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#Post#: 79746--------------------------------------------------
Jeckyll and Hyde boss?
By: jazzgirl205 Date: July 26, 2023, 9:47 pm
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A coworker and I used to work together. She got a fulltime job
elsewhere but still works for the same company as I do on a day
that I'm off. We're friends and still see each other socially.
She complains to me that our boss never gives out compliments
and uses the worst profanity. She says it assuming I have to
put up with this behavior as well. That is not my experience
with this boss. When we work together, he is very professional
and never uses profanity. He compliments my work and has helped
me on projects off the clock. I would consider him a very good
boss and her description has me perplexed. He, on the other
hand, has hinted that she is a bit argumentative. If he treats
her badly, he does not do it when I am around. I don't carry
tales nor have I told my friend that I am treated differently.
I behave as if I know nothing.
I'm wondering if he is trying to get her to quit. She got the
other job because he would not give her all the hours she
wanted. After she got the other job, he asked me to work more
hours. My course of action is to do absolutely nothing because
I really don't want to be caught in the middle of a situation.
Should I prepare myself for anything?
#Post#: 79749--------------------------------------------------
Re: Jeckyll and Hyde boss?
By: Aleko Date: July 27, 2023, 3:09 am
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In your place I’d keep a metaphorical flak jacket and helmet at
the office, and say as little as possible to anybody about
either of them.
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Re: Jeckyll and Hyde boss?
By: DaDancingPsych Date: July 27, 2023, 7:15 am
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I agree. Stay out of it. We don't know which one is truly the
problem (nor do we need to know). And the reality of the
situation is that they just might be two personalities that
don't mix well. Or maybe one incident set off this reaction
where they don't play well together. Either way, it is not your
mystery to solve.
I would avoid conversations about the other person. I realize
that this will not always be possible, but if the conversation
is really not necessary professionally, then I would sweep in
with the bean dip. If one of them wants to talk negatively about
the other, I certainly wouldn't reinforce those thoughts, but I
also wouldn't try to counter with "but they are always good to
me." I would think of their words as their experience and let it
be... and get the heck out of that conversation as soon as
possible. There are probably some great Brimstone phrases that
could be great preparation.
I think the main thing to be prepared for is that their
relationship is likely to get worse and not better. (Certainly
anything is possible, but I wouldn't count on it.) Have your
boundaries set and don't allow yourself to be pulled in on
either side.
Not a fun situation.
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Re: Jeckyll and Hyde boss?
By: jazzgirl205 Date: August 8, 2023, 7:49 pm
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Well, my coworker friend quit. There was no argument and
everyone wished everyone else well.
#Post#: 79894--------------------------------------------------
Re: Jeckyll and Hyde boss?
By: Star Wars Fan Date: August 21, 2023, 8:20 pm
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Jazzgirl205, do you think your friend could've been lying about
your boss's behavior? I'm just curious. I have no idea why she'd
do that (if she was) but people have been known to do some dumb
stuff like that sometimes.
Ed.
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Re: Jeckyll and Hyde boss?
By: jazzgirl205 Date: September 5, 2023, 6:47 pm
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[quote author=Star Wars Fan link=topic=2527.msg79894#msg79894
date=1692667233]
Jazzgirl205, do you think your friend could've been lying about
your boss's behavior? I'm just curious. I have no idea why she'd
do that (if she was) but people have been known to do some dumb
stuff like that sometimes.
Ed.
[/quote]
I don't know. He's never been rude to me. But when she dropped
by work to pick up something, he busied himself with something
so he would not have to talk to her.
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