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#Post#: 8828--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invading my personal space
By: Lula Date: July 16, 2018, 12:33 pm
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"Snarky me" implies "don't actually do this."
#Post#: 8845--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invading my personal space
By: GardenGal Date: July 16, 2018, 2:45 pm
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This situation would drive me nuts. I don't even like my DH
standing over me when I'm at the computer. Plus, I like to have
a pretty big bubble of personal space around me.
#Post#: 8858--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invading my personal space
By: oogyda Date: July 16, 2018, 4:51 pm
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[quote author=Uncle Rupert link=topic=523.msg8614#msg8614
date=1531526821]
The first time she did something like that, I would sweetly say
“I’m sorry, dear, would you like to do this yourself?”
If she didn’t get the message at that point, I would regretfully
inform her that I couldn’t possibly work under such conditions
and perhaps it would be better for her to hire a high school
student, as I am not accustomed to being treated in such a
manner.
But I’m old and have no patience, so ymmv.
[/quote]
"Dear"? Seriously?!? OP, please do not use that terminology.
Its condescending and sexist.
#Post#: 8880--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invading my personal space
By: LurkingGurl Date: July 17, 2018, 1:05 am
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Is there a possibility that in the midst of doing what you are
doing while she is standing over you that you could just take
your break at that point? Or get up and go to the bathroom?
Anything to break up the dynamic long enough for her to find
someone else to hover over.
#Post#: 8889--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invading my personal space
By: NewHomeowner Date: July 17, 2018, 7:37 am
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[quote author=VorFemme link=topic=523.msg8483#msg8483
date=1531437631]
[quote author=Lula link=topic=523.msg8470#msg8470
date=1531425767]
"An apple a day keeps the doctor away;
An onion a day keeps everyone away."
[/quote]
Garlic also keeps the vampires at a distance - three cloves
minimum. Fortunately, my husband loves garlic flavored kisses,
as long as he had some of the same dish!
[/quote]
Cabbage. I vote for a diet full of cabbage and other
vegetables.
#Post#: 9023--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invading my personal space
By: AnnaT Date: July 18, 2018, 6:51 pm
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I would just say 'Please don't watch me type, it causes
unnecessary pressure and slows me down and I make mistakes that
I wouldn't do if left on my own. I will bring you the finished
product for review as soon as possible.'. I touch type at about
75wpm (used to be in the 90s but my role changed and I no longer
do massive documents) and having someone watch me slows me down
into the 30s and every other word has a typo...
It is real, you are not imagining it and if she is any sort of
supervisor she will realise that it is not an effective way of
getting more work out of someone, it in fact lessens the output.
#Post#: 9127--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invading my personal space
By: LeslieF Date: July 19, 2018, 9:46 pm
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[quote author=oogyda link=topic=523.msg8858#msg8858
date=1531777882]
[quote author=Uncle Rupert link=topic=523.msg8614#msg8614
date=1531526821]
The first time she did something like that, I would sweetly say
“I’m sorry, dear, would you like to do this yourself?”
If she didn’t get the message at that point, I would regretfully
inform her that I couldn’t possibly work under such conditions
and perhaps it would be better for her to hire a high school
student, as I am not accustomed to being treated in such a
manner.
But I’m old and have no patience, so ymmv.
[/quote]
"Dear"? Seriously?!? OP, please do not use that terminology.
Its condescending and sexist.
[/quote]
Can one female calling another female "Dear" really be
considered sexist? Condescending perhaps, but I think the tone
of voice used would speak volumes.
#Post#: 9142--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invading my personal space
By: guest426 Date: July 20, 2018, 7:48 am
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I've been known to say to people, "I'm not your
'dear'/'honey'/'sweetie'/etc."
The rest of the response: "I'm sorry, would you like to do this
yourself?" might be okay depending on the relationship between
employee and boss. I've had bosses who would've considered that
to be insubordination, and I've had bosses who would have
realized what they were doing and backed off.
#Post#: 9149--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invading my personal space
By: BeagleMommy Date: July 20, 2018, 9:07 am
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OP, I am a very quick and efficient typist. On occasion, I've
had to type while someone was dictating orally to me. Before
they start I tell them, "please don't break from your dictation
and say something that should not go into this letter. I type
exactly what you say to me so if you break off and say "by the
way, I like your blouse" you will find that in the letter.
Could you say something like this to your boss? Something like
"if you read out loud while I'm typing I will end up putting
double words in the letter and it will require extra time to
edit. I would be best if you let me type the letter then bring
it to you for approval".
An old episode of Three's Company joked about this while Jack
was dictating his resume to Chrissy he stopped and brushed hair
away from her face and said "just brushing the hair out of your
eyes". When he read the resume she had typed "my skills include
running errands, making phone calls and just brushing the hair
out of your eyes". ;D
#Post#: 9173--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invading my personal space
By: oogyda Date: July 20, 2018, 2:57 pm
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[quote author=SecretSauce link=topic=523.msg9127#msg9127
date=1532054791]
[quote author=oogyda link=topic=523.msg8858#msg8858
date=1531777882]
[quote author=Uncle Rupert link=topic=523.msg8614#msg8614
date=1531526821]
The first time she did something like that, I would sweetly say
“I’m sorry, dear, would you like to do this yourself?”
If she didn’t get the message at that point, I would regretfully
inform her that I couldn’t possibly work under such conditions
and perhaps it would be better for her to hire a high school
student, as I am not accustomed to being treated in such a
manner.
But I’m old and have no patience, so ymmv.
[/quote]
"Dear"? Seriously?!? OP, please do not use that terminology.
Its condescending and sexist.
[/quote]
Can one female calling another female "Dear" really be
considered sexist? Condescending perhaps, but I think the tone
of voice used would speak volumes.
[/quote]
Yes.
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