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Newspaper details of tragic death of a family
By: sandisadie Date: October 30, 2022, 11:16 am
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A few days ago a family of 8 - 6 children ages 13 to 1 and their
parents were found dead in their home in a community a few
blocks from mine. This tragic event has been found to be
murder/suicide. In today's paper is an interview with the
parents of the father of this family in which they go into great
detail describing the dire circumstances of this family from the
beginning of their marriage up to the present. The interview
takes up what amounts to a full page in the paper. In my
opinion the story contains details that no one outside of the
family needs to hear about. It is apparent that the adults made
many, many bad decisions throughout their life. They also
received much help from many people and organizations, including
these grandparents.
The more I think about what I read this morning, the more I've
come to the conclusion that the paper made a bad decision to
publish this interview in all it's ugly detail. In total this
interview portrays the deceased family in a very bad light. I'm
not sure why the newspaper thought airing so much detail about
this family's life is the right thing to do. Perhaps I'm wrong
to think this way, but I know that I wouldn't want a lot of my
dirty linen (as it were) to be published in a newspaper article
a few days after my death.
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Re: Newspaper details of tragic death of a family
By: oogyda Date: October 30, 2022, 11:45 am
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I think you should write a letter to the newspaper explaining
how you feel. They probably have online options and/or social
media accounts you could post to.
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Re: Newspaper details of tragic death of a family
By: pierrotlunaire0 Date: October 30, 2022, 5:28 pm
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Sounds like the editor didn't really [b]edit[b].
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Re: Newspaper details of tragic death of a family
By: Aleko Date: October 31, 2022, 2:17 am
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It’s also highly likely that the grandparents were in such a
shattered emotional state that they just poured out the whole
story to the nice sympathetic journalist, and are aghast to read
everything they said set out in cold print for the world to
read. It’s truly wicked to take advantage of people who are
obviously too devastated to consider that all they’re doing is
providing you with sensational material.
Decades ago there was a particularly nasty case of air flight
terrorism: a bomb was found in a suitcase being loaded on to a
flight from an Arab country - Tunisia, I think - to London. The
bag turned out to belong to a young British woman who had been
staying there for some months, fallen in love with a local, who
unbeknown to her was a members of an anti-Israel organisation,
and got pregnant. They got engaged, and when she had to fly back
to Britain for a while her fiancé took her to the airport,
having slipped into her luggage a device intended to blow the
plane, her, and their unborn child to kingdom come. When this
story broke, the BBC screened an interview with her, held while
she was actually under sedation for the shock and distress. It
was utterly disgusting because of course there was nothing she
could say about the crime, the motivations for it, or anything
else of genuine public interest; she could only tell how she’d
been seduced and duped by a man who was perfectly happy to kill
her. It was pure voyeurism, and just like sandisadie I felt
besmirched for having seen it.
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Re: Newspaper details of tragic death of a family
By: Hmmm Date: October 31, 2022, 8:39 am
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I read one article with the grandparents interviewed. The one I
read didn't mention help from outside organizations (other than
SNAP and housing benefits) but just focused on what it seemed
the parents wanted to share. The only thing that was pretty
personal was the head injury and the impact it had on their son.
I can understand parents wanting to tell that story to try and
give some type of explanation. Most of the other information was
public records and again I thought it was the parents trying to
explain the pressure their son may have been under.
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Re: Newspaper details of tragic death of a family
By: LifeOnPluto Date: November 5, 2022, 1:33 am
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Without having read the article in question, I have mixed
feelings. I mean, on one hand, the family is dead, and beyond
caring about what people read about them in the papers. Plus it
seems at least one set of grandparents was perfectly happy to
give the article and share the details.
On the other hand, reporting graphic details of this tragedy
might be disturbing for a lot of readers. I could understand it
if the grandparents (and the newspaper) were urging people to
speak up if they were struggling with mental health, and
reaching out for help if they are struggling with
finances/social circumstances. But it sounds from what the OP
said that this family received a good deal of help. So if the
flavour of the interview was: "They had so much help, and
everyone did absolutely everything they could to support them,
yet this tragedy happened anyway" I can see how that might be
depressing to a lot of readers.
Finally, if the newspaper reported specific details of how this
family passed away, that's just irresponsible, as it might well
trigger other individuals who are struggling with similar family
situations.
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Re: Newspaper details of tragic death of a family
By: sandisadie Date: November 5, 2022, 11:27 am
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OP here. The newspaper didn't publish details on how the family
died except to say that it was determined to be murder/suicide.
I have had mixed feelings reading the in-depth interview with
the father's parents. Apparently they were very close to the
family and babysat the children frequently. The interview did
go into some detail on the finances of the family and health
issues of the adults. I'm just not sure what purpose such an
in-depth interview serves. I thought that less detail could
have told the story just as well. I could be overthinking this
however and welcome other views.
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