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I'm going to be a Grandma! but with mixed feelings...
By: AnnNottingham Date: December 21, 2024, 11:36 pm
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Hi, all!
My DD just announced last night that she's pregnant, by dropping
the test thing in my lap. I think I was so stunned silent that
my mouth just opened and shut like a grouper fish.
I'm not sure I'm at the "happy" phase, or the "congratulations"
phase (though I'll take them, I know they're genuinely felt!).
DD has some health issues that we hope pregnancy won't make
worse, like a seizure disorder. She will probably be high-risk
from go, even at 26. Right now, I'm just taking it day by day.
We found out that she is dropped from our insurance because of
the 26 thing, so her best bet is to apply for Medicaid-and
children's insurance. Then she does have an OB in mind. I'm
trying not to go to dire situations and just taking this as it
comes.
The circumstances aren't terrific: she and her husband (married
just three months) live with us. He delivers packages but now
needs to step it up a lot. He is also the most silent person I
have ever met, as in we have had one conversation of any note
since May. It's not that he's mean; he's just incredibly
reclusive. It worries DH and I, as serious conversations have
to be had, and all we get is DD acting like an interpreter for
him. We do believe their relationship (2 years) is happy and
stable, in their own way. It just isn't our way.
Why can't emotions come one at a time? I ping all over the
place from anger to overjoyed to beyond worried to disbelief.
For those of you who have done this grandma thing, was your
initial reaction something like "Oh heck no, I'm too young to be
grandma!" Does the pinging emotions like a pinball machine ever
settle down? How much advice and "butting in" is too much?
Yikes.
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Re: I'm going to be a Grandma! but with mixed feelings...
By: jpcher Date: December 22, 2024, 1:55 pm
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CONGRATULATIONS! ;D
I do, however, understand your trepidations. The issues
surrounding this unexpected news are extremely worrisome and
it's no wonder that your emotions are all over the place. I
would like to think that all these emotions are normal
considering the situation.
You're a strong woman, guihong. Your statement "I'm trying not
to go to dire situations and just taking this as it comes." is
spot on. Take it day by day. That's the best you can do.
One question -- how does your DD feel about this? Is she
thrilled, over-the-moon ecstatic?
If the answer to this is yes, then, I'm afraid to say, that you
should try to be thrilled with her/them.
Maybe not the best advice you'll receive, but I wanted to let
you know that I believe in you and am hoping (and praying) that
all will work out in the end.
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Re: I'm going to be a Grandma! but with mixed feelings...
By: Gellchom Date: December 27, 2024, 1:00 pm
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And a big mazal tov from me!
I hear your concerns. Of course you have them. But it doesn't
sound like any of them are things you can control or change. So
what's left is to remind yourself to try not to worry about
things you can't change, especially things that haven't happened
yet and probably won't at all, almost certainly not exactly in
the ways you anticipate them happening, and definitely not all
at once.
But what you CAN do is be supportive of your daughter. She
probably has all the same worries and fears that you have. Be
there for her to listen to them and reassure her that whatever
happens, she won't be in it alone. You'll be right there with
her.
And you can enjoy being a grandmother! I love it. Most people
do. Your daughter is so lucky to have you right there. You and
that baby will have a very special bond.
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Re: I'm going to be a Grandma! but with mixed feelings...
By: Rain Date: January 1, 2025, 6:49 pm
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As someone with a history of epilepsy, I understand your
concerns
Hugs
If you are able to help fund her insurance, that would be great.
My. DS is a happy, healthy 26 yr old.
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Re: I'm going to be a Grandma! but with mixed feelings...
By: AnnNottingham Date: February 14, 2025, 10:14 pm
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DD lost the baby last weekend.
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Re: I'm going to be a Grandma! but with mixed feelings...
By: Aleko Date: February 15, 2025, 5:52 am
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Oh lord, I am so sorry. However mixed your feelings, that can’t
be anything but awful. Hugs.
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Re: I'm going to be a Grandma! but with mixed feelings...
By: Gellchom Date: February 16, 2025, 12:37 pm
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Oh, I am so sorry! What sad news. My heart goes out to you and
your family.
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Re: I'm going to be a Grandma! but with mixed feelings...
By: jpcher Date: February 16, 2025, 2:40 pm
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(((((HUGS!))))) to you and your family.
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