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"Dressy casual" dress code for guests
By: DCGirl Date: October 2, 2023, 8:52 am
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DH and I have been invited to the wedding of his cousin's
daughter. First, shout out to the bride. We ordered her a
piece of Le Creuset from her online registry and promptly
received a lovely handwritten thank you.
Now, on to my question. The wedding is in a barn at ranch in
Florida in mid November. We will have to travel by plane to get
there, so packability of clothing is important. The dress code
as stated on their wedding website is "dressy casual." I've
attached a picture of the dress I'd like to wear (it's one that
I currently own). With nice jewelry and dressy black sandals,
will it be ok (I am not wearing pantyhose in Florida if I can
help it)?
Then, what about DH. I'm hearing that he could even show up in
slacks, a dress shirt, and a tie, without a jacket. Is that
true?
There will likely be family pictures taken, so we want to be
dressed appropriately.
Thanks for any advice.
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Re: "Dressy casual" dress code for guests
By: oogyda Date: October 2, 2023, 9:27 am
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I think DH could probably get away with no tie.
I think you will need to be careful of the heels on your shoes.
It sounds like the ground could be a little uneven ir "natural",
so you would want to be aware of that. The dress is lovely.
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Re: "Dressy casual" dress code for guests
By: Aleko Date: October 2, 2023, 11:52 am
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The dress is lovely, but I'm 100% with oogyda in the matter of
footwear. Idyllic rustic venues and dressy sandals (or anything
with heels) just don't go together
You could simply ask the bride to tell you how realistically
agricultural the venue will be underfoot (and that might
actually be helpful to her - she may have been too caught up in
dreams of tulle and orange blossom to consider anything so
tiresomely banal as whether her own lovely white satin stilettos
will sink into the mud) - or simply go for a dashing pair of
cowboy boots or gold trainers. (A good friend of mine got
married a few years ago in an off-the-shoulder floor-length
white gown and white Converse trainers: she looked terrific as
she danced the night away in complete comfort.)
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Re: "Dressy casual" dress code for guests
By: DCGirl Date: October 2, 2023, 1:01 pm
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Thanks! My sandals have a low block heel (not very high) so I'm
not too worried about sinking into the ground, but I was
planning to pack a pair of flats just in case. I haven't worn
heels since before the pandemic started, and I don't think I
could if I wanted to now because I'm so out of practice. A
friend who's lived in Florida told me that I could wear my
flipflops with rhinestones on them, but I think my mother would
come back from the beyond to haunt me if I did that.
Maybe I'll get DH a new shirt in a nice bright color with a tie
to match. He works from home part of the time now, and his
office went to office casual during the pandemic so he wears
polo shirts when he goes in. I'm not sure he has a decent dress
shirt that fits anymore, LOL.
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Re: "Dressy casual" dress code for guests
By: jpcher Date: October 2, 2023, 2:24 pm
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I would be careful of the word "Barn" . . . don't necessarily
think that it's dirt floors and animal pens filled with hay.
DD#1 went to a recent wedding and she was thinking the same
thing. "It's in a Barn!? What do I wear?"
Yes, it was in a barn, looked like one from the outside. But it
was beautifully refurbished in an elegant rustic sort of way.
Wood floors and everything. ;)
You have the name of the venue from the invitation, right? Maybe
look it up on-line just to see exactly what type of barn venue
the bride is talking about.
Yes, I think your dress is lovely and fits the dressy-casual
category. For your DH? Maybe a light-weight sports coat without
a tie? For some reason I think a coat completes the outfit.
Something like this (don't look at price, just showing a fashion
example.)
HTML https://www.macys.com/shop/product/lauren-ralph-lauren-mens-classic-fit-neat-ultraflex-sport-coat?ID=4331551
eta: Oh, and here's another look with a polo shirt (you said he
had plenty of)
HTML https://www.macys.com/shop/product/kenneth-cole-reaction-mens-slim-fit-solid-sport-coats?ID=14709415&tdp=cm_app~zMCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_B~xcm_choiceId~zcidM06MZF-44c3b940-b816-4e96-a8ff-afa78a7834ab%40HB1%40Customers%2Balso%2Bloved%2416499%2414709415~xcm_pos~zPos4~xcm_srcCatID~z16499
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Re: "Dressy casual" dress code for guests
By: DCGirl Date: October 2, 2023, 2:42 pm
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This is definitely a barn that's been turned into a rustic but
upscale wedding venue. The pictures on their website are quite
lovely.
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Re: "Dressy casual" dress code for guests
By: oogyda Date: October 2, 2023, 9:15 pm
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[quote author=jpcher link=topic=2549.msg80150#msg80150
date=1696274642]
I would be careful of the word "Barn" . . . don't necessarily
think that it's dirt floors and animal pens filled with hay.
DD#1 went to a recent wedding and she was thinking the same
thing. "It's in a Barn!? What do I wear?"
Yes, it was in a barn, looked like one from the outside. But it
was beautifully refurbished in an elegant rustic sort of way.
Wood floors and everything. ;)
You have the name of the venue from the invitation, right? Maybe
look it up on-line just to see exactly what type of barn venue
the bride is talking about.
[/quote]
I would be concerned with getting to and from the building
ascwell.
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Re: "Dressy casual" dress code for guests
By: Rho Date: October 2, 2023, 9:23 pm
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Does DH have a sibling or another cousin to confer with on what
to wear? My daughter was married in a pasture in CO. Our side
wore dresses and suits. Grooms side wore everything from suits
to jeans.
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Re: "Dressy casual" dress code for guests
By: TootsNYC Date: October 3, 2023, 9:48 am
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especially given pictures, I'd rather be a tiny bit overdressed
than underdressed. I also think it's far easier to make a dressy
look appear more casual (especially for men, who can take off a
tie or jacket).
I think your dress is fine, and whatever shoes you like will be
OK.
I'd want my husband to wear slacks, a dress shirt, a tie, and
some sort of jacket. Maybe he can leave off the tie if he has
the jacket (I don't think it's appropriate to wear a tie without
a jacket--you can take the jacket off, but it needs to be around
somewhere).
But my husband might wear dress slacks and his best black
turtleneck. And that would probably be OK as well.
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Re: "Dressy casual" dress code for guests
By: Hmmm Date: October 4, 2023, 12:24 pm
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I think your dress is great.
For your husband, I'd recommend dark slacks and a button down
shirt and a sports coat. Or if he doesn't have a sports coat,
then a button down and a tie.
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