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Miss Manners and the Univited Guest
By: Hmmm Date: May 22, 2018, 4:01 pm
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I read today's topic and all I could think was.... has the
writer never read Miss Manners? (or eHell for that matter)
HTML https://www.uexpress.com/miss-manners/2018/5/22/being-pressured-to-invite-the-uninvited
As I was reading the letter, I immediately came up with my
response before reading Miss Manners recommendation.
Here's mine, post yours in a reply.
"Of course we'd love to see Hermione and meet her fiancé.
Unfortunately, this dinner party is probably not the best time.
But how about dinner at your house in a few weeks."
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Re: Miss Manners and the Univited Guest
By: Pattycake Date: May 22, 2018, 4:35 pm
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I would leave out the word "probably" because that may leave
them room for argument! But I think it would be better to flat
out say No, I am sorry - we have limited seating and the guest
list is already confirmed, but we'd love to get together with
you all at a later date.
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Re: Miss Manners and the Univited Guest
By: Bada Date: May 22, 2018, 10:19 pm
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I'm so sorry for the misunderstanding! It won't be possible to
have Hermione and Pip at this dinner. If that means you're not
able to attend either, I understand. We can make plans for all
of us to get together another time, though. And I can invite
Adult Daughter to join us, since she won't be at Party either.
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Re: Miss Manners and the Univited Guest
By: Miki Date: May 23, 2018, 10:21 am
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For some reason, so many people lately seem to think direct =
rude. My first reaction is why would the LW have trouble
telling a close friend this won't happen? I get told I'm pretty
direct, so that might be part of it, but I'd just tell them it's
a plated, catered dinner and there's no room. I wouldn't try to
suggest a substitute get-together, either. If it's a super
close friend, I'd ask them if they had taken leave of their
senses (humorously, of course).
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Re: Miss Manners and the Univited Guest
By: Ida Date: May 26, 2018, 11:17 am
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=250.msg3155#msg3155
date=1527022901]
Here's mine, post yours in a reply.
"Of course we'd love to see Hermione and meet her fiancé.
Unfortunately, this dinner party is probably not the best time.
But how about dinner at your house in a few weeks."
[/quote]
I'll admit I like the subtle snark in your suggestion there.
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