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Re: When someone apologies but you're still frosty
DIR By: sandisadie
Date: January 12, 2020, 3:36 pm
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If I don't believe that the person issuing the apology is really
sincere but is just doing this because they think they have to,
I say "I accept your apology in the spirit in which it is
given". I think that lets them know how I really feel about the
situation, and saying that makes me feel like I've fulfilled my
obligation to answer them. This has only happened to me a
couple of times.
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Re: When someone apologies but you're still frosty
DIR By: oogyda
Date: January 20, 2020, 12:14 pm
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When we were selling our last house, the closing date got pushed
back twice due to issues the buyer ran into.
At the closing, his realtor "apologized" for the delay fully
expecting a "that's okay" type response. She didn't get it. I
gave her "the look" and said "The delays cost us at least one
additional house payment and those are things that legally
should have been disclosed. As long as this closing goes
through *today*, it'll be fine."
The home stayed on the market (with the condition of "sale
pending") so if we'd had another decent offer, we would have
taken it. We could have done so, because the issues the buyer
ran into were caused by situations that he hadn't properly
disclosed....as he legally should have.
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Re: When someone apologies but you're still frosty
DIR By: BrownEyedGirl
Date: February 14, 2020, 10:11 pm
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I get this sometimes in my line of work. I work in support staff
for a mental health center and sometimes we get people, either
on the phone or in person, who get angry over the course of an
interaction with us. Sometimes they apologize and sometimes
they don't, but when they do apologize, rather than saying 'it's
okay' I say 'thank you, I really appreciate you saying that.'
It's polite and I imagine it lets them feel like they did the
right thing by apologizing (which they did) and at the same time
it's not exactly letting them off the hook for their poor
behavior in the first place. Seems like a good happy medium.
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Re: When someone apologies but you're still frosty
DIR By: holly firestorm
Date: April 10, 2020, 7:48 pm
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I think there are times people apologize for things that really
were out of control. It's not OK, but, it's not their fault
either.
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