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The Etiquette of Quitting Your Job
By: MarisaWood Date: June 9, 2018, 3:31 pm
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Here's a thread for resignation etiquette--questions like "What
do I say about my reason for leaving?" or "Is it ever OK to quit
your job without notice?" Things like that :)
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Re: The Etiquette of Quitting Your Job
By: MOM21SON Date: June 9, 2018, 5:37 pm
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I quit my job of 18 years in April.
I had transferred to Texas from Florida in 2016. They had never
had the department in Texas that I worked in. So, my family
packs up and moves. I was supposed to be helping train in the
department. Instead I was low man on base. I was treated as an
outsider, my teaching skills were never used and the way they
were doing most things were wrong. It took a toll on me as well
as on customers.
Add to that, I was entitled to 4 weeks vacation a year. In two
years I got exactly one full week off. The rest of the time
when you requested a week or more, I would get off Sun Mon Tues,
but we really need you on Wed and Thursday, so you have to come
in! That is just one example of how they ran things.
My final straw was Easter Sunday. I had requested the day off.
Finally I went to work at 310 to start my 330-midnight shift.
At 325, I got a email giving me from 330-730 off. Come back to
work at 730-until 10, then off 10-1130 and come back at 1130-12.
I very calmly picked up my stuff and left and never went back.
My blood pressure and blood sugar levels and beautiful. All
within normal range. I sleep better, my skin looks better, I am
eating better and I FEEL better.
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Re: The Etiquette of Quitting Your Job
By: MarisaWood Date: June 10, 2018, 6:27 am
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Rule #1: Health and safety trump etiquette!
As some of you know, I was in a bad work situation myself from
July of 2013 to November of 2014. Sixty-hour weeks with no
overtime pay, and frequent threats, intimidation, and other
verbal abuse from the boss, took a toll on me to the point where
one of my doctors advised me to quit, and quit immediately.
This advice came after one last, really horrendous incident of
verbal abuse--where the boss blamed me for not ensuring a
handyman had done a job to her specifications. I didn't know
what her specifications were, because she hadn't told me, and in
fact I hadn't even known he was coming to put up some shelving
in a classroom until he walked in the door. My then-boss asked
me to check with one of the teachers in the classroom to see if
the shelving had been put up, and I did exactly as instructed.
The teacher said yes, and that's what I reported back. Instead
of being pleased, Boss demanded I check the classroom to see
whether the shelves had been fastened to the wall. I did that
too. The shelves had not been fastened to the wall.
Boss exploded. She demanded I call the handyman and insist he
come in to finish the job the next day--which was a holiday--and
that I be there to supervise his work. I agreed to the first
part of her demand but not the second. I'd already put in eight
straight days of work, including giving up a whole weekend for a
staff training, and I was mentally and physically exhausted.
She eventually gave in and let me have the holiday off, but
guilt-tripped me about taking that day. Though my health had
been deteriorating in the last few months of my employment--and
she knew this, because she had to approve my time off for
medical appointments--she showed not the slightest concern for
my well-being.
I cancelled the plans I'd made for the holiday and spent most of
it on the phone or sending emails to my health care team. I did
come in to work on the night of that holiday--and was there just
long enough to enter my hours for the week into the payroll
system. I left my office keys and a resignation letter on my
desk. An employer who can't be trusted to consider the
well-being and safety of her employees, IMHO, doesn't deserve
the professional courtesy of a notice.
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Re: The Etiquette of Quitting Your Job
By: pierrotlunaire0 Date: June 10, 2018, 9:39 am
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Although I was in management before I retired, and I do know how
quitting without notice can have a real impact on a work team, I
don't necessarily disparage the person who quit. If a person
quit without notice, I usually feel there is a reason behind
their actions. And bottom line is, this is employment not
slavery. Yes, maybe there are consequences (poor reference, for
example), but if you are old enough to hold down a job, then you
ae old enough to figure out what the consequences will be to
you. Quitting that menial job that was just getting you by in
order to start the career you always wanted is obviously worth
it.
When I worked at the DMV, another manager did just that. Harold
was actually not very good at the job. Clerks complained that
he got overwhelmed very easily, and the rumor was that the
region manager was riding him pretty hard. His hobby was
aviation and flying.
Then one Monday, he just didn't show up for work. Phone calls
went unanswered. On Tuesday, someone from the region office
swung by his home to see if he was all right. His apartment was
empty and up for rent. She checked with the apartment complex
office. Harold? Oh, he moved out over the weekend. Forwarding
address? Well, it was in Central America (Costa Rica, if I
remember correctly). Harold had gotten a great job in
administration of aviation in that country (the rumor was that
it was a very high up position).
We all laughed about that one for years. Harold was so
intimidated by our region manager that he had fled the country!
Also, considering how poor he was at our job, I would hope he
didn't screw up aviation in Costa Rica.
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Re: The Etiquette of Quitting Your Job
By: ladameestmorte Date: June 18, 2018, 10:50 pm
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What NOT to do:
My first job out of college was a long-term temp position at a
company I really wanted to get a foot in. I'd been there about
9 months when a permanent position I was interested in opened
up. Of course, I applied and I even brought my interview suit
(navy wool, calf length, white blouse and a little red tie thing
around the neck. Gotta love the eighties) in so I could change
if I was invited to interview on short notice.
A few days went by and I found out that another temp had gotten
the permanent position. Only she and I had applied and I hadn't
even gotten an interview OR notification that I wasn't being
considered.
Here's where it gets somewhat embarrassing...
I basically said Eff this place, grabbed my coat and handbag and
stormed out. I got a call from my boss telling me to stop by
her office before reporting to work the next day. I told her I
quit and hung up on her.
Way to burn bridges, right? But, to be honest, it was a bridge
that deserved to be burned. This was the type of place where
they put apple cider and donuts out in the kitchen to celebrate
the first day of fall but temps weren't allowed to have any.
Yep, they went there. ::)
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