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Re: Nesting Parties
By: Hmmm Date: January 4, 2024, 3:10 pm
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=2579.msg80778#msg80778
date=1704397580]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=2579.msg80776#msg80776
date=1704394241]
Even today, we host a tamalada which is way more time and work
than washing or folding some clothes and I have to restrict the
number of people wanting to come because it can get way out of
hand.
[/quote]
Ah! But do the attendees get to partake of the results, maybe
even take some home?
[/quote]
Yes, they get to take some home. But usually never the value of
the 4 to 5 hours of work. The socialization and communal
activity is the real draw.
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Re: Nesting Parties
By: RubyCat Date: January 4, 2024, 9:28 pm
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Baby-proofing or doing other tasks related to preparing one's
home for a baby seem rather personal and a request that should
be limited to people that you're close to (i.e.. family or close
friends). The whole thing sound a bit "off" to me and I can
totally understand why you would decline.
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Re: Nesting Parties
By: DaDancingPsych Date: January 5, 2024, 5:44 am
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=2579.msg80776#msg80776
date=1704394241]
I'd much rather spend time visiting as we work on a project than
playing games. But I'm also the type that prefers a gift of
service or time over a gift of things.
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I'm actually rather torn by the idea. If the task is something
that I excel at, I would rather provide that as my gift. I'm
terrible at gift purchasing, especially because I'm not a
parent.
However, I'm the outlier, as I rather enjoy most of the baby
shower games. Maybe if they found a way to include these with
the work then I would be all in.
I'm rather disappointed that I declined... I now can't attend
and report back!
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Re: Nesting Parties
By: Gellchom Date: January 5, 2024, 8:05 am
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=2579.msg80776#msg80776
date=1704394241]
I'm the outlier here. I wouldn't be bothered by this invitation
at all other than the fact of how many people were invited. Even
if only half show up, that is still a lot of people working in a
house. I'd actually prefer this over a traditional baby shower.
***
I'd much rather spend time visiting as we work on a project than
playing games.
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This is how I feel, too, Hmmm, so you're not alone. I don't
mind showers with games (although there are often way too many
games, activities, and gimmicks for my taste), but I'd like this
better.
I do agree with you and several others who say that this should
be limited to a very small group of close friends and relatives.
I think that would be fun; working on relatively pleasant
projects together (I would pick ones like assembling things or
simple painting, not mucking out mold or pulling up mildewed
floorboards), with refreshments and music and conversation.
(Save the alcohol for after the tools are put away!)
The word "party" would be sort of with a wink.
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Re: Nesting Parties
By: Rose Red Date: January 5, 2024, 8:32 am
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[quote author=gellchom link=topic=2579.msg80792#msg80792
date=1704463555]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=2579.msg80776#msg80776
date=1704394241]
I'm the outlier here. I wouldn't be bothered by this invitation
at all other than the fact of how many people were invited. Even
if only half show up, that is still a lot of people working in a
house. I'd actually prefer this over a traditional baby shower.
***
I'd much rather spend time visiting as we work on a project than
playing games.
[/quote]
This is how I feel, too, Hmmm, so you're not alone. I don't
mind showers with games (although there are often way too many
games, activities, and gimmicks for my taste), but I'd like this
better.
I do agree with you and several others who say that this should
be limited to a very small group of close friends and relatives.
I think that would be fun; working on relatively pleasant
projects together (I would pick ones like assembling things or
simple painting, not mucking out mold or pulling up mildewed
floorboards), with refreshments and music and conversation.
(Save the alcohol for after the tools are put away!)
The word "party" would be sort of with a wink.
[/quote]
It's one thing to gather around a table making party favors,
centerpieces, or writing invitations (work like that), but I'm
not handy and I hate doing laundry and housework so this work
party is not for me and I'd decline. I'd do it for my own family
if I have to or for someone sick/injured/disabled, etc., but not
for someone I'm not close to who has months to prepare before
giving birth. YMMV.
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Re: Nesting Parties
By: sms Date: January 5, 2024, 2:27 pm
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Well, I would feel the same about this as I do about baby
showers. They should be extended to people you have more than a
nominal relationship with.
A friend or family member you actually see and spend time with?
Sure.
Would they invite me to their pool party, BBQ or a family event?
No? Don't do me any favours then.
I'm sure there are plenty of people who think it can't hurt to
ask and people can always say no. All true. But it shows
people what you think of them - not enough to really have a
relationship with but a source of cash, gifts or free labour.
#Post#: 80803--------------------------------------------------
Re: Nesting Parties
By: shadowfox79 Date: January 6, 2024, 2:03 am
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This is now reminding me of when my BIL invited the family to a
"party" to help him set up his new dining room. He and his
girlfriend had just bought a back-to-back terraced house (for
anyone who hasn't seen one, those are small, and don't have
dining rooms) and, as it had a functional cellar, he had decided
to make a dining room out of it.
What this meant in real terms was that his girlfriend had bought
a massive Indian dresser and wooden table, and he wanted us to
help him get them into the cellar. Since the inner staircase was
a tight spiral, this meant trying to lower them over the outside
wall and in through the cellar door.
I suppose it was technically a party, in that MIL brought drinks
out for all the women and we stood there enjoying watching the
men wrestle with the huge dresser. ;D
But yes, I think I'd decline a nesting party. Doesn't sound like
my idea of a good time.
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Re: Nesting Parties
By: NewHomeowner Date: January 8, 2024, 8:19 am
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[quote author=shadowfox79 link=topic=2579.msg80803#msg80803
date=1704528183]
I suppose it was technically a party, in that MIL brought drinks
out for all the women and we stood there enjoying watching the
men wrestle with the huge dresser. ;D
But yes, I think I'd decline a nesting party. Doesn't sound like
my idea of a good time.
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That sounds like a fun 'party'. Reminds me of when my father
bought the cast iron wood furnace (early 80s, I think). All of
our brothers were gone, except the youngest who was just a
child, so it was me and my sister helping him wrestle it into
the cellar. He had a good frame with block-and-tackle set up,
but it also helped that me and my sister were very strong young
women, not dainty by any stretch of imagination. Our mother
commented on that from porch(favorably), and for years our
little brother would say, 'That's my sister. Strong like ox'.
ROFL
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Re: Nesting Parties
By: pierrotlunaire0 Date: January 8, 2024, 10:42 am
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I have a few very close friends and 2 sisters. Maybe. Just
maybe, I would help them. But don't insult me by pretending that
it is some kind of party. I am doing you a favor by helping you
because I love you and know that you would do the same for me.
So, if people showed up to help me do whatever, I would
definitely take them out to dinner afterwards and probably give
them a little gift and a handwritten card.
But it's not a party.
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Re: Nesting Parties
By: Hmmm Date: January 8, 2024, 12:56 pm
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[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=2579.msg80790#msg80790
date=1704455070]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=2579.msg80776#msg80776
date=1704394241]
I'd much rather spend time visiting as we work on a project than
playing games. But I'm also the type that prefers a gift of
service or time over a gift of things.
[/quote]
I'm actually rather torn by the idea. If the task is something
that I excel at, I would rather provide that as my gift. I'm
terrible at gift purchasing, especially because I'm not a
parent.
However, I'm the outlier, as I rather enjoy most of the baby
shower games. Maybe if they found a way to include these with
the work then I would be all in.
I'm rather disappointed that I declined... I now can't attend
and report back!
[/quote]
change your RSVP! Just for us!
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