work well-- lots of
opportunities for people to leave early, and those of us who
wanted to make a whole day of it could do so.
I thought our hosts did a great job.
#Post#: 12049--------------------------------------------------
Re: Harbor or River Cruise Receptions.
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 23, 2018, 1:42 pm
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An invitation is not a summons (or so I've learned.) I am prone
to motion sickness, so much so that I can almost guarantee that
it will happen. (Although, I recently found a pill that has been
life changing.) So, when I hear party on a boat... I am not too
excited. But it's my decision. I can give a polite decline and
not have to attend. If it is someone that I am close with, I may
explain my reasoning, but I do not see this as being forced.
I also don't like cement floors, dark rooms, or lacy
tablecloths... having a reception that everyone loves is
impossible!
#Post#: 12259--------------------------------------------------
Re: Harbor or River Cruise Receptions.
By: Luci Date: August 26, 2018, 10:12 am
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It sounds kind of cool, but I would feel I was being held
hostage. We usually leave receptions a bit early because of the
noise.
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