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Re: When There Is No Family Unit To Photograph
By: NFPwife Date: August 24, 2022, 12:47 pm
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With your update, I'd consider an individual photo that reflects
your life/ lifestyle. Maybe posed for afternoon tea with one of
your favorite teapots? Or in any other way that speaks to you.
To your mom I'd say that you consider these breakouts as
individual lifestyle photos more than separate family photos.
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Re: When There Is No Family Unit To Photograph
By: LifeOnPluto Date: August 27, 2022, 12:18 am
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[quote author=PVZFan link=topic=2390.msg76898#msg76898
date=1661363243]
With your update, I'd consider an individual photo that reflects
your life/ lifestyle. Maybe posed for afternoon tea with one of
your favorite teapots? Or in any other way that speaks to you.
To your mom I'd say that you consider these breakouts as
individual lifestyle photos more than separate family photos.
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Agree with this. I mean, you are a family unit of one, so I'd
just get a solo photo taken, in a setting and/or surrounded by
things that are emblematic of your day-to-day life.
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Re: When There Is No Family Unit To Photograph
By: mime Date: August 28, 2022, 8:02 pm
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I'm curious, does your family expect you to order prints of your
own portraits or of you plus kids? I think appeasing them by
posing is weird enough, but there's no way I'd put out money for
that!
The thought of surrounding my single brother with my kids as
props so he wouldn't be left out just sounds horribly awkward
for everyone. I hope they come to realize that their efforts to
make you happy are really just making them happy.
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Re: When There Is No Family Unit To Photograph
By: Gellchom Date: August 29, 2022, 7:10 am
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You know them and you felt the vibe, so I am not going to argue
with your “guilt” (or, earlier, “pity”) read on their motives.
But for what it’s worth, when I read your first post, I was
surprised by that. To me, it just sounded like a super idea. I
was picturing your parents’ wall with a large photo of the whole
group surrounded by smaller frames of the other shots, and how
I-wish-I’d-thought-of-it cute it would be to have that shot, not
that it would look like some fake family unit as a consolation.
Maybe something more like that was what they were thinking, too.
For sure it wouldn’t have occurred to me that they were saying a
photo with your niblings are the best representation of your
lifestyle. (I bet at least some of your siblings and their
spouses would have the same objection, for that matter.) Family
photos aren’t, in my experience, about trying to represent
anyone’s lifestyle anyway.
Anyway, of course you don’t have to do it if it makes you
uncomfortable notwithstanding motive. I like the teapot idea,
too, a lot, if you don’t mind packing one up.
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Re: When There Is No Family Unit To Photograph
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 29, 2022, 9:46 am
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[quote author=pjeans link=topic=2390.msg76940#msg76940
date=1661734967]
I'm curious, does your family expect you to order prints of your
own portraits or of you plus kids? I think appeasing them by
posing is weird enough, but there's no way I'd put out money for
that!
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That's a great question! I am happy to pay for my portion of the
photographer's fees. The good news is that my sister has hired a
photographer that does not charge for prints. He does no prints
at all. He provides the files and the paperwork and you can
print as many as you like from whatever company or home printer.
I'm not the type with tons of personal photos hanging on the
walls, so I am more likely to save the digitals and *maybe*
print one of the whole group. I am assuming that I will be able
to print my own if I like. But I agree, it would be upsetting
for me to have to purchase a photo that I felt that I was being
forced to take.
My mom actually did create a photo collage a few years back. She
purchased a frame with the right number of photo slots. She
asked everyone to provide her a photo of their liking. So, in
the middle is a nice photo of my parents. Then each of my
siblings has one with their spouse. Their groupings of kids have
photos. In my slot, I shared a photo of me on a trip. It was one
of those places where they "force" you into a photograph and
then charge you a huge amount for the picture. I typically goof
off during the picture and don't even look at the prints.
However, this location really was about the views and the photo
turned out amazing. I blew my trip budget purchasing it! ;D
But it really was the perfect addition from me for mom's
display.
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Re: When There Is No Family Unit To Photograph
By: lisastitch Date: September 30, 2022, 3:15 pm
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It sounds as if this will be a group photo shoot, so stick to
your guns, and have a picture taken just of yourself. Whether
or not you get prints of it, your parents will enjoy having
pictures of all the family members.
We did this for my parents' 60th wedding anniversary, with
pictures of them, and each of us kids with our spouses (and
families although I was actually the only one with offspring).
One sibling is single--he wound up taking his picture with a
batch of Mom's friends and goofing off with it. It was right
for him.
DH and I are celebrating our 50th next year. I really want a
professional photographer so we can have pictures taken, of us,
of us with our family, of our DS and his family and our DD. Our
daughter is single, so I want a picture just of her (although it
will probably include her dog).
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Re: When There Is No Family Unit To Photograph
By: DaDancingPsych Date: October 1, 2022, 7:28 am
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In case anyone is interested, this did happen. I suppose that it
was just fine. The nibling photo did come up during the shoot. I
was asked if I wanted one. I just shrugged and said "I'm good"
and continued chatting with people while other photos were being
taken. I'm not sure if it was my answer or something else, but
my mom had talked with the photographer beyond my earshot,
because he approached me with a weird energy saying that he
needed to take a photo of me solo. I shrugged and said "Whatever
is needed". He said that he needed to enhance his high school
senior photo portfolio and I said "Great, let's do it!" (He was
obviously joking as a 40 year old woman I can not going to
convince teens to be photographed by him.) So we did a classic
senior photo pose (a little cheesy, but I think the situation
needed it) and moved on. If my mom really wants this fake photo
of me on the wall, have at it! I did my part. Either way, the
session is over and we can move on with our Brimstone lives! ;D
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Re: When There Is No Family Unit To Photograph
By: NFPwife Date: October 1, 2022, 10:45 am
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Thanks for the update. You were so good-natured about this, I
love how you casually and playfully handled it.
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