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Should I get a new dress?
By: ctmichelle Date: May 27, 2018, 1:50 am
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Over 14 years ago, I was in a serious, long-term relationship
and started thinking that we would be getting married, so I
found a dress I loved, a tea length vintage lace dress and put
it away in anticipation of wearing it soon. However, 3 years
later, he decided I wasn't 'good enough' and we broke up. I
moved across country, and after many coffee dates with nice men
from a dating site, I met a wonderful man who treats me like a
queen and we are getting married in 9 months. Would it be OK to
wear the dress I bought so many years ago? The other man and I
never really discussed marriage or anything, I just like the
dress. This would be my second marriage.
#Post#: 3684--------------------------------------------------
Re: Should I get a new dress?
By: Nikko-chan Date: May 27, 2018, 2:18 am
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By all means if it makes you feel pretty, and lovely, and you
won't harbor any ill feelings on your big day by wearing this
dress, then do it.
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Re: Should I get a new dress?
By: crella Date: May 27, 2018, 3:59 am
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[quote author=Nikko-chan link=topic=282.msg3684#msg3684
date=1527405516]
By all means if it makes you feel pretty, and lovely, and you
won't harbor any ill feelings on your big day by wearing this
dress, then do it.
[/quote]
I agree! It sounds lovely, and if you like it, why not?
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Re: Should I get a new dress?
By: NFPwife Date: May 27, 2018, 7:10 am
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Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Definitely wear the
dress. You bought it because you loved it and could see yourself
getting married in it. Your former man had nothing to do with
the dress. You'll be even more radiant on your wedding day in
something you connected with when you first saw it.
I'd love a pic :)
#Post#: 3689--------------------------------------------------
Re: Should I get a new dress?
By: Tea Drinker Date: May 27, 2018, 8:11 am
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If you like it, and it doesn't seem weird to the man you're
marrying, absolutely wear it. It doesn't seem remotely weird to
me, but sometimes people get oddly jealous about things that
could seem symbolic. So, if you've already talked to him about
it and he said "sure" or "that's a lovely dress, absolutely,"
that's your answer. If you came here first, tell him the story
and show him the dress, and ask a non-leading question like
"what do you think?" (either "do you like it as much as I do?"
or "would this bother you?" are leading questions, in different
directions).
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Re: Should I get a new dress?
By: Hmmm Date: May 27, 2018, 9:43 am
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I agree. Where the dress!.
I'm not even sure I'd discuss it with your fiancé. It's not like
you bought the dress for a wedding you were planning. You bought
a dress in hopes of one day being able to wear it to your
wedding. You just happened to be dating someone else at the time
and assumed that guy would most likely be the groom waiting for
you at the end of the aisle.
Now you have a new and improved version of that vision.
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Re: Should I get a new dress?
By: Pattycake Date: May 27, 2018, 8:03 pm
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Since you've never worn it before, wear the dress! It sounds
lovely. Sounds kinda like something my sister got married in - I
was very impressed with what she chose.
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Re: Should I get a new dress?
By: RevMaxx Date: May 27, 2018, 11:26 pm
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The dress is only you. Wear the dress. its what makes you
happy. it' s a dress of your dreams for your perfect man. wear
the dress!
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Re: Should I get a new dress?
By: ctmichelle Date: May 27, 2018, 11:42 pm
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OP here. Thank you to everyone who answered my question. Right
now, the dress is in storage, several miles from here, but I
will try and take a picture of it soon. I found it on ebay and
loved the simple styling and the lace pattern, it was listed as
a movie wardrobe costume and was supposed to be seen in some old
movie, I never found out the name of the movie. From the styling
of the dress, I am guessing from the late 40's to very early
50's, not a very full skirt.
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Re: Should I get a new dress?
By: jazzgirl205 Date: May 28, 2018, 9:14 am
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When I was planning my wedding and the big day loomed closer, a
young college professor would visit me every day to see my
wedding gifts and ask how the plans were coming along. One day,
I mentioned to him that I had bought my wedding dress. "May I
see it?" he asked. A little voice in my head told me to say no.
Well, my fiancé backed out a week and a half before the wedding.
I married the college professor a year later and wore the dress
he had not seen. Yes, he knew it was that wedding dress but it
didn't matter to him.
If you did not have plans to marry the other gentleman, it was
not even a dress from a broken engagement. It was like
something kept in a hope chest. I see no problem with getting
married in it.
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