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       #Post#: 79318--------------------------------------------------
       Making cell calls when service is sketchy
       By: NFPwife Date: May 16, 2023, 11:05 pm
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       Here's my question - is it rude to start a conversational phone
       call when you're heading into an area with known spotty cell
       service?
       Here's the extra info - we live in a rural area with varying
       levels of service. Each provider has their pros and cons and
       there's one area where none of the major providers work (because
       the two families who own a massive amount of land there will not
       allow cell towers.)
       Someone I'm working on a project with is calling while she's
       driving between two places. The calls start off with an update
       and there's, usually, enough time to catch all of that, then she
       continues to chat while she's driving. I don't pick up the phone
       if I don't have time to chat and I wouldn't mind keeping her
       company while she drives. Except... she drives through a couple
       problematic areas and it starts with being able to make out
       every fifth word and then I can't hear her for 10-15 seconds at
       a time. Sometimes the call completely drops. Other times, I've
       stayed on and she eventually drives into good service. I've done
       the whole "The last thing I heard was..." but I'm over it. When
       service gets spotty, I say, "Oh you're hitting a dead zone, I'll
       talk to you later" and hang up.
       My husband was surprised yesterday when I hung up as soon as it
       started and I shared my perspective that it's frustrating to try
       to power through and I think it's rude to initiate a
       conversational call when you know service won't support it. An
       urgent or emergent call is a different story.
       What do you all think? How do you handle calls where service is
       poor? (Both as caller and receiver.)
       Edit - spelling
       #Post#: 79320--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Making cell calls when service is sketchy
       By: sandisadie Date: May 17, 2023, 2:30 pm
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       When I'm talking to someone and they are cutting in and out,
       after a little of this I just tell them that the call continues
       to break up and they can call me later and then I just hang up.
       I don't consider this action rude.  Stuff happens when you are
       talking on a cell phone that doesn't happen on a land line.  I
       think everyone deals with it, for the most part.  The think that
       bothers me the most on a cell call is when I am talking and then
       realize that the call has dropped.  Or - have I been hung up on
       instead? (Chuckle)
       #Post#: 79322--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Making cell calls when service is sketchy
       By: TootsNYC Date: May 17, 2023, 4:13 pm
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       I don't think it's particularly rude to call when the service is
       spotty. Inefficient and thoughtless, but not necessarily rude.
       But hanging up when the connection starts to fizzle is perfectly
       polite.
       #Post#: 79324--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Making cell calls when service is sketchy
       By: QueenFaninCA Date: May 17, 2023, 4:53 pm
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       On my drive to work I have a stretch with spotty signal. I try
       my best not to be on the phone when I am getting there. If I am
       on a chatty call, I'll suggest to end the call when entering
       that area. If it is a needed conversation I will propose to call
       back in ten minutes when I am back with better reception. Having
       to repeat everything multiple times sucks way too much.
       I understand why you don't want to inflict this on yourself
       repeatedly. It's one thing if it's a one-off thing or because
       someone isn't aware they are entering an area with bad
       reception. But a repeat offender?
       #Post#: 79325--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Making cell calls when service is sketchy
       By: TootsNYC Date: May 17, 2023, 4:58 pm
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       I'm not sure why one wouldn't say, "Hey, often when we're
       chatting,  I lose you in X area. Let's hang up when you get
       there, so we can skip the frustrating part of not being able to
       hear one another."
       #Post#: 79326--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Making cell calls when service is sketchy
       By: oogyda Date: May 17, 2023, 6:22 pm
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       YDD frequently calls on her way to or from work.  There is small
       area where she will lose signal and she warns me when she's
       coming up on it.  It's really only a matter of less than a
       minute (now I want to time it) and our calls are not business
       related...just chatting.
       I don't mind that, but it is frustrating when I'm trying to
       catch up on MIL's current condition or warpath while on the
       phone with SisIL.  I know she is on her way home and won't be
       able to call back for a couple of hours.
       #Post#: 79331--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Making cell calls when service is sketchy
       By: Starry Diadem Date: May 17, 2023, 11:24 pm
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       [quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=2500.msg79325#msg79325
       date=1684360718]
       I'm not sure why one wouldn't say, "Hey, often when we're
       chatting,  I lose you in X area. Let's hang up when you get
       there, so we can skip the frustrating part of not being able to
       hear one another."
       [/quote]
       This. Or the caller having the initiative to say “i know
       reception gets spotty in x area. I’ll cut the call if (when)
       that happens and call you again once it’s clear.”
       #Post#: 79334--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Making cell calls when service is sketchy
       By: Hmmm Date: May 18, 2023, 8:46 am
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       If I am driving or walking into an area where I know cell
       service will be spotty, I alert the person I'm speaking to. I
       either offer to call back when I think I'll be in a better spot
       or I ask if they want to hang on for 2 minutes.
       I personally would much rather go 2 minutes of silence than do
       the "hey your breaking up, what did you say", "sorry, I didn't
       get that", "maybe you can call back when you get in a better
       spot" dance for 1 minute.
       I think you are perfectly fine immediately saying it sounds like
       you are breaking up and ending the call. My company had 2
       offices within a 20 min drive and there was a dead spot that
       would like about 3 minutes. I often had coworkers call when they
       were driving between the offices and I had no problem with
       saying it sounded like they were hitting the dead zone and
       telling them to call me back later.
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