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#Post#: 4491--------------------------------------------------
Invitation mishap... just curious what others think.
By: SnappyLT Date: June 5, 2018, 10:21 am
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Just curious what others think about this. I think it is a minor
matter. My knickers are not in a twist over this; I am just
curious. (Would others mention something to the happy couple or
say nothing?)
There's going to be a wedding in my wife's extended family in
late August. We received our invitation a couple of weeks ago
inside a printed envelope (with a presumably computer-generated
printed address, not a handwritten address).
Yesterday one of my wife's nice cousins happened to call while
my wife was out, so I ended up chatting with the cousin. Turns
out that the cousin just received her invitation to that
wedding, two weeks later than we received ours. Her invitation
was delayed getting to her because her printed address on her
envelope was garbled. It had the wrong US state and wrong US zip
code. I'm surprised it reached her at all!
She mentioned that she was happy she received it. I asked her if
she is going to mention the address mix-up to the happy couple
and she said "no".
I'm leaning toward minding my own business, too, and saying
nothing. (After all, it is really not my place to say anything,
is it? Our envelope was printed correctly.)
But I have this little nagging feeling: What if that one
cousin's envelope was not the only one that was printed wrong?
Could there be other envelopes that were mis-printed, too? If
the cousin who got the incorrectly addressed envelope says
nothing, should I keep my mouth shut, too? After all, I guess
there's not much the happy couple could do at this point, right?
#Post#: 4500--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invitation mishap... just curious what others think.
By: Pattycake Date: June 5, 2018, 10:57 am
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When the cousin RSVPs (assuming she will), she should probably
say something then, just "oh, BTW, it's .... just so you have
your address book updated." I wouldn't worry about anyone else's
- how are you or they ever going to check? If the HC don't get
some RSVPs that they were expecting, hopefully they will follow
up.
#Post#: 4526--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invitation mishap... just curious what others think.
By: bopper Date: June 5, 2018, 1:41 pm
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I would tell them because:
1) This list would be used for thank you notes, and maybe future
Christmas cards etc.
2) Other addresses may get messed up...like if there was a cut
and paste error
so if the cousin won't say anything, you could just tell them so
they can check out their file for errors
#Post#: 4536--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invitation mishap... just curious what others think.
By: TootsNYC Date: June 5, 2018, 2:19 pm
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I'm less worried about other addresses being wrong; I think
that's less a function of the printing and more a function of
the database entry.
But precisely because it -was- printed, and therefore probably
is from some computerized list, I'd tell them. This is an
indication that their records are wrong.
If it were handwritten, there's a chance that it was just a
one-off kind of mistake with the person addressing the
envelopes. (I still would tell someone, though, because it could
easily be a database error.)
Also--getting someone's address wrong is just a clerical
error--no judgment or shame should be attached to that, and the
cousin whose address it was is, I believe, obligated to correct
the couple's information.
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Re: Invitation mishap... just curious what others think.
By: CrazyDaffodilLady Date: June 5, 2018, 2:22 pm
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I'd tell because I'm an OCD who has to fix everything. :D
And it takes less time to fix the problem than to fret about it.
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Re: Invitation mishap... just curious what others think.
By: Hanna Date: June 5, 2018, 2:23 pm
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I would want to know.
#Post#: 4573--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invitation mishap... just curious what others think.
By: pierrotlunaire0 Date: June 5, 2018, 6:00 pm
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[quote author=bopper link=topic=328.msg4526#msg4526
date=1528224066]
I would tell them because:
1) This list would be used for thank you notes, and maybe future
Christmas cards etc.
2) Other addresses may get messed up...like if there was a cut
and paste error
so if the cousin won't say anything, you could just tell them so
they can check out their file for errors
[/quote]
So true.
#Post#: 4630--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invitation mishap... just curious what others think.
By: Hmmm Date: June 6, 2018, 9:58 am
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I think the person who received the invite with the wrong
address should include a note in the RSVP to indicate they need
to update their address book.
Unless the couple who sent the invitation is someone that I was
really close to (sibling or sibling's offspring), I probably
would not mention it to the couple.
#Post#: 4651--------------------------------------------------
Re: Invitation mishap... just curious what others think.
By: jazzgirl205 Date: June 6, 2018, 3:32 pm
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I would convince your cousin to say something. When I married
30 yrs ago, there were 7 addresses I didn't get until after I
sent the mass mailing. These 7 invitations were dropped in a
mailbox but were never received. Those people didn't come to
the wedding. One was my future FIL (he was estranged but dh
called him AND wrote him a personal letter asking him to come)
and the others were friends I still know today. It was brought
up recently by someone who mentioned they weren't invited. I
replied, "There are pictures of you at the bachelor party and
your then wife gave me a shower. Surely you don't think we were
so crass as to not send y'all an invitation.
Yeah, you need to say something. Some people never forget. :P
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Re: Invitation mishap... just curious what others think.
By: SnappyLT Date: August 29, 2018, 11:07 am
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OP here again with a follow-up post.
Turns out that there were other envelope problems related to
that wedding.
One of the bride's closer relatives was chatting with me at the
reception. After agreeing with me that the wedding was lovely,
this relative mentioned how sad it was that "A" and "B" and
their families were unable to attend on such short notice.
I didn't understand about the phrase "short notice" since my
wife and I received our invitation months in advance. The
relative explained to me that the bride had told her that two
weeks before the wedding day, both "A" and "B"s invitations
finally came back to the return address on the envelopes as
un-deliverable. The bride got on the phone and called both "A"
and "B" to explain what had happened to their printed
invitations and to invite them over the phone, but both families
politely declined, saying they had already made other plans for
the wedding weekend.
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