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Re: Conventional remarks to avoid
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: August 15, 2018, 2:07 pm
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Sometimes I say to the kids at church, when I haven't seen them
in a while, "Every time I see you, you just look older! How are
you doing that?!?"
As if it's an amazing magic trick. But I never wait for them
to answer.
I just waltz right ahead into, "Now, what grade are you in? I
can never remember, and of course, you keep changing it every
year."
They seem to get that I'm making a joke.
#Post#: 11865--------------------------------------------------
Re: Conventional remarks to avoid
DIR By: gmatoy
Date: August 21, 2018, 2:55 pm
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--- Quote from: Luci link ---
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> To be honest, I usually didn’t mind those comments because it
made me remember that I did know this person once and she
remembered me and it was fleeting and not needing a response
other than a head nod or thank. Yes, even when I was older. It
is often a way people acknowledge the presence of a kid before
he is ignored the rest of the visit.
>
> As a child, I didn’t mind being told I looked like my mother
because she was a hardworking ordinary looking woman. Even at my
brother's funeral, most of the visitors were taught by my mom or
knew her through the church so I got many "you look just like
your mother!" comments. Well, she’s been gone 50 years and there
are still people who remember her!
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> Do I refrain from these comments to children? Usually, merely
because they sound so lame when in a movie or tv show and the
kid actor seems uncomfortable.
>
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Luci, I am often told that I look like my mother. To which I
have always said, "Thank you!"
A few years ago, my mother told me that when I was little, I
would say it with an inflection that implied that they had just
said I was one of the most beautiful people on earth. I looked
at her and said, "Yep!"
She almost fell off of her chair, she was laughing so hard! And,
yes, I do think it is a compliment to be compared to my mother,
especially her kindness and intelligence.
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Re: Conventional remarks to avoid
DIR By: holly firestorm
Date: April 10, 2020, 7:46 pm
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--- Quote from: TootsNYC link ---
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> It's true that you don't know what someone's name will be
after marriage.
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> I personally have taken the idea of "to be Mrs. Smith" to be
more metaphorical than literal.
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> But yes, it's risky.
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Not only that, but assuming the husband's surname for legal and
social reasons doesn't mean you are going to be a different
person, especially since most brides and grooms are a committed
couple quite a while before the actual ceremony, especially
'nowadays.'
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Re: Conventional remarks to avoid
DIR By: Lilipons
Date: May 26, 2020, 11:21 am
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--- Quote from: Rho link ---
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> 'My, haven't you grown!'
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> The obvious reply is
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> My, haven't you aged?
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My Uncle (who had a strange wit) used that once when we were in
a restaurant and had a waitress who was possibly the slowest
server on record.
It wasn’t kind of him but it was accurate.
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