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#Post#: 6067--------------------------------------------------
'I'm taking up a contribution' - for someone who earns way more
than you
By: silversurfer Date: June 19, 2018, 8:59 pm
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Hi all,
Thanks for organising the new board! I like it a lot. I was on
the old one, but haven't posted in years.
On to my question:
A VERY senior person in my organisation is leaving. They are
leaving for a new role at another place which is also vey senior
position. I was asked the other day for a contribution for a
farewell gift.
That really doesn't sit well with me, and I was wondering what
others felt.
#Post#: 6068--------------------------------------------------
Re: 'I'm taking up a contribution' - for someone who earns way m
ore than you
By: cattlekid Date: June 19, 2018, 9:08 pm
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I'm with you....usually in those types of situations that I have
seen, if ANYTHING is done by worker bees, it's maybe a card and
someone might organize a breakfast in the office to say goodbye
that is paid for by the company. But no....I would not be
really interested in contributing to up a collection for a gift
for anyone who is leaving for another job.
#Post#: 6070--------------------------------------------------
Re: 'I'm taking up a contribution' - for someone who earns way m
ore than you
By: Celestia Date: June 19, 2018, 9:12 pm
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If it's for a gift, I wouldn't think about how much the other
person makes. If I were close enough that I wanted to
contribute, I'd chip in as much as I felt like. If not, no.
"Taking up a contribution" is usually used for things charity
things in my experience, and then I might wonder. But still,
being asked doesn't bother me. A person in need is in need even
if they may not be in as much need as someone else. But how bad
I felt for not giving would be affected by the overall
circumstances.
Does it help to frame it as any other kind of gift? When you
(general) make a gift list in December, you don't note down how
much money all your friends make to determine how much to spend
on them.
#Post#: 6076--------------------------------------------------
Re: 'I'm taking up a contribution' - for someone who earns way m
ore than you
By: TootsNYC Date: June 19, 2018, 9:38 pm
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[quote author=Celestia link=topic=400.msg6070#msg6070
date=1529460727]
If it's for a gift, I wouldn't think about how much the other
person makes. If I were close enough that I wanted to
contribute, I'd chip in as much as I felt like. If not, no.
"Taking up a contribution" is usually used for things charity
things in my experience, and then I might wonder. But still,
being asked doesn't bother me. A person in need is in need even
if they may not be in as much need as someone else. But how bad
I felt for not giving would be affected by the overall
circumstances.
Does it help to frame it as any other kind of gift? When you
(general) make a gift list in December, you don't note down how
much money all your friends make to determine how much to spend
on them.
[/quote]
I'm with Celistia.
I might not contribute that much!
And I'll say this: I don't think the collections should be taken
among a very large group--only those people who actually
interact frequently with this person. (But that's true, I think
of almost any person.)
I can see that it feels a little weird to ask someone's
subordinates to chip in for a present for them, but it's not as
bad when they're leaving. You are very rapidly going to become
equals.
#Post#: 6118--------------------------------------------------
Re: 'I'm taking up a contribution' - for someone who earns way m
ore than you
By: Rose Red Date: June 20, 2018, 9:30 am
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Doesn't bother me. Just because someone earns more money or are
super rich, they don't deserve gifts? I've gotten farewell gifts
so why shouldn't a senior person? If you know and like them, at
least.
To me, a gift is about the thought. If I like the person well
enough, I'd be glad to put in a few bucks or go off on my own to
give them a box of chocolate or a plant. Not too expensive but
still get across I think fondly of them.
I remember contributing only around $5 once to a higher up and
the total ended up being enough for a Coach wallet. I also gave
my direct boss flowers for her retirement. We also contribute
for our boss's birthday and Christmas if we want to. So unless
they are asking for $$$, I'm OK with it.
#Post#: 6119--------------------------------------------------
Re: 'I'm taking up a contribution' - for someone who earns way m
ore than you
By: Rose Red Date: June 20, 2018, 9:31 am
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Dang it! I accidently clicked "quote" instead of "modify" again
and of course there is no delete button.
#Post#: 6123--------------------------------------------------
Re: 'I'm taking up a contribution' - for someone who earns way m
ore than you
By: Luci Date: June 20, 2018, 9:36 am
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=400.msg6076#msg6076
date=1529462313]
[quote author=Celestia link=topic=400.msg6070#msg6070
date=1529460727]
If it's for a gift, I wouldn't think about how much the other
person makes. If I were close enough that I wanted to
contribute, I'd chip in as much as I felt like. If not, no.
"Taking up a contribution" is usually used for things charity
things in my experience, and then I might wonder. But still,
being asked doesn't bother me. A person in need is in need even
if they may not be in as much need as someone else. But how bad
I felt for not giving would be affected by the overall
circumstances.
Does it help to frame it as any other kind of gift? When you
(general) make a gift list in December, you don't note down how
much money all your friends make to determine how much to spend
on them.
[/quote]
I'm with Celistia.
I might not contribute that much!
And I'll say this: I don't think the collections should be taken
among a very large group--only those people who actually
interact frequently with this person. (But that's true, I think
of almost any person.)
I can see that it feels a little weird to ask someone's
subordinates to chip in for a present for them, but it's not as
bad when they're leaving. You are very rapidly going to become
equals.
[/quote]
I’m with these.
#Post#: 6127--------------------------------------------------
Re: 'I'm taking up a contribution' - for someone who earns way m
ore than you
By: Pattycake Date: June 20, 2018, 9:53 am
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I think it's okay to send around the envelope, as long as people
aren't pressured to contribute. Depending on how much
interaction there was between me and the senior person would
depend on how much or whether I contributed.
#Post#: 6131--------------------------------------------------
Re: 'I'm taking up a contribution' - for someone who earns way m
ore than you
By: Girlie Date: June 20, 2018, 10:06 am
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We've taken up money for gifts for people, but never for someone
leaving our organization to take a job elsewhere. It's always
been someone's retirement or a shower. We've taken up
collections for employees (and family members of employees) who
have had catastrophic losses, like a house that burned down or
something, and we have collected for graduating children of
employees (although I personally wish this one would stop), and
we've taken up money for the children/grandchildren/extended
families to have Christmas gifts when we knew there was a need.
That being said, before I contributed, I'd be asking myself:
1. How much do I like this person/think this person had
contributed to the company?
2. How much money are we talking about?
3. What is the gift?
I'd probably be inclined to donate a few dollars for a nice
potted plant or something, but I would be highly unlikely in
this particular instance to donate money for a new Rolex.
#Post#: 6133--------------------------------------------------
Re: 'I'm taking up a contribution' - for someone who earns way m
ore than you
By: Moose Date: June 20, 2018, 10:11 am
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[quote author=Rose Red link=topic=400.msg6118#msg6118
date=1529505033]
Doesn't bother me. Just because someone earns more money or are
super rich, they don't deserve gifts? I've gotten farewell gifts
so why shouldn't a senior person? If you know and like them, at
least.
To me, a gift is about the thought. If I like the person well
enough, I'd be glad to put in a few bucks or go off on my own to
give them a box of chocolate or a plant. Not too expensive but
still get across I think fondly of them.
I remember contributing only around $5 once to a higher up and
the total ended up being enough for a Coach wallet. I also gave
my direct boss flowers for her retirement. We also contribute
for our boss's birthday and Christmas if we want to. So unless
they are asking for $$$, I'm OK with it.
[/quote]
I agree with this. Just yesterday we gave a potluck and gift
card to a supervisor who is leaving. She was well liked and
very sweet to work with and we are all going to miss her. Even
though she was technically our superior, she still deserved the
send off she got and I didn't mind contributing. HOWEVER, with
that said, any sort of collection or contribution to stuff like
that is purely voluntary here and no one keeps count of who gave
and who didn't.
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