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#Post#: 5213--------------------------------------------------
PA Facebook friend
DIR By: Reika
Date: June 12, 2018, 9:29 am
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Today a friend asked all of her FB friends to limit political
comments on their walls because she was tired of it. None of us
tag her or post to her wall so those of us who are politically
active politely objected to someone wanting to censor our walls.
A couple of us suggested how to filter what she sees.
Her response was that she should just leave FB. This isn't the
first time she's made this threat when something didn't go her
way and I'm struggling to stay polite.
#Post#: 5214--------------------------------------------------
Re: PA Facebook friend
DIR By: Pattycake
Date: June 12, 2018, 9:37 am
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If she brings it up again (leaving FB), could you say something
like "Well, we'll miss you if you do that, but do what you gotta
do"?
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Re: PA Facebook friend
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: June 12, 2018, 10:31 am
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--- Quote from: Reika link ---
>
> Her response was that she should just leave FB. This isn't
the first time she's made this threat when something didn't go
her way and I'm struggling to stay polite.
>
--- End Quote ---
Why do you need to respond at all?
That would be polite.
You can roll your eyes privately--and maybe coming here to do so
with some company (here, I'll join you: ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::)
::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ) will help you bite your tongue.
One thing I've really, really learned living in NYC is that
there is NO gain in letting people know what I think of them.
My mother also taught me that people are actually entitled to be
who they are--even if they're annoying. I don't have to APPROVE
of them being so, but they're entitled to it.
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Re: PA Facebook friend
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: June 12, 2018, 10:32 am
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--- Quote from: Pattycake link ---
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> If she brings it up again (leaving FB), could you say
something like "Well, we'll miss you if you do that, but do what
you gotta do"?
>
--- End Quote ---
Or, you could say, "Well, before you leave FB, you might want to
be sure you have others ways to contact the people you care
about, like phone numbers and stuff."
Just take her at face value.
#Post#: 5228--------------------------------------------------
Re: PA Facebook friend
DIR By: Reika
Date: June 12, 2018, 11:16 am
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--- Quote from: TootsNYC link ---
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> [quote author=Pattycake link=topic=366.msg5214#msg5214
date=1528814234]
> If she brings it up again (leaving FB), could you say
something like "Well, we'll miss you if you do that, but do what
you gotta do"?
>
--- End Quote ---
Or, you could say, "Well, before you leave FB, you might want to
be sure you have others ways to contact the people you care
about, like phone numbers and stuff."
Just take her at face value.
[/quote]
All of the suggestions are good, but I think I'll take your
first suggestion, Toots, and just not respond to her latest
attempting at flouncing.
And yes, there was much eyerolling on my part. :)
#Post#: 5232--------------------------------------------------
Re: PA Facebook friend
DIR By: kckgirl
Date: June 12, 2018, 11:25 am
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My mother used the "people you may know" feature to connect with
some of my friends. One is much more conservative than she, and
she made some sort of smart remark on a political post of his. I
sent him a private message and asked him to unfriend her. In the
meantime, I logged into her Facebook and hid him from her
timeline (and I'd do it again in a heartbeat). She never knew
and he has since unfriended her.
I don't like political posts, but I can do just what the OP's
friend can do, scroll on by. If someone is totally annoying with
constant political posts, she can hide the person's posts while
remaining Facebook friends. I've done that, too. It's really
simple.
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Re: PA Facebook friend
DIR By: Reika
Date: June 12, 2018, 11:33 am
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--- Quote from: kckgirl link ---
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> I don't like political posts, but I can do just what the OP's
friend can do, scroll on by. If someone is totally annoying with
constant political posts, she can hide the person's posts while
remaining Facebook friends. I've done that, too. It's really
simple.
>
--- End Quote ---
Yeah, I just scroll on past the things that just make me twitch,
or block the source if it's from a page or similar. Some friends
I just unfollowed and every so often check up on their page. I'm
still confused about why she took the responses that we did so
personally.
#Post#: 5240--------------------------------------------------
Re: PA Facebook friend
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: June 12, 2018, 11:43 am
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maybe she got "poked" (in a way that stunk) somewhere else that
she can't retaliate, and you guys are safe (toddlers always
misbehave the moment Mom shows up to take them away from the
playdate, because they feel safe letting off steam with her).
Or maybe something elsewhere suddenly framed things in a certain
way for her.
Or maybe she hasn't been getting enough sleep.
#Post#: 5241--------------------------------------------------
Re: PA Facebook friend
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: June 12, 2018, 11:45 am
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Friend cannot expect others to sensor to her needs/wants. That
is her responsibility. Just like the OP cannot expect Friend to
sensor about not wanting political discussions. So, if someone
posts a PA remark like this, I either scroll on or make the
desired changes to my account. There is a new to me feature
about Snoozing for 30 days. I am assuming that that individual's
posts will not appear in my news feed for 30 days. I did not
have to unfriend and it has given me a break from certain types
of posters that were getting to me.
#Post#: 5247--------------------------------------------------
Re: PA Facebook friend
DIR By: dani321
Date: June 12, 2018, 12:21 pm
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I get your friend's point, because I also get really tired of
seeing the political posts - BUT, reasonable people do not ask
other people to change what they post about on social media. I
see a lot of things on social media that annoy me, and I either
keep scrolling, or unfollow the person if they habitually post
annoying things, whether political or tons of selfies or
oversharing, etc. If I saw someone publicly asking their friends
to limit certain types of posts, I'd just ignore it, but
probably unfollow them out of annoyance, whether I was in the
group they were targeting or not. Toots made some really good
points on the side of keeping our opinions to ourselves and I
will join you in the eye rolling party ::) ::) ::) but I
wouldn't "engage the crazy", because a grown person who first
tries to police others' social media use, then "threatens" to
quit Facebook when she doesn't get the response she wanted, is
just a little cray cray and has proved that she can't be
reasonable.
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