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       Re: 3-in-1 Celebration Invitation (Housewarming, Birthday, Baby 
       Shower)
       By: Lilac Date: August 22, 2018, 4:31 pm
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       The only one of these celebrations I am OK with is the
       housewarming.  Etiquettely, it's OK to host your own because it
       more or less has to take place at the dwelling and no one but
       the homeowners/renters can offer the dwelling as a venue.
       When guests are assembled and the party or open house is
       underway, it's fine to say "Oh everyone, btw, today is Jay's
       birthday; how about we sing to him! OK great, and there's cake &
       champagne on the kitchen island -- do help yourselves!"  That
       way Jay gets what he apparently needs -- a round of attention &
       congrats to celebrate his birthday -- without pre-planting the
       expectation in guests that the occasion is about him in any way.
       Why, really, do they need to know in advance?
       As to the pregnancy aspect --no, just no.  You don't host your
       own baby shower.  Ever.  If friends ask about a registry, the
       classiest response is "thanks so much for asking, but we're
       fortuante to have everything baby needs" and if super pressed,
       "Well, if you insist, we'd be honored if you wanted to
       contribute a beloved book to her library."   The only people I
       would provide registry info to are those who would be
       comfortable calling me at 3 a.m. to pick them up at the airport
       or bail them out of jail.  If we aern't that close, I would feel
       like a worm accepting costly items I should be providing for my
       own child.  It's really just fine to keep repeating "No, we have
       no registry; we are all set for her arrival -- but thank you!
       We can't wait to introduce you to her."
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