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Re: Is "No Bad Days" good signage for a school?
By: jpcher Date: August 16, 2022, 2:07 pm
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[quote author=Mary Sunshine Rain
link=topic=2389.msg76809#msg76809 date=1660596973]
Life is hard and no amount of slogans or posters is going to
change that either way. I think you all are making way too much
of a glimpse of something you saw in a newspaper.
[/quote]
I find it to be an interesting discussion! ;D
P.s. Your opinion matters. Thanks for adding to the discussion!
;D
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Re: Is "No Bad Days" good signage for a school?
By: Contrarian Date: August 16, 2022, 2:27 pm
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When my husband was in palliative care at the end of his term
with ALS, there was a giant sign in the place that said
something like “We never had a bad day since the diagnosis of
ALS”.
It may have said “sad days” but it made me a little sick and
angry because it was clearly completely ignoring normal human
reactions.
And of course, you don’t need an illness, a loss or a
chronically abusive boss, the have a bad day.
I was so emotional and self evolved when I was 12 or 13. Just a
hormonal mess. I think the sign would either be laughed at, or
make an already struggling kid sadder. The thing about teenage
angst is many of us blame ourselves for it. “What’s wrong with
me? Why can’t I have fun and be happy like other kids I see?”
I’m so pathetic” sort of thing.
They probably shouldn’t cover the walls with goths, but I don’t
know, it sounds like something a child in grade 8 would be
insulted by.
I think I read upthread someone said “don’t take it too
seriously” but it’s aimed at an age group that tends to take
things quite seriously.
My husband has been gone for a couple of years now and I still
think about the ridiculousness of that sign. I don’t get angry
about it I just think “who do they think they’re fooling?”
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Re: Is "No Bad Days" good signage for a school?
By: TootsNYC Date: August 16, 2022, 3:00 pm
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[quote author=oogyda link=topic=2389.msg76815#msg76815
date=1660646271]
The slogan could easily be interpreted to mean one is not
allowed to have a bad day. Given that, some of the most
vulnerable would feel like they couldn't seek help or guidance
they might have.
I think it misses the mark.
[/quote]
This is the thought I had.
I'd rather hear "Bad days don't have to last"
I remember reading of a teacher who had on her bulletin board:
We can do hard things!
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Re: Is "No Bad Days" good signage for a school?
By: Aleko Date: August 17, 2022, 4:07 am
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[quote]I'd rather hear "Bad days don't have to last"
I remember reading of a teacher who had on her bulletin board:
We can do hard things!
[/quote]
I like both of those. But "No bad days" reminds my of my
un-favourite children's hymn, which begins "Glad that I live am
I, That the sky is blue". When we were required to sing that in
Assembly on a dark rainy morning with the prospect of an
arithmetic test in the first lesson, it always put me in a sour
resentful mood.
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Re: Is "No Bad Days" good signage for a school?
By: NFPwife Date: August 17, 2022, 5:26 pm
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I had a strong (negative) reaction to the "No bad days" sign and
thought I'd wait a few days to see if I felt differently before
posting.
And.... I still hate it. It's invalidating and diminishing of
one's true experience/ perception to the point of being
gaslighting. Like another poster, if I were a child at this
school I wouldn't reach out to the adults if I were having a bad
day because the sign would say to me that I wouldn't be taken
seriously.
My teacher friends are sitting through active shooter drills for
their back to school in-services this week. Students and
teachers have bad days and they can have life-shattering,
horrible days; this sign is preposterous. (No sign and a big
blank spot would be better.)
There are several good ideas in this thread, I'll add "Better
together" and "Building a better tomorrow."
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Re: Is "No Bad Days" good signage for a school?
By: peony Date: August 20, 2022, 1:19 pm
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As a child, my reaction to that sign would have been instantly
thinking, "I have bad days, am I doing something wrong?" And
children will see that sign every day, not just a quick one-time
glance. Seeing something every day tends to affect people
unconsciously, no matter how positive and confident they feel
otherwise. That sign is a good idea done horribly wrong.
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Re: Is "No Bad Days" good signage for a school?
By: RubyCat Date: August 20, 2022, 7:41 pm
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Maybe it's because I was in grade school in the '70's but
there's no way a "No Bad Days" sign would have traumatized me.
Maybe I was just oblivious. Maybe I'm a Pollyanna. I think
it's a just a nice, happy thought and in no way invalidating.
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Re: Is "No Bad Days" good signage for a school?
By: Rose Red Date: August 21, 2022, 8:07 am
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I also went to grade school in the 70's and early 80's. I was
the one the class decided to bully throughout each grade; I
was...different. The bullying followed into high school because
they were the same kids. If I saw that sign, I wouldn't take it
personally per say, but it would confirm the school don't care
to acknowledge bullying (or bad home life, poverty, etc.) and
rather put their heads in the sand.
Like I said in my previous post, motivational posters are one
thing. Absolute statements like "No Bad Days" is disheartening.
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Re: Is "No Bad Days" good signage for a school?
By: sms Date: August 21, 2022, 2:19 pm
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[quote author=RubyCat link=topic=2389.msg76867#msg76867
date=1661042477]
Maybe it's because I was in grade school in the '70's but
there's no way a "No Bad Days" sign would have traumatized me.
Maybe I was just oblivious. Maybe I'm a Pollyanna. I think
it's a just a nice, happy thought and in no way invalidating.
[/quote]
I agree, I would have been oblivious or rolled my eyes and
walked on. I don't think it's Pollyanna-ish to not have a bad
reaction to the sign. Yeah, sure, it's not going to turn around
someone's bad day but I can't help think that even the most
innocuous thing could strike the wrong chord with someone,
somewhere.
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