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No last names anywhere on invitation
By: Gellchom Date: April 19, 2024, 2:25 pm
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We just got another wedding invitation with no last names, even
on the envelope, and the RSVP is electronic, so no clue on a
return envelope address, either. No parents' names appeared on
the invitation, just the "Together with our families ..."
formula, so no clue there. The lovely invitation (printed, not
electronic) wasn't informal; it's not like using their full
names would have ruined the tone somehow.
We were able to guess who the bride was, my husband's first
cousin's daughter, because she has an unusual first name. We
didn't know she was engaged (we live far away and don't hear
from these relatives often). But I only found out the groom's
last name by searching for a gift registry.
If the bride had had a less distinctive name, we would have been
at a complete loss. I imagine that their friends had no
trouble, know both of them, and already knew they were engaged.
But relatives and family friends who don't live nearby and
aren't in on the latest family news might well know more than
one "Rachel" or "Michael" who might be getting married around
now. I remember once getting a first-name-only bridal shower
invitation for someone whose name I didn't recognize at all. I
had to call the hostess to learn who it was for -- the fiancée
of our friend's son. I don't remember whether I even knew he
was engaged (the wedding invitations hadn't gone out yet), and
even if I did, I certainly didn't know his
girlfriend's/fiancée's name, and they weren't the only couple
getting married that year.
I doubt we will be able to attend this wedding, as it is halfway
around the world from us and the same week that our
daughter-in-law is due to give birth. We happily sent a gift
from their registry and are very happy for them.
So it's not like there is any problem here! I am just writing
because I would advise against doing this. There seems to be no
benefit to it, and potential confusion and/or embarrassment. At
least put a last name on the envelope.
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Re: No last names anywhere on invitation
By: lowspark Date: April 19, 2024, 2:53 pm
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I had a similar experience years ago. The couple had gotten
married in her hometown but were holding a party/reception here
because this is where they lived. I got an invitation that had
the bride's first and middle name. Only. I honestly don't
remember if it had the groom's name at all. I just remember it
having the usual invitational text in normal size font and then
the bride's name in larger font.
Something like this:
Come celebrate with us
blah blah blah
etc. etc.
Mary Jane
at location
at date and time
I had to rack my brain to think of who Mary Jane (not the actual
name, but something similarly common) was. I mean yeah I knew a
couple of Marys but didn't know any middle names. I had no
advance notice of the party here, plus it was someone that I
didn't see all that often at that point in our lives, so didn't
immediately know who it was for. I did puzzle it out to about
90% confidence that I knew who it was. I accepted and went and
figured if I was wrong, it would be kind of a funny surprise!
I was right. And funny thing is, in conversation at the party,
she mentioned that she realized after the invitations had been
sent out that there was no last name, and she hoped everyone had
been able to figure out it was her! I probably laughed and
reassured her it was fine.
This all happened probably about 30 years ago! But the memory of
it still stuck with me.
So yeah, be sure to put both your last names somewhere on the
invitation!
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Re: No last names anywhere on invitation
By: Aleko Date: April 20, 2024, 4:22 am
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- And please, put them on your Christmas cards too! I’m sure we
have all stared blankly at a card signed ‘With love from Jack
and Mary’ or something similarly vanilla, and wondered who the
heck these people are.
(The UK Post Office has recently changed to bar-coded stamps
which don’t need franking, which makes it even harder. The frank
used to provide a geographical clue, if it was legible - at
least knowing the card was posted in the
Edinburgh or Bristol area reduced the possibilities.)
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Re: No last names anywhere on invitation
By: Rho Date: April 20, 2024, 9:12 pm
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Two Aunts on my side hosted a Bridal Shower for our relatives
and 4 cousins on future husbands side who lived nearby.
Invitation had my first and last name. One of HIS cousins
called Aunt #1 and as I was told later started to scream at her
" Who are you? Who is Rho? Why did you send me this invitation?"
None of them attended the shower although one did send a
velvet photo album that we still have.
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