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Re: Splitting the bill at a restaurant
By: TootsNYC Date: April 11, 2023, 10:22 am
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[quote author=Aleko link=topic=2477.msg78958#msg78958
date=1679063900]
]... - incredibly - 'at the end of a stay at someone's house,
offer payment'! (If anyone offered to pay me for a stay in my
house, I don't think they'd ever darken my door again.)
[/quote]
I find the "let me pay you" thing to be incredibly insulting to
me. If I stop to help someone by the roadside, it's out of love
for the world (agape) and a desire to give back/make the world
better.
But it's interesting how there are now people who would be
insulted to NOT be offered money after they've helped.
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Re: Splitting the bill at a restaurant
By: jpcher Date: April 11, 2023, 3:59 pm
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I don't find people asking me if they could pay for a stay
insulting at all. I
think they are being generous and thoughtful.
However, if they keep insisting (again and again) after I say
"Oh, thank you, but no. It's absolutely not necessary" then I
find that rather irritating.
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Re: Splitting the bill at a restaurant
By: Bada Date: April 11, 2023, 4:06 pm
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Here's another factor to consider: How often will this situation
be repeated?
We went out of town recently and met up with lots of family for
dinner. We were discussing how to split the bill at the end. I
suggested splitting it in half. My dad suggested trying to break
it up by seat and the waitress said that would be much harder
for her (not in a rude way IMHO). Between the two groups (my
dad's family v. my uncle's family) the only real difference was
they had two more kids meals and maybe one alcoholic beverage.
And then we'd still have to split grandma's meal or one group
would have to take that on entirely. For $30 at a once in a
decade get together, it didn't seem worth the hassle at all, and
I was planning on paying anyway, so I just declared we were
splitting it in half and we did that.
Because fortunately where I'm at in life right now an extra $30
on an occasional meal makes no difference. But for my dad it
probably did matter, which is both why he spoke up and why I
didn't let him pay. (I do remember being sick to my stomach on
several occasions when I had to split a bill evenly and I did
not have any extra money for such things, but was too
young/embarrassed to speak up.)
Interestingly, when the bill came it was a full list of
everything with a 1/2 in front of each item. We commented that
we'd never seen that before!
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Re: Splitting the bill at a restaurant
By: mime Date: April 11, 2023, 10:58 pm
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We've read enough stories around here (and the prior site) with
split bills where someone always manages to take advantage. They
order extra drinks, lobster, and dessert, knowing that everyone
else will subsidize them with an evenly split bill.
I even had a story on the old site where my DH was on the hook
for $75 for a half-order of spaghetti and a glass of water
because his extended family ordered allllll the extras. That was
many years ago and I wasn't even there, but it left a lasting
impression. Now when we're all out together and I order, I
always tell the server that my family should be on a separate
bill. Everyone else can do as they please. I have one in-law who
really doesn't like that. I wonder why...
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Re: Splitting the bill at a restaurant
By: Mrs Rat Date: April 12, 2023, 4:37 am
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When I lived in the States in the 90's there were a group of us
from 5 different countries who would spend the weekends
together, we went out to eat a lot and always had cash. We
always worked out our own meals/drinks and put in what we
ate/drank plus we each tipped on our own totals. I still have
the tip card lol - it was just how we did it, we never even
thought of getting the server to figure it out for us. To be
honest I don't see it as their job to figure it out, they have
enough to do.
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